Social Anxiety ?

Question

I used to be diagnosed with social anxiety , I didnt like being around people. I basically didnt like people period. Then I moved off the bus route in my city and have been really secluded for the last 10 months , only seeing my OB (i was preg) My SO when he was home (1 week a month, he has an offshore job). Suddenly I desire to be around people , I go to walmart just to be near people to be surrounded by them. I try to start idle conversation , bt something is wrong , my words come out all messed up , i seem to have lost my ability to socialize verbally. I am homebound , the net and the telephone bring me no comfort , I am starting to be concerned about my loss of ability to verbally communicate with people. When I talk to people i mess p what i am saying so bad that I even avoid calling my family on the phone ... Is this still social anxiety or something else ? I don't know what to do , i also worry that it could somehow affect my newborns development somehow. all sugs welcome

Answer 1

i know where you are coming from i have also been diognosed with social anxiety. The thing is even though for a lot of the time you don't like to be around people there is a point where seclusion and lonliness makes you want to be around people just to get some human contact. im not saying all of a sudden you are a social butterfly just that no matter how shy you are we all need a little human contact. as to your word fumbles i wouldn't worry about it too much. you've decsribed extreme seclusion and so you have to reaclimate. my guess is that you fumble a word get anxious about it which in turn makes you fumble even more. but if your are really nervous about this ask your doctor.

Answer 2

Everyone fumbles words occasionally.

If I don't get the opportunity to talk every day (which does happen occassionally) then I experience the same problem. Its like the mouth needs exercise or something to practice talking. Seriously its wierd 'cuz I've had that happen to me and I know exactly what you're talking about.

The other day I was quiet the whole day and I went to go talk to my mom and I could not figure out how to pronounce the word societal even though I could say it to myself in my head, it wouldn't come out of my mouth right. She had to correct me 2 or 3 times before I could spit it out and we ended up laughing for 5 minutes about it. It is the most bizarre thing ever to all of a sudden forget how to freakin' talk! LOL

I told my mom, "If I ever come down with Schizophrenia, it sure would explain a LOT!" and then we had a good laugh about that too.

I think its normal. The mouth must just need practice!!!

Answer 3

You worry to much! I have studied your disorder, and it's up to you to let go. Sounds easy, but maybe not for you. I want to tell you, if someone doesn't like the way you mumbling, or trying to talk, you don't need them around you in the first place. It's all about liking yourself, and accepting yourself for who you are. I do hope you are in therapy to help you overcome this disorder? Some people need help, there is no shame to that. If you just knew how many people suffered from the same thing, you would be shocked. So, instead of letting your thoughts go wild, seek some therapy, and help yourself get back on track! It will be well worth it. Remember, you'll be the one setting an example for your new baby! Plus you owe it to yourself, your worth it!!!

Answer 4

Have you considered that your "inability" to communicate may have something to do with your hormones? When you're pregnant, your hormones go beserk, as you probably know.
I'm sure you know that hormones can affect you a great deal. These are chemicls in your body & when they're out of whack it affects you in more way than you realize.
Try going to places like Walmart again. Use this as a "mock" way of interacting with people. Try to think of it as, even if you do "fflub up" a converstion, so what???? When will you ever see these people again.

Answer 5

buddy up with a friend and take the train back home once and a while