Well,,,,i'm not exactly what u would call "the most popular girl in school"....but i have friends so i'm happy.....a have a best friend who has made a couple....ok, more than a couple enemies.....and once my she told me that she heard someone say....the only reason people don't like her (my best friend) is because she hangs out with me....so she said "i can't really hang out with you anymore...."
i was devistated,,,sooo sad,,,,i couldn't believe that she rather be popular than to be my friend....she was supposed to be my best friend....... i told my other friend exactly what happened....that friend blabbed the story all around the school.
the next day my best friend said sorry...and that she wants to be my best friend again....i forgave her and we are friends now but sometimes i wonder if i can really trust her? how will i know if her friendship is for real or if she just became my friend because she didn't want the school to think shes a jerk?
2006-12-28 18:09:25 · 17 answers · asked by cHoCoLaHoLiC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would tread carefully. It sounds as if she will do anything to gain acceptance from her peers, that is really sad. But common in adolescence. Just be careful and time will tell how she really feels.
2006-12-28 18:15:53 · answer #1 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.... Hunny "i can't really hang out with you anymore...." Is Just A Lame Way Of Saying I Don't Want To Be Friend's With You! She Made It All Up........ Don't Worry You'll Make Better Friend's! Just Worry About Your Grades And School! Friend's Come And Go But Grades With Stay With You For The Rest Of You Life! So Hunny Just Don't Worry About Her! She Should Have Felt Lucky To Have You As A Friend! It's Her Loss! She Is Just Pretending To Be Your Friend So People Don't Look Down On Her ( WHICH THEY SHOULD LOOK DOWN ON HER ) Someone That Want's To Be Your Friend Of Out Petty Isnt Really A Friend At All! A Real Friend Is Someone That Will Stand By You Until The End! Not Someone That Will Turn There Back On You........ Just Remember That O.K. Babe ?
2006-12-29 02:17:40 · answer #2 · answered by † Dark Prince † 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut. If you question if she will do it again, then she probably will. Your friend is a social climber and social climbers will do anything and whatever it takes to get to that social status that they desire, even if it means hurting their current friends in the process and befriending people that they know aren't really their 'true' friends. You can stay her friend but i'd keep her at a safe distance and i would definitely drop the title of her being your best friend because she obviously isn't. She may be your best friend but you are NOT hers. Forget her. That comment about her having more friends if she wasn't your friend is crap. People probably don't like her for her desperate and flaky personality which she exhibited to you when she temporarily dropped you as a friend. Do what feels right for you and don't worry about what others think but personally, I wouldn't talk to her that much. I wouldn't completely cut her off because she may have sincerely been sorry but she would drop down a couple of notches on my "important friends" roster.
2006-12-29 02:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by ALeoStar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off YOU CANT TRUST ANYBODY IN THIS WORLD.Always remember that.I mean dont be afraid to trust somebody, but not to the full extent where you put your life in thier hands! Now, if she was your 'best friend' like you said, she wouldnt have said that about you. I think if you want you should keep her as your FRIEND not best friend.Sounds to me that the kind of friends you have are the ones that will backstab you.SAME WITH ME! Thats why I dont tell anybody my problems.If I do its somebody in my family or a friend that dosent go to my school.Watch out and choose your friends wisely.Good Luck and Happy New Years Sweety.
2006-12-29 02:20:52 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Loving My Babyboy ;) ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok this is obviously elementary stuff - too pathetic for even highschool - elementary - you will find that nothing matters that happened in school and you might as well be her friend but i wouldn't trust her w any secrets. older than middle school and sweetheart your "friend" is a big flake - 2 choices - drop her immediately write her off and never speak to her again - or play nice and keepa friendly and safe distance just so she doesn't take you as a threat and try to start a war
2006-12-29 02:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
These kinds of social flubs come often in life, even more so at your age. Don't take it too personally and do not take too much umbrage against your "friend" as she probably was never in that kind of situation before.
If she came clean, and everyone knows it, she deserves a second chance.....IMHO.
2006-12-29 02:18:21 · answer #6 · answered by boredperv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in my experience i wouldn't be able to trust her as far as i could throw her, if she back stabbed u once she is always capable to do it again in a heart beat, sure ppl always deserve a second chance and this is her's so just go slow with the friendship and don't let your guard down all the way, trust is earned not given so let her earn her way.
2007-01-01 21:21:36 · answer #7 · answered by jane_queen_of_jungle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her telling you what she did made her a jerk! If she was truely a friend she never would have told you that. Not saying don't be friend with her, but be mindful of your feelings, she may pull the same stunt again later on.
2006-12-29 02:15:59 · answer #8 · answered by S Denise J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give her the benefit of the doubt maybe she was just confused and now knows best friends stick to the end
2006-12-29 02:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by pink_lousiana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she gat you dangling in a stick. Step backwards before you get hurt. Make her to want you rather than you wanting her and she will soon learn how to behave herself!
2006-12-29 02:18:13 · answer #10 · answered by ab3c2t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋