My husband travels alot and he is most of the time out of town. I stay alone with our baby 9months old. when ever he comes back from his trips, he always blame me saying i spoil the baby. the baby only like sertain food not every baby food he eats.
but his dady want him to eat all bby food types.
When ever his is with the baby he make the baby cry on purpose he even vomite from crying coz he crys hard. this pains me alot.
2006-12-28 19:27:05 · 17 answers · asked by Nina 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
He's abusing your child and I don't know why you would let him harm your son like that. You need to tell him to stop and get some sort of counseling for his nasty behavior, or you're out of there. Your baby is only 9 months old, just imagine what he will do to him when he gets older.
2006-12-28 19:35:35 · answer #1 · answered by Suga 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your position, I would be considering leaving! Since your husband is away a lot of the time, the bulk of the child care is left to you. He has no right dictating. At nine months baby shouldn't be too fussy, but they DO turn their noses up at certain foods, especially when you try them on something different. A child of 9months should never have to cry that hard!! Its abuse!! I would certainly be worried, as this could spiral out of control, especially when your baby gets older! If you cannot get through to you husband, I suggest you speak with someone, as you really do need to sort this out now! I wish you well ... and remember you are there to protect your son!!
2006-12-29 05:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by lynne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh I see you also are married to a super dad!!- arn't they great- you're there day in day out doing the same thing and they swan in and tell you were you're going wrong!!
my husband refused to feed our newborn baby- he said if he started doing it then he'd end up doing it all the time and I would end up doing nothing!!- consequently I cannot leave the baby with him now as she is not used to anybody else feeding her and gets all worked up!! and refuses her bottle!
so my advice is- you know what is best for your baby take no notice of him - start cooking foods that he doesn't like and make him eat it!!- he probably won't get the message - but you'll have proved your point
my little girl was a bit picky- just try small amounts of new food at a time - a few spoonfuls then the stuff they like- they will soon develope new tastes- good luck!!
2006-12-30 17:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't understand the grammer for most of your question but you know what I'd do metaphorically kick him in the b...ls hard, his got issues!!! Next time his home make sure the baby is at a friends or family house. Don't say your game (strategy) as he might take some anger out on you, don't want that, 'just thought good to spend time together just you & him' you could say. Dangerous game but hey something has to change. Keep doing this he might get the message or actually realise it is his kid & he doesn't want to have a druggie or criminal as a child thanks to his overreactive actions.
2006-12-29 04:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by A . Z . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be in a very difficult and stressful position. I have to ask why? You may not have a group of friends or family nearby but you absolutely do not have to tolerate this behaviour towards you or your child.
I feel this issue is not about food but about your husband. He appears to be unreasonable and heavy handed. Your husband may feel that he is unable to spend more time at home, and this frustration leads him to act this way.
Ultimately you need to tell your husband how you feel about this behaviour and how you need him to change. If he has no interest in changing his behaviour or seeking guidance you may have to make decisions about your future in this relationship.
Good luck in whatever you do.
2006-12-29 08:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 10 month old, he loves some food, hates others, we all have different tastes!
By making the baby cry on purpose he is abusing your child, and to the point he vomits! this is extreme!
Sounds like he wants to treat the baby badley for some reason, please please sort out his behaviour or leave as soon as possible, just think hoe this poor little baby must feel when his Daddy treats him like this.
As a mother it is your duty to pretect your child, that must be your first priority.
If you need any help feel free to contact me (pipdawson2003@yahoo.co.uk).
Best wishes to you and the babe.
2006-12-29 05:46:47 · answer #6 · answered by pipdawson2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there something your husbnd dosent like..Cook it for him and tell him he has to eat it.
I feel so sick when people do that ...my sister made me eat alot of things and she would sit and feed me and I would just be sick because of the tast of some foods and smalls and now 10 years later I will not touch alot of the food and because of my sister made me eat it i will not try alot of things I just have fear of food.
SO I hope that makes your husband understand dont force the baby to eat.
Hope this helps Cheers
2006-12-29 03:35:51 · answer #7 · answered by Lucy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
he shouldnt judge the way you look after ur baby, my son is also a fussy eater and wont eat all foods u cant force them to eat but keep trying new foods as for ur husband u seems like a right jerk
2006-12-29 03:37:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did your husband get you from the internet? If he did you could do alot better, leave him and find yourself someone who will love you! sent
2006-12-29 03:41:38 · answer #9 · answered by fletch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww you poor t hing, ditch this guy, he doesnt seem to listen to the one person that is taking care of the baby full time. good luck to you
2006-12-29 03:32:41 · answer #10 · answered by smokingstonersweetheart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋