I love my hubby very much i don't doubt my hubby feeling the same way. But recently, i found a marriage cert. from 4 years ago from his ex wife and some pictures along with tax returns, etc...I asked him about it he claims he forgot he had them in storage. Before we got married in March I asked him if he had any pictures of his ex or her belongings, he told me no that he threw everything away after she left him for another man..my hubby said to destroy everything he has of her and that he only loves me......should i be mad or let it go?????
2006-12-28 16:54:08 · 22 answers · asked by Baby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let it go. . . it means nothing or you would have seen it before now.
2006-12-28 16:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by snddupree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to let it go. Before you he was married and has a past. The marriage certificate, pictures and tax returns are all after divorce normalcy. I've been divorced six years now and I still have the marriage certificate, the tax returns, and pictures of my ex in storage. It doesn't mean I love him. But it's who I am today and a reminder of where I've come from. My past is my past . You can't and shouldn't expect him to throw these things out because whether you like it or not everything in his past has made him who he is today and today he is with you. So you should, in a weird sort of way, look at it this way, if it weren't for that woman, you and you're hubby wouldn't be together today.
P.S. My boyfriend and I live together and we've been together for a few years. We're eventually going to get married so in a sense a similar situation to yours.
2006-12-28 17:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by katriana30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off do you love your husband? I think anyone that has been married before will still have some feelings for the ex the longer they were together the stronger the feelings and if there were kids involved there will always be a connection between them. Please don't come down on him for pics or some memorabilia she took a part of his life we all should remember the things in life good or bad. If he told you to destroy anything connected to the two of them then he must really love you. If you really love him you will put the pictures away and maybe 10 years down the road bring them out and tell him you didn't want to destroy any part of his life and you kept his things intact. Life is too short to sweat the little things just support and love him and let the past be the past now in a box.
2006-12-28 17:41:32 · answer #3 · answered by digger227 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd let it go chances are he probably really did forget he had the pictures we're only human and forget things at times. Don't worry unless you have more solid reason to but i don't think you will because he loved you enough to marry you and he split up with her under some pretty unforgiveable terms.
2006-12-28 17:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He did say to get rid of it right? I don't understand why you would even be upset? he did have a life before you came along, he can't help that. You just have to focus on the NOW! as long as your both happy with each other and things are going great then I don't see why this should affect you?
2006-12-28 17:00:28 · answer #5 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 07:08:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, you need to grow up!!!! You seem to have jealousy issues. Why would you freak over a picture? My husband has pictures of exs and I do to. Big deal!!! For you to be so freaked you must really be low on yourself. He probably still cares for her, he spent part of his life w/ her and if they have kids together they are still and probably always will be somewhat bonded. I still care about my ex and we get along great, I'm not in love w/ him. We get along great and my husband now has no problem at all w/ him or I. You just seem really immature and need to grow up.
2006-12-28 17:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by jaden2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I don't quite understand the question... You knew about her prior to this finding, yes? Alright, if he's holding on to some stuff, I think that's probably natural. You don't think he's still hung up on her, do you? What's there to be mad about? Do you feel that he's been dishonest? Talk to him. Talk to him. Sorry, I know this answer may not be very helpful. Just talk to the guy about it and feel things out with your owns senses.
2006-12-28 17:03:46 · answer #8 · answered by 670000000mph 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably forgot he had them, you know , i married for the second time and i find it just wonderful, better than my first. Just think he married you after going through a divorce etc. He loves you.
2006-12-28 17:00:14 · answer #9 · answered by spuds_suds 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
best advice i could give you is let it go .. you have to remember yes he was married in the past and yes he loved her before .. and even though you and him are married that dont mean that his memories of the last marrage are gone . i mean think about it do you really expect him to totally forget his past ? do you think he would expect you to forget your past or have it totally gone in pictures or what ever .. if it was somthing to worry about it would be if you caught him in bed with her agian that would be somthing to be mad about this is just some pictures and memories .. noting to worry about or be upset at for sure
2006-12-28 16:59:42 · answer #10 · answered by jazieyez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There nothing to worry about. He is with you. You know he loves you so show him how much you love him. Let him keep it show him that you are not that way. That what helps a marriage stay strong "faith"
2006-12-28 17:03:17 · answer #11 · answered by Nmatt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋