ok once a couple becomes engaged doesnt the pretty much qaulify for part of the family on either side of the families?
2006-12-28 16:44:38 · 28 answers · asked by justin l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Technically, it's once they are MARRIED. Engaged just means that they are committed to marrying, which in turns means to become part of the family.
Depends on the family though. My family accepts my bf as part of our family, and we are not engaged, but have been together for 2 years.
2006-12-28 16:46:57 · answer #1 · answered by shaclare 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To me it does. But I think you can be family without even being engaged - what if a couple has been living together? What if the couple is gay and can't legally get married? Every family is going to have its own definitions of family - you just have to decide for yourself. If your extended family is giving you a hard time with this kind of a technicality it's not worth stressing about. If you and your fiance feel like family then you are family to each other.
2006-12-28 16:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by coffeytalk.com 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pretty much. An engaged couple (or for that matter, any long-term serious couple) should be treated as much like family as a married couple. If you'd consider someone's wife/husband to be your family, you should similarly consider their fiance(e) family. Not everyone will feel that way though. Some people don't consider it a "done deal" until the ceremony.
2006-12-28 16:49:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like one or both of you are not feeling accepted by the others relatives. give it some time. sometimes it takes a while for them to accept someone into the family. Don't take it personal. If there are some things that you know they don't like about you, set up a meeting with them and talk adult to adult and find out what those issues are and go from there. there may be some misunderstandings involved here, and there usually is. nip it in the bud. don't let negative feelings get started.
2006-12-28 16:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both parties families are very loving families then i would think that you would be part of the family. My parents are deceased but my boyfriends (of three years)consider me part of the family.In my opinion that is the way loving families do things.You should have been part of the family before you were engaged.
2006-12-28 16:59:29 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Do you want it to be family? I've been married for years, and there are some members of my wife's family I don't want to share the same species with, much less the same family.
Lots of engagements do not end in marriage.
2006-12-28 16:48:22 · answer #6 · answered by tfedge 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In most families, yes. I will warn that if they don't consider a fiancee part of the family, odds are they won't consider them part of it after the wedding either. However, all that should matter is the family you are creating.
2006-12-28 16:50:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that does mean that you become family on either side. Or that is how it is suppose to be. You are to be welcomed into the family.
2006-12-28 16:49:09 · answer #8 · answered by Dana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally yes, but it would probably depend on things like "how long have you known each other before you got engaged?" and "have you been engaged before and called it off?"
2006-12-28 16:50:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, technically it does. Whether or not other members expect the fact that you will be a permanent part of their family, is up to them.
2006-12-28 16:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋