My hubby and I decided that I would stay-at-home with our son until he at least started school. This meant we had to make some sacrifices. We simplified.....only had 1 car payment (he had a truck that was paid for), and everything worked out fine. He went out and purchased another vehicle that's 4 yrs old already....paying 400 a month for it.....and with an outrageous interest rate. He didn't even consult me. Now I have to work full time just so we can make ends meet because of all his spending. Plus we will have to pay for childcare. He thinks its no big deal - I'm furious!! We should have made this decision together! He thinks I shouldn't be upset about this....what do you think?
2006-12-28 18:14:59 · 19 answers · asked by caramelqueen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh hell no girl! he wants to be THE MAN! make the decisions, then let him! He's got to learn to support his family! what is wrong with people these days???. He's not your pimp! if he didn't have the means to pay for the dam vehicle then WHY DID HE BUY IT? He needs to learn how to support his family and raise his kids teach them RESPONSIBILITY! He needs to re-think his priorities.
2006-12-28 18:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHen did he buy the car? If it was today, you have three days to reconsider a contract. Take it back first thing in the morning. Then you need to have a serious talk about what he was thinking when he did that. Ask him what he wants, what he envisions for his child, and if that fits with how he's behaving.
Look at the budget together so you know for sure he is on the same page and understands where the money goes and why another purchase would make you go back to work. Good luck.
2006-12-29 02:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset. basically you are working forty hours a week to pay for daycare so you can make his car payment. That is a waste of precious time that you could have spent with your kid. Unfortunately getting mad will not fix the problem.. have you explained why you are mad, and why you think this was a bad decision. and how when it come to making big financial decisions it should be a joint thing? Hopefully if you sit down and talk you will make him see your point and maybe come to a compromise or solution
good luck
2006-12-29 02:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by jelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY WRONG.You guys have a baby together and a future...you're supposed to do things 50/50.CONSULTING with one another is a BIG thing as you already know.He should have talked to you and made plans.He went wrong by doing things by himself because not its not effecting him its affecting YOU! You're paying for his mistake.You have every right to be angry.I Suggest sitting down and having a long conversation with him puttin him in your shoes for a change. He damn sure wouldnt like it if the tables were turned now would he? Good luck and Happy New Years Sweety!
2006-12-29 02:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Loving My Babyboy ;) ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your man is a dumbass, who could care less about how you feel, and has no respect for the decision you two made together about you staying at home. I say make his *** get a second job to pay for the new vehicle. Stand your ground, or this is how he will always solve his own problems.
2006-12-29 02:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a right to be funrious. He should be considering you a partner, not someone who does what is convenient for him. I believe this is a sign of a much deeper issue in your relationship that will only continue to get worse. I suggest seeking marriage consuling to come to a compromise and maybe taking a finance course together as well to get on the same page.
2006-12-29 02:20:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you made no money when he bought it then don't be mad if he bought something with his money without asking your permission... BUT on the other side if he cant pay for it that's his problem not yours.It is no big deal to him your bailing him out quit your job and let that truck go back! sometimes the most complicated thin g can be so simple to cure
2006-12-29 02:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay at home with the child and let him worry about how to make the payments if he didn't consult me...and if he complained about money.....i would get a separation and make him support me and the child...he is being single in a marrage and that doesn't work.
Just my thoughts on it. been there and i wish i had done that.
2006-12-29 02:40:11 · answer #8 · answered by Veevee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right he should have consulted you to tell you the truth i dont think he values your opinon or sacrafices he thinks just becauses your making money you gonna hold him down you have to get in face a lot stronger and make him realize what he is doing is totally wrong hope everything works out
2006-12-29 02:20:26 · answer #9 · answered by nelson s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset. Make him take it back, or sell it. Let him clean up his own mess. The two of you had a deal. He broke it. It's his problem, not yours.
2006-12-29 02:20:29 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋