How do I resolve feelings I have for one of my best friends(who is male). We were extremely close for a while and I thought it was going to turn into something more than friends but it never did. I still have strong feelings for him but the problem is I am in a relationship and love my bf very much but can't get over the feelings I have for the other person. I believe he has feelings for me also. Any suggestions on how to get through this would be greatly appreciated. I don't want to lose what I have because my boyfriend is a wonderful man. Plz help.
2006-12-28 17:16:36 · 9 answers · asked by Hazeleyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it's natural to be attracted to others when in a relationship, but at the end of the day you have to sit yourself down and decide what you really want, and if you will leave your bf will you regret it, especially if the other guy is not necessarily interested in a serious relationship. You can't have your cake and eat it too, you just can't. Make sure that a passing fancy will not destroy a good thing or you are staying with your bf out of guilt?
2006-12-28 17:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I don't want to loose what I have" really means. I know this bf is not "the one" but I am such an insecure female if I don't have a guy between my legs I don't feel desirable. Grow up honey, be honest with yourself and the current bf. You need a time out to get a grip on yourself. It is very possible that if you dump the current bf and your crush finds out about it he will make a move on you. Even if he doesn't at least you are not selling your soul for a few dates.
2006-12-28 17:32:00 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel! Although you say you "love" the guy you're with now, its quite clear that you have MORE feelings for your bestfriend. Honestly, if you feel deeply about your bestfriend... then go and try to work it out. Hes always on your mind, so go find him and tell him whats up. Better late than never; right? Just tell your current boyfriend you need to be alone to clear your mind, and decide what you wanna do!
2006-12-28 17:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by CUTIE 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask your best friend's best guy friend to see how he really feels get back up if you need it and if you love your best friend then it will only hurt your bf if you stay with him and not TRULY love him but if you TRULY love your bf then ask him if you both could go out with other people !NOT BREAK UP! but just to see if he's the one or if the other ones the one.Hope this isn't TOO confusing and that it helps.good luck.
2006-12-28 17:22:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i had the same problem once. i stayed with my bf but i wasn't very happy with him and i was always wondering what would happen if i broke up with him. but then he ended up breaking up with me. but after he broke up with me, me and the other guy never did end up dating or ne thing. but i was alot happier that i wasn't with my bf ne more. i liked him but i just felt better knowing that i didn't have to feel bad about liking another guy behind his back ne more. and then eventually i found a new guy that i liked more than either of them and we ended up dating. and i'm alot happier in my new relationship. but what ever u end up doing just make sure u feel good about the deciscion that u make.
2006-12-28 17:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by gymnast33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Curiosity is what will get you. Tread lightly when you are around your "best guy friend". You're curious of what could have happened between you two.
2006-12-28 17:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by loveyoumuch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sry u feel da way u do especially dat now u have sum1 new n ur life but it is wat it is.da feelings dat u have for ur buddy will always b there but n time they might lesen a bit n if u cant stop thinkin bout him then i suggest u talk 2 ur man n get dis out n da open.i myself dont believe n secrets.becuz sooner or lata,sum's gonna happen n it might not b wat u were hopin 4.
2006-12-28 17:20:17 · answer #7 · answered by Odra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest getting them both together and offering a three way
2006-12-28 17:19:33 · answer #8 · answered by chetahbill 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the grass is always greener on the other side.
2006-12-28 17:18:46 · answer #9 · answered by kyletexas_123 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋