After much debate, research, money-saving, and endless anticipation, I have decided to have breast augmentation. I spoke of this in a previous question and got many negatives toward the surgery. Now, I AM having it done; the problem exists with my Dad. How do you tell your Dad you are having a boob job? I am an only child, and so is he. We are close, but I can't stand the thought of him knowing about this. I just don't even want to say anything at all, and maybe he won't say anything either when/if he notices. My husband thinks I am acting crazy and thinks I should tell him. He said, "Honey, he's GONNA know!" But I don't want him to. What would you do?
2006-12-28 16:31:42 · 31 answers · asked by adstidamrn 4 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Wow, you all are giving me some great answers. And making this selection process hard too, I might add. I am now seeing both sides of the picture, yet still struggling with the right decision. I am "Daddy's Girl", even though I'm 32 years old with 2 girls of my own. It's just so uncomfortable telling my Dad about my breasts or anything related to the female anatomy. I am very self-sufficient and have never asked either of my parents for anything, ever. So, my husband and I am paying for this, which is going to cost $5000 total (for the lady who asked). I just don't want him to think I'm a bimbo or something. I'm going from a barely A to a full C.
2006-12-28 17:36:04 · update #1
I'm a nurse. I had mine done too, go for it. I'm so sorry others gave you negative remarks. Girl always do what will be best for you and what will make you truly happy. I wouldn't tell him, what he doesn't know can't hurt him. And after all he might not notice, but if he does you would still have them along with your happiness. I am so happy with mine, it's a real ego boost. Cheer up. I have a movie for you to see, look at it and remember how your Dad and family only wants what is best for you. I'm a Christian and I will pray for you.
www.mayyoubeblessed.com
2006-12-28 16:38:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He will notice. So the sooner you tell him the better it will be, after all it's your body. Are you sure you want to get a breast augmentation or do you know, he will want to talk you out of it? Perhaps that is why your hesitating to tell him before you have the surgery done? My girlfriend had the same problem, telling her mother she had gotten a tattoo on her wrist. She used to cover the tatoo up for a long time & wear long sleeves. It became quite a burden for her, trying to hide it all the time. She was greatly relieved to share her tattoo with her mother, granted it wasn't easy when she did. She was a grown woman age 40. :)
2006-12-29 01:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by Fraulein 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had this surgory done about 5 years ago. I never said a word to my dad and he's never said a word to me about it. I know he's noticed, but we don't talk about things like that. Good luck! Also, be prepared for longer healing time than anticipated. At the last minute, and under the influence of "drugs", my dr. gave me some last papers to sign that scared me, but everything worked out fine.
2006-12-29 00:36:40 · answer #3 · answered by lisacantcook 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just tell him. Dont make it into a big deal though. He (like many men) will most likely not have much to say about it. Just tell him that you are having surgery and hopes he supports you in the process.
I agree with your husband
by the way if you dont mind me asking how much will it set you back?
2006-12-29 00:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by daisyhuff4 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was 19 when I had my breast implants. He wasn't sure until my mother told him that it would help my self esteem and that it was not fair for me to have small breasts my entire life...I was wearing training bras until the surgery. She added that is would be like a man running around with a small bud between his legs (instead of a ....well, you know..)...just not fair. After that he agreed and paid for everything.
I never regretted making that decision. Make sure you follow the doctors instructions to a tee. Make sure that your doctor is reliable and has a good reputation.
Best wishes.
2006-12-29 01:10:23 · answer #5 · answered by tikizgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if you're not mature enough to tell your Dad about this then you're not mature enough to do it!
If you're still dependent on your father and his approval is important to you, then you're not independent enough to do this.
And so on.
Tell your Dad. Discuss it with your Dad. I would want to know what my daughter was up to. The surgery is not risk free; I would want to be there for my daughter.
Personally I don't accept the need for breast enlargement; women are beautiful no matter the breast size. I do understand, though, poor self esteem. Good luck with whatever you do. Tell your Dad. He needs to know. He loves you.
2006-12-29 00:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by OU812 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...eventhough im only 20. i had mine done over a month ago...and i didnt tell anyone...not even family. Obvioulsy my closest friends and boyfriend know. i just dont want to be judged and ridiculed for something im confident in. the best thing is...with clothes on, you cant even tell. i have a fabulous doctor, who did an amazing job of making them look natural. my uncles, aunts, and grandma have no idea. If you know this is right for you, then do it, its nobodys business but your own. i dont regret my decision for one second
2006-12-29 02:53:40 · answer #7 · answered by britbabe362 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breast Implants surgery is very safe nowadays. My cousin got her breast reduction, tummy tuck and facelift surgery in India by the company called Forerunners Healthcare .The Price for the surgery she paid in India was very less. She paid 30% of the cost she was quoted in America.
Forerunners Healthcare is very famous in India. They arrange cosmetic and plastic surgery for foreigners in India. I read a lot about them in the Newspapers and about their patient stories. They arrange financing for USA, Canadian, UK and other international patients who plan to have surgery abroad for low price, as the breast reduction, tummy tuck, facelift and other cosmetic surgery is not covered by insurance. They also have photos pasted of their International patients. You can checkout their website. There are huge cost savings. As a doctor I personally believe that surgery can be easily handled in India, as the quality of healthcare available In India is simply best in the world. The surgeons are USA/UK trained and facilities are 5 star.
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Hope this helps.
2006-12-29 04:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be ready to tell him all the facts and sit down and have a heart to heart. It's not the end of the world, but it is his little girl, so have a little sympathy and try to reassure him that you have thought this through and completely researched it. Break a Leg!!! It will be awsome!
2006-12-29 00:39:08 · answer #9 · answered by 123..WAIT! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i just wouldnt tell.
i wouldnt mention it. and if he notices or asks, i'll think dammit! but then id say its my hubby's fault he wanted me to do it! yep then the weird akwardness, and daddy's possible anger will all pass on to my dude! LOL!
seriously i would do that.
or if you plan to get pregers say thats why they just gone bigger some how! or say you've got older?? what does he expect. you cant b a baby forever.
or say, you were going to die! if you didnt have them, believe me it works. thats what i told my dad when i wanted hair extentions, and he is sooo old fashioned he was like yuck fake hair! and i was thinking they look ******* marvellous and are undetectable! any hows than he said yeah have it! and i was like your the best dad in the world! and he was happy!
2006-12-29 00:38:11 · answer #10 · answered by Super Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋