Okay, she doesn't have an O every time. In fact, I hate to admit it, but I don't think she's had one in a few weeks. The O's used to be quite frequent. I don't think I'm doing anything differently, so what's going on? At any rate, she seems to be happy with our intimate life. Quite happy. But can she really be all that happy if she's not having any O's? Is it shallow to think that it can't be all that great without the O's?
2006-12-28 16:55:52 · 16 answers · asked by 670000000mph 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to talk to her. There is so much that could be happening. Also you can love a person sooooo muuuuuch that no matter what you are with them. There could be other areas that you probably fulfill totally and over flowing. Or it could be that her O's are different. They don't have to be dramatic like in the movies.
No matter what you belief the answers lye with her Talk to her. Communication makes intercourse stronger. The more you talk to her the better you will get at pleasing her.
If there is no communication your relationship is OVER!!!!
2006-12-28 17:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by Ecala 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try something different. The O's have it. I know the O's are great but the most fun is getting together and trying new things. It is all about the relationship and the bonding. You don't need an O every time to be happy. I really think you should be talking and/or showing new things to her. Good luck
2006-12-29 01:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by kellyfl59 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Os's. Maybe ask her? Ask her what you could do make her O.
No it is not a shallow question.You want to make her happy and yourself happy to have her O.You have to know about women's O's to know. I have been married and with the love of my life for almost 7 years. I used meth and had too many O's. I love him so much that even if we do not have sex I feel satisfied.The O is awesome and happens but not without my help.Either way for me it is an extra. A bonus.The rest of it is what matters to me. Ask yourself.do you want her to have O's to show you are a good lay or is it really because you WANT her to feel the O as much as you?
2006-12-29 01:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because guys always have one, they think girls always should, they are good, dont get me wrong but sometimes you just cant. the most common reason is stress. sometimes we are just too stressed out to relax enough to get to the O. Dont feel like its you, just ask her if there is anything you can do , and mean time, try to set the mood for a very relaxing time, try something new, or go a week with out any sex at all and then build up to it with some old fashioned flirting. Communication is the most important thing though, talk to her. Good luck
2006-12-29 01:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by Tigger lover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women can go thru stages where the orgasms just aren't the most important part of what is happening in the bedroom.
Mature sex is not about orgasms. It's about intimacy, about connections, about two human beings hearing eachother's heart beat. It's very possible she's deeply happy in other ways.
If you're worried, have a frank discussion about "o"s. Ask her if she wants one every time you make love to her and then ask her if she'd like to have you give them to her or if she'd like to help. C'mon. Grown-ups talk about this stuff and you are a grown -up aren't ya? You can say it - o r g a s m.
2006-12-29 01:07:02 · answer #5 · answered by outdone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And, you haven't discussed this with her?
Look, for a guy, the big O is what it is all about. But, for many women, the O is just "nice". You are very considerate to be concerned about it, and maybe you could be doing more to help her get there after you do (it's not over until it's O-ver for her, you know). But, don't knock yourself out about her not achieving orgasm every single time - as long as she isn't unhappy. Just make sure that you talk about it from time to time to determine if you are doing everything that she likes and feels good about.
2006-12-29 01:01:36 · answer #6 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand what the deal is, she sounds like she's totally happy with YOU! I mean it's not like she's faking it right? Does it make you feel less of a man not to be able to give her an O all the time?. I think if she loves you and loves being with you that should be enough. Stress can cause less O's as well.
2006-12-29 01:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats where men and women are different. don't worry if she is not happy then she will show it in more than one way until you know it. If she is not complaining then its okay. One reason why it doesn't happen in women also is because they have something else bothering her in her head. be a friend and relieve her of her worries...then you both will enjoy like theres no tomorrow
2006-12-29 01:02:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite frankly, I am very happy with mine and my husband's intimate love life and I don't have "O's" all the time myself. With some women it gives them a greater feeling knowing that they could satisfy their man.
2006-12-29 01:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes she can be perfectly happy without having an O..I have only had one and that was with my fiance...Other than that i don't have them sorry to get personal but even if i do it myself...(sorry that was probably way to much info...
2006-12-29 01:00:49 · answer #10 · answered by sarahlynn1718 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋