Like do you stare at the person's right eye when you talk to them, or to their left eye? (Line up right eye to right eye or the other).
Does any of you alternate continuously at the right then left then right and so forth very fast? I've noticed in movies when the girl is in love her pupils dart quickly to the right and left. (For example in Spiderman 2, MJ's eyes do that).
Or does anyone just avoid eye contact? Thats what I do and I want to stop this habit. But eye contact makes me very uncomfortable.
2006-12-28 18:06:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
and actualy when you are close up with someone you can't stare at both of their eyes at the same time, you may think you do.
2006-12-28 18:12:59 · update #1
i'm not worried about what eye to look at, I dont really care, I just was curious at what other ppl do.
2006-12-28 18:17:45 · update #2
Eye contact is a cultural taboo, but it is also instinctively programmed. Infants have displayed "flirting behavior" which is making eye contact, looking down quickly, and then glancing back into the eyes almost timidly, usually with a smile. This is displayed in every culture. Anyway, I work with a guy with the most pretty eyes, so I look at them a little longer than I should, and I usually favor his right eye, but lately I've been checking out the left. I have a crush. With other people, family and co-workers with whom I am comfortable with, or professional with, I will made steady eye contact for a few seconds, look at something else, or look up when in thought if i have been asked a question, for example, then I will look back for another few seconds. This is respectful. Then, there is the uncomfortable, accidental eye contact with strangers, I look away fast. This is when eye contact as a cultural taboo comes into play. Stare to long at a stranger and (s)he is likely to feel threatened, unless you smile, then it is an invitation to speak or break the ice. Finally, if there is someone that I don't like, I either glare at him, which is passive-aggressive (like staring at a stranger without smiling), or I just plain refuse to make eye contact, which is just plain passive.
2006-12-28 19:08:25 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you stop thinking about using eye contact, you will just do it naturally. Stop voluntarily controlling an involuntary behavior. This I realize is hard to do once you are aware of being able to voluntarily control it...
If you can't stop thinking about it, you should make eye contact for a few seconds then glance at their ear or hair and then back to their eyes. Look at different parts of their face and then go back to the eyes for a few seconds. You can only look at one person's eye at a time (practice with a friend to try and look at both and you will find its impossible) and it doesn't matter which eye you look at. You can also switch to the other eye if you would like.
I think the darting you see in the movies is what the actors do to catch the audience's attention. I'm not sure that everyone does that with people they love...
If you constantly avoid eye contact, it could send the person the wrong signal though and they might think that you dislike their company or that you are bored.
I would just try to go back to what is natural for me and not to worry about perfect eye contact though!
2006-12-28 18:15:12 · answer #2 · answered by Elysia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two eyes focus together but one is always focusing with the other. If they worked separately you would be an alien. Just look at them naturally as if you were talking to your parents your siblings your best friend etc., act naturally. It is hard when you are insecure, but you have to toughen up they are not going to bite you are they? Then dont talk to them that will solve that. but try looking in the mirror and practice like a good acting coach will tell you. Focus on your own eyes as if you were talking to another person and in your mind pretend that you are that other person and say directly in their eyeballs what it is you wish to say and practice will make perfect. Ta Da, Happy New Year.
2006-12-28 18:21:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its kind of strange... I tend to concentrate my sight on the speaker's right eye (i.e. the one facing my left), while still looking at both.
My eyes would seem quite static and don't really jump around much from eye to eye....
If eye contact exceeds about 10-20 seconds, i'll look elsewhere for a second and then look back again...
I've never really sat down and analyzed it, but that's the way i tend to do it...
2006-12-28 18:18:19 · answer #4 · answered by number9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eye contact is always best.
2016-03-28 23:19:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I look back and forth until I determine which eye they're looking out of, because one eye is usually dominant. You can tell because the non-dominant eye is usually a little bit off. Then I focus on their dominant eye... I feel that people feel a little more connected to me when I do that, and vice versa.
2006-12-28 20:13:57 · answer #6 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try looking at the bridge of their nose. That way you aren't unsettled by the thought of looking them directly in the eyes, yet the other person perceives you to be looking them in the eyes.
2006-12-28 18:15:32 · answer #7 · answered by laprincesse83301 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other than being common in shy people, limited or unusual eye contact is common in people with autistic spectrum conditions.
2006-12-29 16:06:45 · answer #8 · answered by Néant Humain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Together in both the eyes!
2006-12-28 18:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by SKA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not great at hearing so i generally watch a person talk ever when i can hear them fine i use that excuse but it bothers me too to have someone look at me i feel like ill give to much away
2006-12-28 18:10:40 · answer #10 · answered by disk_dragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋