How do i save a broken marriage? We cannot talk amiably at all and we lost that patience and love.?

Answer 1

I know this is going to sound bad but make love to eachother!! Make the first move. It's a start don't ya think. I think talking may follow.

Answer 2

Try to think of the reasons you fell in love. Go to some of the places you used to go together. Reminisce about the old times. Hold each other without expecting anything to come of it. Talk to each other with the same courtesy and respect that you would a total stranger. Doesn't your spouse deserve that? Yet we often talk down to them when a complete stranger gets our total respect. Put husband/wife back as a priority rather as someone who has to be dealt with when everything else gets finished. Go away for the weekend to try to rediscover each other. Go to a counselor and let an impartial third party mediate. It's often surprising what comes up that you may not have ever realized. So many things to try before you give up.

I pray God will give you guidance and strength to endure this difficult time in your life.

Answer 3

go and see someone (therapist-family counselor) They are WONDERFUL! You need to get an outside objective and listen to what they see. When 2 people are hurting, it's hard to listen to the other person.
Your marriage isn't broken because you're here trying to save it. If it was broken, you'd be divorced already. Remember, marriage isn't all roses and candy. It's WORK! But if both of you are willing to work at it to save it, you can!
Think about seeing someone though. Don't think it's for losers or weird people. I'm not a loser, nor am I weird :o) I do have a great marriage now because of it. We both needed someone else to listen to us, not yell and tell us we're both right! and we're both 'not' right all the time.
Good luck though!!!

Answer 4

First, please understand that there is no easy way to save a broken marriage... Marriages don't become broken over night and they aren't restored that way either...

I would suggest the two of you enter counseling so that the real issues, the deep ones, can be brought to life and dealt with rather than just dealing with the surface issues...

Both of you have to want this and be committed to the process of restoration or it will not work...

Answer 5

You can't talk? It's gotten that bad? The question is why are you trying to save the marriage? If you are the only one who wants to save it,then it's gone. If the other party can look past the current hurt,and is WILLING to try to save it,and go to some third party for guidance then, maybe, there is hope,try talking to your minister, or Rabbi ,or priest ,or call your local social service agency to see what is available for counseling.

Answer 6

what exactly are you trying to save.
It does not sound like you even have a marriage.
A 'marriage' void of love and patience sounds like a jail sentence.
Seperate and see what happens

Answer 7

back off a little while and than try again to talk after the anger has worn off. ask him to go to counciling, if not than u go yourself, keep trying, if u love him don't give up.

Answer 8

You have to be willing to speak gently and not argue - gradually, if you don't fight back, your parnter will stop or continue to argue with himself. Counseling is another option. If he won't go, go on your own.

Answer 9

You need to find out what you are holding back and why. My husband kicked me out a week ago today because I pushed him away. Please, it's not too late, do something and make it for good! Take care!