I'm 23 years old and have always lived with my parents, as I've been finishing up my B.A. I've never had a job because I'm a full time student. I look around me and see people getting married and having kids and I'm like wow im not even close to feeling responsible for such things, or I'll read a book and a enjoy a story with characters in their twenties doing things - normal things like careers and stuff. And it will hit me this is what people my age do but im still shocked that im actually at such an age and not a kid anymore (technically). I hope I explained it enough.
2006-12-28 16:55:57 · 9 answers · asked by burning_field_star 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Im 22 and i still live at home, though im working. All my friends started to get married at 18 and most of them have kids now. I can't see myself with so much responsibility on my hands and wonder just how they manage ?
Sister you only live once, if you want to feel like a kid then so be it. When your ready to mature then everything will puzzle into place.
Don't be in a rush to grow up and think being married and starting a family is responsibility. Their are other ways to feel responsible. Example if your parents give you a task to complete. Their are little things to make you feel responsible, don't jump to the bigger things and regret it later down the track.
Do what ever makes you happy and don't worry to much about what others around you are doing.
Im in the same boat as you, but your studying and im working.
I believe that everything happens for a reason (without doubt) and when your ready for such responsibilities it will eventually happen, but until then dont stress too much on this topic and be happy!
Good Luck. xoxo
2006-12-28 17:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with it i am 21 and I am seeing a lot my friends or aquatances getting married and having kids and it just scares me to see all that around me when were so young i know an 18 year old girl with two kids already
you're getting an education so it doesn't matter that youve never had a real job and it's good that you dont have kids
that way when you do meet someone to marry and have kids you'll have your education out of the way and youll be encouragement for when your kids are older they''ll want to wait and have an education too
my girlfriend and i have been together for a while now and i can't picture having kids or being with her for the rest of my life and i know she feels the same i plan on going to college next year too
2006-12-28 17:34:52 · answer #2 · answered by thisguyjude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is normal. I am a 15 year old boy, but have the opposite feeling. I feel like I am more mature than others my age. I feel as though I could move out of the house (I want to stay) and support myself. None of my friends have jobs, even though they are all older than me. I am quite interested in learning new instruments and though I hate homework, I find that it takes up just about all of my free time on weekdays because I am in all advanced classes, mostly with older kids. I am a year ahead of most of my friends, as I am taking algebra 2, Chemistry, AP world history, german 4 (I live in NY), and have taken 3 different instruments for band. I am not interested in anything really, I just feel like a "blah" person.
2006-12-28 17:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by fwef1324 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel and I am 22 and recently married! surprising to me too. I just finished college in December and moved over 1500 mi from all my family! when I go home I feel out of place (which I have felt somewhat since graduating hs and going to college). I am nowhere near wanting kids or anything like that and there is nothing wrong with where you are at. go at your own pace. although a job is a much needed independence. sometimes I get scared thinking that now I am really on my own, but I have to take a deep breath or two. I get scared thinking now I need a career and I get scared that no longer is my life pathed out like with hs, then college...I suppose this is what growing up really means...
2006-12-28 23:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by crackermelons 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, I'm in the same situation as you are. I'm 24 and still live w/ my parent. I'm trying to finish my CET degree. People call me a mama's boy. I also have NO intention of getting marriage and having kids any time soon. In Asian culture, this is normal, but since we're living in USA, this doesn't not happen a lot in some families.
2006-12-28 17:16:49 · answer #5 · answered by Jim L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its totally normal to feel like a kid, no matter what your age, if you are back at home with mom and dad.
One of my professors told me that he counseled a man who was very powerful, had a great job in the community and was well-known. He sought out therapy because he felt like a little child whenever he stepped into his parents house.
He complained that he was so powerful and respected, but the minute he got into mom's house he went from 40 and successful to 8 years old. He wanted this to stop. My prof. kinda told him that it was just the way things are when you're back at home.
The moral of the story: even powerful older people feel that way in the presence of their 'rents.
I feel that way sometimes too, but I try to act extra-mature when I'm at home with mom and dad to compensate for it, lol. Like I go ahead and do all the chores, cook and clean, never start any arguments or fights, and keep all my finances and problems to myself! :)
2006-12-28 17:10:19 · answer #6 · answered by Elysia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems normal to me. I felt exactly the same way when I was your age. I was suprised when all my childhood friends started getting into serious relationships, having kids, and getting married and stuff. Once you're out on your own starting your career, you might feel a bit more like an adult.
2006-12-28 17:04:05 · answer #7 · answered by Link 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um you are still wet behind the ears. You don't really start feeling like a woman until about age 28 then it is beautiful. I am not trying to be mean but you got a long way to go. You just cut the umbilical cord.
2006-12-28 17:00:57 · answer #8 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey .. u man.. why u worry.. older ppl wd die or can pay anything, literally, anything to have this feeling back to them.. to feel young...
u sd enjoy rather, than bothering on why u r not feeling old...
man i was also of the opeinion when ur age..
but now, i really yearn to feel than look young...
n man ...remember.. tht things will happen at their own pace.. dont force urself to feel old... n on that responsibility part.. as whn v r kids, especially in our close nit families... in a kind of warm n protected environ... v feel so cozy n morever our parents make us feel in that way... which is again all right...n u b thankful to them... as a few r lucky enough to hv this previlege..
hope this much explanation will suffice to put u on ease...
2006-12-28 17:05:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋