The guy and I have been together for a few years. We haven't finished our degrees yet, but he says that we can't afford it right now. An engagement ring is something to say "I will marry you some day", not "let's get married right now". I am the so called domesticated female now.. and he's just using me. His dad gives him all the $ he needs and it's not like he's ever been broke.
What do you think of my situation? Or what should I do?
2006-12-28 17:30:42 · 12 answers · asked by lvs4cheap 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We;ve lived together for 2 years. I don't want to be in my 30s and playing this game.
2006-12-28 17:33:56 · update #1
Get ready to be waiting a long time. Men don't like the "C" word. Committment. He sounds really spoiled. This'll probably get worse. Ditch him and find some unspoiled guy.
2006-12-28 17:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by Kesta♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation as you. What is the deal with wanting a ring so bad? If he has told you he wants to marry you someday that should be good enough. Don't you trust him? Maybe he wants to afford a very nice expensive ring for you. Don't pressure him cause that could make him nervous about the whole thing. If you live together and you are happy and in love enjoy it...if it is meant to be it will happen.
2006-12-28 17:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by El Tigre 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Many men are afraid to commit to something as serious as marriage. Without the ring, there is still this sense of freedom and independence. And as the old adage goes, why buy the cow when the milk is free? As long as he feels he's receiving the same benefits as a married guy (housekeeping, sex, etc..) he won't be getting married anytime soon. Sorry.
2006-12-28 17:35:07 · answer #3 · answered by C. J. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living together is less of a commitment than marriage because when you live together it is easier to say, "I'm moving out" (I saw this on a Soprano's episode)
The more important question is do you really like the guy.
I didn't get married until my 30's so it wouldn't hurt to get your schooling finished and get you carreer going and see if the relationship lasts. If it's not going to work, better to find out while you're dating then when you're married with children.
But don't make any rash decisions based upon this answer. Carefully consider all the facts and circumbstances.
2006-12-28 18:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by sameyeyam5 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A ring is just a thing if you know that this guy loves you the ring shouldn't be the most important to say he loves you because you should already know that without having to have a ring it's just a material thing so don't sweat the small stuff just as long as you know that he loves you. Love is stronger than any words that can be put on a piece of paper that says your married. Good Luck!
2006-12-28 17:59:20 · answer #5 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Patience is a virtue. If it was truely meant to be it will happen. I lived with my husband for 6 years before I got an engagement ring and we were together another 2 years before getting married. It has been 14 wonderful years we have been together and never has there been a moment I have had to regret.
2006-12-28 18:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are people out ther, such as myself who have thing determination or a pact that is when i get married and have kids i want to be able to provide for my family and be able to manage the rent and juggle the bills without having 3 part time jobs. Either that or he doesn't want to give up the girl he has on the side just yet. Who knows. Good luck to you though let's hope it was the first one.
2006-12-28 17:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by Liliac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When some guys are allowed to enjoy the milk for free why should they buy the cow.
Dont sell yourself short and be domesticated significant other in other words Stop playing house. Get a life.
2006-12-28 18:01:10 · answer #8 · answered by hawleysangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Classic example of why people should not "move in together" and "play" at marriage. Boy not need to put ring on your finger, if you are like average live in couple, he gets what he wants already. Women better learn to act like ladies if they want the same respect as ladies.
2006-12-28 17:50:59 · answer #9 · answered by Ye Olde Caveman 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd just tell him how I feel and what I expect. He might not be considering marriage any time soon OR he may be wanting it as much as you do. At any rate, you're much better off knowing than hypothesizing where you stand. Talk to him and if he's not what you want and need, honey, go find someone who will. Do not settle for anything (or anyone) less! -- E.
2006-12-28 17:36:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋