She has been hanging out with teenage boys,and she is 12 years old,and they all are perverted,and I dont know what she does with them,but everytime I see her she has a bruise or something on her arm,or leg.I threatend to tell her parents,and she just said it was nothing,and that she would tell my parents that I was kissing my boyfriend in the movies,and I am scarred to death! I don't care if I get in trouble ,I am just trying to protect my best friend.I am also 12 years old.And I tried to tell people,and they wont believe me! I don't want to see my something bad happen to my friend.What should I do?
2006-12-28 17:59:39 · 13 answers · asked by Jessica P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to say something and now. When I was 12 I was always running around with older boys, thinking I was cool. I started smoking pot and getting drunk just to fit in. A week before my 13th birthday I was raped by a boy who was 17 and my "friend". I never told anyone, and fell into a deep depression. I felt disgusted and ashamed. At age 16 I tried to kill myself by taking my whole bottle of Prozac. I finally told my mom what happened. The sad part was the boy moved away years ago, and I didn't even know his last name. He got away with it, and I still have nightmares to this day (I'm 25 now)
There is no reason for teenage boys to be hanging out with a 12 year old girl. You need to tell your friend that she's putting herself in a dangerous situation every time she hangs out with them, and can get seriously hurt, if she hasn't already. They WILL pressure her into doing things she wouldn't normally do
Tell your parents and let them talk to your friends parents. That's what parents are for. So what if they find out you were kissing? They will get over it. What's more important is helping your friend.
Also, don't go around telling other people. You will most likely start a vicious rumor, and then your friends going to be really mad. It's OK to talk to friends that have mutual concerns, but be careful to not let it spread around.
Your friend is probably going to be mad that you ratted her out. But explain to her that you love her and don't want to see anything happen to her. She'll eventually get over it.
Please take this matter seriosly and say something now. If something should happen you will feel terrible that you knew this information and didn't say something sooner.
Good luck!!!
PS my name is Jessica too = )
2006-12-28 18:26:14 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ BuffaloGirl ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly afraid that something bad may happen to your friend you should tell a trusted adult. You would feel terrible if you did nothing and something bad happened. Also what about these boys - if they get away with this now - they will likely just get worse and eventually someone will really get hurt. The trusted adult might be her parents, but if you are not comfortable with that a teacher or pastor would do as well.
good luck to you - that's a scary place to be.
2006-12-28 18:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by midtownirene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone (an adult) that you trust, and ask for advice. If she is doing things that she will later regret, then she may thank you for it. It is safer for both of you to let someone know. Talk to your counselor at school, and you don't have to give the name of your friend. Just ask what they think you should do. If something bad happens, you will feel guilty. She would not be threatening you if she was not doing inappropriate things that she wanted to cover up. And if she gets mad at you for wanting to protect her, then she is not anywhere near as good a friend as you are.
2006-12-28 18:04:40 · answer #3 · answered by littlblueyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about it. If you were her friend you would tell her parents and then say she threatend to say you were kissing your boy friend in the movies to your parents if you told her parents. But first think about it
Even if your friend got mad at you, you prbably would have helped she wouldn't be a friend if she was mad at you for her own protection.
I would tell her parents now before something else goes wrong. These boys could be bad and she needs to stay away from them..
She is your friend go tell her parents no matter what.
2006-12-28 18:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by Puppyluver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to YOUR parents.
It might seem tacky. But sometimes, parents really do have the right answers.
Don't try to take things into your own hand. You might hurt somebody in the process.
If you're not comfortable talking to your parents about it. Try a teacher you trust. Or any responsible adult that'll know how to handle the situation.
2006-12-28 18:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by Diamond 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell somebody about the older boys and then return to English class, for every ones sake.
2006-12-28 18:02:29 · answer #6 · answered by Zewp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try to talk to your parents about the situation, see what they think you should do. ;) Sounds like you are a really caring and good friend.
2006-12-28 18:03:09 · answer #7 · answered by Laur's Buttercup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send a anonymous letter to the house addressed to her mom or dad.
2006-12-28 18:06:49 · answer #8 · answered by hawleysangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i am 12 too.
anyway. would you rather have your friend hurt or you get in trouble about kissing your boyfriend. This is for her saftey.
Think about that and email me sometime I love getting emails. email me at lilsoccerqt4ever@yahoo.com
2006-12-28 18:03:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell before it's too late... u will not be 12 forever, eventually ur friend will see that u are just trying to help and not destroy her..
2006-12-28 18:02:11 · answer #10 · answered by msweets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋