Why do they say less attractive people have the better personality?

Question

I'm sorry if this question offends anyone because that's not what I am trying to do.
Anyway everyone is always saying that people who are good-looking are jerks, b*tches, ******* etc. But I don't think that's true. I've noticed that good-looking people are happier and more likely to talk to you then a less attractive person. I've noticed they don't seem happy at all and it's hard to get a conversation out of them.

Again this question isn't meant to offend anyone and if it did I am sorry. It's something I have noticed a lot lately and have been curious about. I asked my friends and most of them say "I don't know" or one of them said "ugly people are jealous of good-looking people" even though the last comment really doesn't have anything to do with the question.

something i notice a lot more at parties than anything, you know when you go to meet new people, you are likely to become friends with a good looking person than someone who isn't good-looking ebcause they try to blend in with the woodwork

Answer 1

This is something less attractive people tell themselves so that they feel better about life.

Answer 2

You're probably just shallow, and your perceptions match what you expect. You assume attractive people are happier and have a better personality, so you remember examples of that; in contrast, you assume unattractive people are bitter and have unattractive personalities. Your friends agree with you because they share your values and assumptions.

Many beautiful people have rotten personalities, but many don't. The same holds true of physically unattractive people. I don't have a study to cite, but I might expect to see a weak positive correlation between physical attractiveness and socially pleasant personality because people with a socially appealing personality are generally more sensitive to other people's opinions and being seen in a positive light. This means they put more effort into keeping up appearances and following trends.

The so-called ugly people may be seldom approached for conversation, and when they've approached others, they may have been prejudged and rejected out of hand. Thus they may develop low self-esteem and bitterness, but this is not always the case. Many so-called ugly people might just not care about looks and be far more interested in learning, ideas, and a beautiful mind. You may find their personality unappealing simply because they don't care about the superficialities you focus on.

Answer 3

Well, attractive is subjective, but if you're talking about barbie and ken typical attractive people, then it's because people who aren't typically attractive aren't always accepted by people for their looks, so they have to compensate with other things. Also, not being accepted can cause lack of physical confidence, so value can be placed on other aspects of the person and confidence can be attained through those things. The question is, why do people lack physical confidence? Why do some guys and girls only look at typically attractive people? Luckily, not everyone is like this.

Answer 4

First of all, people that are blessed with attractiveness don't have the obstacles that other people have. They often have friends, status, etc because of how they look. Remember back in school when the cheerleader gave her speech 101 presentation....."ok, um..like, there were these Egyptians, and they like..um...go team tigers! (giggle) ok, where was I, ok, so these Egyptians...."

People who don't look like that cheerleader often overcome that obstacle by standing out personally. And that applies to all other areas, as well. Either intellect or emotional development is greater in those who don't do so well "popularly" in high school. So call it nerdism if you want, I prefer to call it success.

As far as relationships, those people who have not had the football star knocking on their door all their life are most likely to TRY at relationships and not nitpick and nag at ordinary things. The qualities you look for are not the same as the qualities you can buy at a plastic surgeon's office.

Answer 5

i think it is about even. I am attractive and i have been told I am a very good person with a very good personality. Because I have humilty, but that is not everyones gift. Something like patience not everyone has that either. And I personally have no patience with sweat hogs that keep eating and dont work out and then look at me and are jealous, and start ugly rumors, and are snooty and cruel. However they are usually the loudest and gather around them attractive people to be popular, and then they become the ear for everyone and the gossip about the boys and girls and then they feel superior, because they think they know everything. It gives them a thrill of power, then they exclude others like myself because I see right through them and the attractive ones as well. The only reason they are with that person is to make themselves look more attractive. And it is so obvious, it bores me terribly. So on both sides it is so shallow sometimes. So I would rather be friends with someone who has a good heart and a happy spirit with more depth to their personality. And I can count 5 on one hand. And that suits me fine because they are real.

Answer 6

Well every1 is different.....
But 2analyze some of what u mentioned....
Less attractive people can be both....more forward, because they find their "strengths" which may be personailty, & conversation, etc....They can also be more timid, quiet, & less of a conversationist. Because they are insecure & very well might have come from a past where people embarassed them or made them feel more uncomfortable with approaching others & trying 2 be relaxed in a social enviroment.
People who are attractive can also be both.... a good conversationist, easy 2 talk 2 & fun, because they have less 2 "sell" if that makes sense, being attractive gives them a push in the right direction already...But they can also be quiet & sometimes even very boring, or maybe not boring, just shy, because they are intimidated by what others feel about them & worry people might stereotype them without even knowing them as "preppy" or "stuck-up" or "2good"
However you look at it, it goes both ways. We all have insecurites & we live most of our life, regardless of our success, in search of some1 who will love us & accept our flaws, not only accept, but appreciate. The less stereotypes you have in your mind, the more invitations you allow in your heart.

Answer 7

Less attractive people don't have confidence to just go up to any one and talk because the popular, attractive people have teased them throughout their years at school, etc. The hurtful things that were said to them stick in their minds and are never forgotten.

Attractive people have big ego's and they know they are attractive, its not a case of being jealous at the attractive people. Its because they aren't good enough for society because everything is based on looks these days.

Answer 8

That is becuse the people who know they are beautiful are usually concited and mean toward other people hence why they are not interactive with the others. There are beautiful people who are both beautiful on the inside and outside I have met a few of them working on a play for Christmas. I truly enjoyed thier company. I am not considered beautiful but I have an outgoing personaity nontheless because I treat people the way I want to be treated which is getting to know people on the inside first and disreguarding the ouside as a primary means of knowing the person. Bias can go both ways and that bias is shattered in chat rooms where you can only hear the prerson. I find it facinating that Chat has helped me be more of a confident people person in real life. I think you should treat all human with respect wether they pass or don't pass your standard of physcal beauty because it's in the eye of the beholder.

Answer 9

I don't think its a question of whether they're attractive or not, exactly. I think its more self confidence. Attractive people are most likely more commonly told that they are attractive and hence have a lot of self confidence, as opposed to unattractive people. However, I personally don't believe that there is such a thing as an "unattractive" person and that everyone is beautiful in their own right. It just depends on how the individual flaunts it. Hence, the "attractive" people are more attractive and outgoing because they know how to flaunt it right.

Answer 10

I am not a shallow person but i believe this is at least half true.

Less attractive people tend to feel that they can't blend in with a lot of groups of people, because they lack of style, or nt pretty...ect so in order to make these people talk to them or take notice of them, or maybe even not to hate them, they have to be very nice to everyone, i mean not that they have alot of choice anyways.

Like they always say, "if u gain 5pounds, go read a new book"

Another theory is, less attractive people are not neccessary nicer, they are actually normal, but it's the attractive ones who feel that they are allowed to be mean and nasty or be selective to whom they talk to.

Answer 11

ok i'd be as blunt as a hammer. human beings evidently have some kind of bias its innate.. besides the indisputable fact that what we do with that is as a lot as us, as such; captivating human beings are frequently said more beneficial than others so their flaws stand out extra "she a B**ch or hes an A**" acceptable human beings tend to be conceited, abusive, airheads. proper get at the same time, this female im my type is for my section a goddess with how acceptable she is, besides the indisputable fact that shes self established, conceited and that makes her bypass away down in my e book. definite i'm drawn to her, yet who isn't.. yet i'd under no circumstances have a courting at the same time with her because she is too captivating and for that reason complications develop. those who're large and seem widely used or extremely gorgeous and captivating are a thanks to bypass lol. They make up in personality what they'd lack in psychical charm.