i cant help masterbating when driving with windows down should i stop and how?

Question

i have the urges to masterbate with women watching me, what should i do. seeking advice.

Answer 1

Driving requires your full attention. Look, I sure don't want to share the road with a guy who's concentrating on his pecker and not on traffic! Do EVERYONE a favor and don't drive until you get over this. It's very dangerous, and you could kill a lot of innocent people who were just trying to get to work or the mall.

Answer 2

wait till some women decides to cut your ummmm.. offf

Answer 3

Apart from being arrested for it, its ok I suppose. It should really matter how you feel about it

Answer 4

Are exhibitionists dangerous?

Exhibitionism is the term commonly used to describe the sexual disorder that is characterised by an overwhelming desire to expose ones genitals or, less frequently, other parts of the body (Marshall, Laws, & Barbaree, 1990), to unsuspecting onlookers from a distance. Because of its non-consenting nature, such sexual deviation is classed as a form of paraphilia (Lefton, 1997).


Most cases of exhibitionism can be based on psychological causes rather than physical issues, and forms the primary source of sexual stimulation experienced by perpetrators, most of whom are male, brought about by the startled reactions of their victims. It should be noted that women who expose themselves to men as male exhibitionists expose themselves to women are in fact quiet rare (Marshall, Laws, & Barbaree, 1990), possibly because there are a number of legal and socially accepted outlets, such as exotic dance clubs, for women to exhibit themselves.


Lefton (1997) notes that feelings of anger, hostility, shame, doubt, or a deep sense of inadequacy are often present in people who suffer from this sexually deviant disorder, which in turn produces a compulsive need to prove themselves by frightening others. It is suggested by Kapardis (1994) that by this crude insistence upon virility, the exhibitionist hopes to produce a response within the victim that will insure them that even though they cannot command love, at least they are powerful enough to produce some kind of reaction. Unfortunately, such continued behaviour further develops these feelings of guilt and anxiety within the offender, whilst also producing discomfort for one, if not both participants (Coon, 1989).


Such individuals constitute about one third of all sex offenders, and show the highest rate of recidivism, estimated at 35%. As ironic as it may seem, studies have shown that such individuals have a tendency to commit even more deviation after conviction (Appendix 1).


Recorded cases indicate that 63% of individuals are known to expose their penises, 51% are seen masturbating, 15% utilised obscene language, and 11% verbally express desires for sex, whilst another 21% do so non verbally (Kapardis, 1989). In most instance, exhibitionists will admit that they are horrified at the concept of contact (Rosen, 1996), and in only 11% of all cases is there ever any attempt to touch victims. On the other hand, victim reactions vary from running away (15%), right through to laughing (19%), feeling angry (7%), shock (17%), fear (23%), embarrassment (14%), and verbally attacking the exposer (4%) (Kapardis, 1989). It is interesting to keep in mind that therapy tends to cease, or at least reduce urges within paraphilia patients (Rosen, 1996) when a certain level of security is developed with the therapist through positive reinforcement. Negative feedback, such as that of the victim laughing at the exposer, might actually have a detrimental effect to the situation, sparking hostility or even violence.


It has been suggested within some literature that exhibitionists can be grouped into 2 distinct types. Type 1 offenders are inhibited, posses a relatively normal personality, are anxious, experience guilt, rarely have erections or masturbate (whilst exposing themselves), and tend to feel little if any pleasure. In direct contrast, type 2 offenders tend to be more psychopathic, experience erections, pleasure, and even masturbates whilst exposing themselves (Dowling, 2000). It is these type 2 exhibitionists who are more likely to progress onto more serious sexual offences.


Meyer, Landis and Hays (1988) further developed the idea of ‘types’ by grouping individuals into 4 distinct personalities. Type A – that of the impulsive – an obsessional, tense, sexually confused individual whose activities are based on impulsive responses to intrapsychic distress. Type B – that of the inadequate – not only obsessional but also shy, introverted, lacking in social relations, for whom exhibitionism is an ambivalent combination of anger response, ego affirmation, and socialisation. Type C – that of the unaware - a secondary result of mental retardation, organic brain disorder, or extreme alcohol intoxication. Type D – that of the assaultive character – influenced by a strong element of anger and hostility, featuring little if any guilt, and primarily experiencing sexual arousal from the victim’s response.


In most cases, exhibitionist types 1, A, B, and C are probably more dangerous to themselves than to others. However with the characterological exhibitionists, types 2 and D, there remains a huge possibility that they will move into more aggressive areas of sexual deviation. This possibility is displayed through records of offender histories, which "clearly indicate that one individual can have multiple paraphilic interests within their lifetime (Appendix 2), which accelerate with frequency" (Marshall, Laws, & Barbaree, 1990, p14). Such interests are broad enough to encompass sexual assault against adults as well as children, pedophilia, or even rape – which occurs in 10% of most cases (Meyer, Landis & Hays, 1988). In a 25-year follow up study conducted in 1964, it was recorded that 12% of a large sample of indecent exposers in Austria were later convicted of rape (Sugarman, Dumugn, & Saad, 1994), whilst another study indicated that almost 46% had sexually assaulted girls and boys.


At this point, it should be acknowledged that rapists compensate their feelings of inadequacy, sexual inferiority and insecurity by confirming their sense of manliness through actions that they perceive as stereotypical of men (Appendix 3) (Marshall, Laws, & Barbaree). Ultimately, this factor constitutes that type B exhibitionists (who suffer from equal feelings of inadequacy) are just as likely to become dangerous to society in later years. Likewise, the relationship between exhibitionism and other criminal activity has been acknowledged as a form antisocial acting-out and tension reducing behaviour (Rosen) – idiosyncrasies commonly found within type A.


Throughout this entire study, the central theme has been that of identifying potential dangerousness within exhibitionists. Literature on the subject, though limited and somewhat outdated, seems to center around the concept that certain individuals within the entire exhibitionist group can generally be chosen as potentially dangerous. Yet by doing this, the obvious concept that exhibitionists are all potentially dangerous, no matter what type, be it 1 or 2 – A, B, C, or even D, seems to be somewhat forgotten.


The fact remains that exhibitionists are no longer ‘normal’ members of society. They have broken away from standard norms, and work on uncontrollable impulses that are unpredictable. For this reason alone, they can not be grouped in such categories as ‘dangerous’ and ‘none dangerous’ because they may change at any time. Even if one wishes to argue this point, it cannot be denied that exhibitionism, even in it’s simplest form (non contact based), is dangerous in that it can produce traumatic experiences within its victims (Kapardis, 235), particularly if the victims are of a tender age.
As a general rule, many psychologists agree that any exhibitionist that comes closer than arm’s length to their victim, regardless of their initial intent, should be considered dangerous.