how do i get people to listen to my advice?

Question

sometimes when i give ppl good advice they blow me off and do what they want anyways..so whats the point of me giving them my 2 cents.

Answer 1

Like they say it's always better to listen,, So, since you feel like it's a waste of time ,, Save Your Breath, and Your 2 Cents

Just Being Honest

My Son Had The Same Advise For Me Regarding My Daughter

Good Luck

Great Question

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Answer 2

Just because you think your advice is good, someone else has to use it. Advice is given only if you have experienced what that person is going through or what they have gone through and can live and talk about it. Wisdom and knowledge has a lot to do with it too. And it doesn't matter how old you are or where you are from. My advice to you is, don't criticize your own advice. All advice is good. But most times people will use your advice for another time in their life. They may not use it when you want them too, but when they need it.

Just keeping giving your advice. I guarantee someone will thank you one day.

Answer 3

I like Uzi Weingarten's approach in "The Art of Giving Advice: 3 Steps to Doing It Well"

Summary:
1. Listen first.
2. Ask permission.
3. Offer without insisting.

Full Text:
Giving good advice is a great gift. Yet, we sometimes run into trouble because of the way we offer it. The ability to give advice in a positive, constructive way is an art. Here are three points to help us offer advice with effectiveness and compassion.

1. Listen first. While this rule is true for all good communication, it is doubly true when we wish to give advice. Issues are often more complex than they initially appear. By first listening, we open a space for the speaker to more fully describe the situation and for us to more fully understand it. What is the point of offering advice based on partial information?

In addition, when we listen first, it makes it more likely that the other will then listen to what we have to say. In the words of Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, one needs “connection before correction.” It is empathic listening that establishes the connection.

2. Ask permission. Unsolicited advice is a major cause of grief among friends and family members. It can be experienced as unwelcome intrusion into personal business. It might also be seen disrespectful, as implying that a person is incapable of caring for himself and resolving his own issues.

Asking if our advice is desired shows respect for others and prevents resentments. Here is one way to do this: “As I listen to you, there are some ideas coming up for me that you might find useful. Would you like to hear them?” It is very important to ask that question without attachment, from a place that both “yes” and “no” are equally acceptable responses.

3. Offer without insisting. It is worth keeping in mind that even after we have listened, we can never know with certainty what is best for another person. There is so much that we are not aware of. So we offer our insights, experiences and ideas, with the attitude that our advice is another point of view, and we trust the listener’s inner wisdom to discern what is right for him or her.

One of my teachers, Selwa Said, likens giving advice to a waiter in a fine restaurant who holds out a dessert tray and says to the patron, “here, if you wish,” and the diner takes what is right for him. This has a practical advantage, as well. By not insisting, we increase the chances of our words being considered.

Answer 4

People must learn from their own mistakes. It's what smoothes their rough edges. You as a friend, are just supposed to be there to love them when they screw up. Most of the time people are talking to you about the problem because they need to vent, not because they want you to fix it.

I do feel for you though. I felt the same way a couple of years ago until I realized the above paragraph to be true. Of coarse you may not take my advice but you do have to learn the hard way sometimes.

Answer 5

Learn a lesson my father taught me. He would ask everyone he knew for advice about what ever he was pondering at the time. I asked him why he asked so many people and did not then use their advice. He, wise man that he was, said. I get lots of good ideas from which to make up my own mind. S o do not think you are goddess or something. Just one of many helping out your friends.

Answer 6

The thing with advice is that, all it can ever be is advice. Not answersr, just advice. People are still going to make their own choices, and if that bothers you, just stop giving advice.

People will always make their own choices, and good or bad, that's their choice.

If the ignore your advice and it turns out bad, give them advice on how to fix it

Answer 7

When you give advice, you have to realize that people have their own minds and will ultimately make their own decisions. You need to be the best good friend you can be by offering them your advice and then being there for them in whatever decision they my choose to make. Even if you feel that your advice is the best in their situation, you still need to know that everyone learns from being able to make their own decisions. ;)

Answer 8

You can't make people listen if they don't want to. The only person you can truly help is yourself. You can make your advice available, but remember that people will do what they want--but at least you let them know your opinion on the matter, and some day it may help.

Answer 9

Most people ask for advice, but really only want to hear what they want to hear. Make sense? They want you to say something specific and if you don't say that, then they are not really going to pay any mind to your advice. However, there are A FEW who want the advice, but end up following their own hearts, making their own decisions. This is how most of us learn from our own mistakes. :-)

Answer 10

ugh, omg. People always ask me questions, and ask for advice, and well, I can't end up saying nothing, so I give them my advice. However, I really DUNT WANT people to listen to my advice, because if something goes wrong after they try my advice, they come rushing back at me, yelling at me for giving the stupidest advice, when they're the ones who took it. Now, isnt it better when u dunt hev people blaming u