My son is a HS Jr and plays basketball for his school. His coach seems to be way out of touch! I'd like to talk to the coach about my son and how he plays him - but everyone I know says that is not the thing to do - apparently I'd be risking having my son benched for the season! Is this true? What do you do as a parent to look out for your son? He's 6-9 and is a terrific player -should have a future in college basketball...
2006-12-28 18:22:12 · 6 answers · asked by jan2boys 2 in Sports ➔ Basketball
If it was me...I wouldn't say anything...the coach could take it the wrong way and your son could end up on the pine pony for the rest of the season ..and than next year he could be cut at tryouts...seen it happen.....
2006-12-28 18:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by LeftField360 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same spot, only I was the player. Humility aside, I was really good but didn't come from the rich feeder school and therefore my parents weren't fundraisers for our school (one kid who was HORRIBLE played all through varsity because his parents built a sand volleyball court for the school). I'm glad my parents didn't say anything to the coach, but I certainly wish circumstances would've been different because I definitely could've made a college team.
In hindsight, I should've transferred schools because if the coach was dumb enough not to play me, nothing a person said would fix his poor coaching. As a kid in highschool it crushed my self confidence and to this day still makes me hate HS even though I had good friends and a positive academic experience.
It's a real shame that HS athletics are so political. Good luck to you, the best I can suggest is to encourage your kid to try to stand out in practice, or if the varsity coach is more approachable, ask him for tips on getting your kid more playing time (if he's playing JV now), because the varsity coach pulls the strings for all levels of HS ball, plus he'll be looking to next year for having a 6'9 senior on the team. Most importantly, don't let your kid get discouraged. It sucks that some coaches are so lousy, but even if the HS experience doesn't work out the way you wanted, he can always try to play a year at CC or walk on at the academic college of his choice.
2006-12-29 11:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by Berzirk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would speak to an assistant coach (He isn't as powerful as the head coach, but he\she should be able to give you excellent feedback on your child) from the concerned parent view point and ask several questions that would help you determin what is going on with your son, without crossing the line.
1. Ask the coach what type of future does your son have playing basketball? (Would he be capable of getting a scholarship?)
2. Ask the coach what you would need to do to keep your son on track, so that he doesn't blow any opportunities?
I also advise that you talk to your son and see what is going on with him and the team. If your son is happy and he is getting opportunities, then you probably shouldn't say anything. If the son is fustrated and isn't getting an opportunity, then you should probably talk to the assistant coach.
Good luck
2006-12-29 10:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by mcfatkid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong about asking a coach about your sons career. My sugestion is that you ask the coach what does he think your son should do to improve as a player. Listen to what the coach has to say for a second and give the guy a chance. Maybe you should ask if you can see a practice or two see how well your son prepares. Dont beg him for more minutes for your son or try to tell him how he should coach. If the coach benches your son i suggest you find another avenue for him to play or talk to the coaches boss.
2006-12-29 02:42:59 · answer #4 · answered by jawbertsc 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just because your son is tall, doesn't mean he's as good as you think he is. He probably has a lot of developing to do. Do not approach the coach yourself, tell your son to ask the coach what he needs to do to start, or get more playing time. Maybe he's lazy in practice? Maybe he's not agressive enough? Just be sure that your son wants this and not just you. My dad never pushed me or my coaches and I was able to learn to be a natural leader and talk to the coaches on my own about what I needed to do.
2006-12-29 04:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try approaching the coach with some friendly talk to break the ice, then ask the coach about your son and his skill....
Ask the coach what your boy needs to improve on and what his weak points are...then try to work them out with your boy at home practise.
If the coach still acts this way after you see some improvement...approach him and discuss the matter further..
GOOD LUCK WITH B BALL
2006-12-29 04:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by GamersDelight 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋