Of course we're not getting married at the moment. But he keeps have thoughts of sucide. he lives in California as i live in Az. and he's soon to be moving down here. but he says that the stress of work and money is killing him over there and he's having thoughts of ending his life. he says they're just feelings and nothing he'll act upon but it still scares me none the less. he says that hes had these thoughts most of his life but when we're together, he says not a single one crosses his mind. im just scared that he might do something irrational and i wont be there for him, i honestly cant live without him. he means the world to me. and i know that he feels the same way towards me. ive told him to get help, but he refuses. i just dont know what to say to him at times. i love him so much and i cant live without him. he gets to a point to where he tells me nothing matters and that i should just let him go, but i cant and i wont ever let him go or give up on him. i wont ever leave him.
2006-12-28 17:45:06 · 18 answers · asked by So in love. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to find someone else...
2006-12-28 17:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he thinks he has stress now wait until you get married.
If you really Will never leave him and cant live without him noting any of us say will change your mind. But for GOD'S SAKE use birth control. I would say get you tubes tied. If this guy is suicidal thoughts now. Having a child will push him over for sure. Then you have a child with no father AND all the stress of losing him. Take care of each other if that is how you want to spend your life. But don't sentence a child to a life of melodrama.
2006-12-28 18:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by Crabby Patty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through this myself. Except other way around. Let him know that you are there for him no mater what and show him too. Make sure you show him a little extra attention. Ask him to see a doctor because you;re worried about him and if he doesn't want to go by himself you can go with him. I know that he's faw away but maybe you can go see him during the end of the holidays. I see a doctor and it's not a quick fix, it takes a while. Just make sure you are extra sensitive do his wants and needs. Make his life a little easier. I hope I helped.
2006-12-28 17:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by none 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you refuse to see what is staring you in the face and you choose to toss your life in the trash bin then go ahead be stubborn and stick with this looser and have a miserable life.
Wake up and take some advice. You are too young to understand what is wrong with him. He needs serious mental help. You cannot save him You can only go down with him. Try to convince him to seek proffessional help Stand by him while he gets treatment if you wish but DO NOT MARRY HIM UNTIL HE GETS THE HELP HE NEEDS. For your sake I hope you will listen
2006-12-28 17:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you both get premarital counseling. You need to be working together. If he is unwilling to compromise now (not getting help like you ask him to), things will only get worse. For the relationship to work out and with the hope you have, i think you should resolve issues together and started your marriage on the same page. Marriage is wonderful but hard enough with out other complications.
2006-12-28 17:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all let me say to you that you are a good woman,you should stick by your man no matter what. He realy should seek some kind of help, I know you realy love him, he should stop being selfish and think more about you. I think that after a while the stress the he's having will start to ware on you, and that want be good for either of you. You should sit down and talk to him and let him know,,,I mean REALY let him know that you care about him and it hurts you to see him like that..O.K..GOD BLESS.............
2006-12-28 18:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by Lea, 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you mean everything to him use that to get him to go see a doctor. It sounds to me like he might be bi polar and pretty much the only help for that is medicine.
2006-12-28 17:48:50 · answer #7 · answered by bswbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if that when he is with you he doesn't feel that way, you should just momentarily move in with him in CA until he moves over to AZ. Simple as that, good luck. Congrats on the engagement by the way.
2006-12-28 17:48:13 · answer #8 · answered by Liliac 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you can get help? For example by learning counselling skills, or reading up on suicide, or even calling a suicide hotline for more information on what to do to help.
2006-12-28 17:48:26 · answer #9 · answered by suzanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go to a psychiatrist before he actually does kill him self. This will be the best for both of you.
2006-12-28 17:47:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not. a. healthy. relationship.
i dont think its that your to young, not at all (you can be in love as soon as you truly understand what true love is) , but he dosen't even love himself, so how can he love another human being? he cant! it dosen't work that way honey, get him to a counsler to help him work through what ever is making him suffer so much!
please, get the man some help! and soon!
you may think he loves you, but bottom line, if you dont lave yourself, you arn't capable of loving anyone else.....
good luck :)
2006-12-28 17:50:06 · answer #11 · answered by kiss the cook 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋