Why is that black folks give my biracial daughter attitude more than whites do?

Question

Its a new day, isn't it? So why the hating? Its not like she invites the criticism with her behavior, she's only 6.

Answer 1

Unfortunately ignorance comes in all colors, shapes, and sizes. I am very sorry that your daughter has to deal with stuff like this at the tender age of 6. The best you can do is to teach her that not all people will treat her this way and she is beautiful no matter what color she is.

Answer 2

Don't despair too much, but don't feel that just ignoring the situation or pretending that it doesn't exist is the solution either - for your daughter's sake.

After living through similar situations my advice is to take some practical steps to protect your daughter. Even if it includes relocating to an area that is mixed. I am so grateful to my mother for sending me to mixed and culturally diverse schools. People (blacks and whites) who opt to live in these type of communities tend to be more liberal.

Also, I understand your question thouroughly, when white people don't accept us, it's easier to digest because you know the history, but when you are shunned by your own people it really bites at the soul.

God bless you and the little one.

Answer 3

my brother and I are biracial *half iranian, half black* and its almost like we are not allowed to claim our black heritage... We cant be black cuz we are white, and we cant be white cause we r black. My black family *mainly cousins* give us a hard time (to this day, im 17, they r 19-26). My iranian family on the other hand totally accept us. Its something shes gonna have to live with for the rest of her life. She just has to learn to be comfortable in her own skin and embrace her personality etc and never let silly people get her down, afterall shes a person and she can be whoever she wants to be, the color of her skin has nothing to do with that.

Answer 4

Its sad that people feel they gotta hate on her..especial a 6yo..i mean come on ya'll!! I dont know if you've heard of it but its the 'blacker than thou' situation. Where black folks feel more or less black than other black folks. Its sad that we 'rate' each other like that. Its bad enough other people do it to us. But if you want a good look at the blacker than thou idea, read Why are all the black children sitting together in the cafeteria.

Answer 5

This is not the sort of behavior singularly typical of black Americans. Within any homogeneous ethnic group, particularly one that derives a large portion of its identity as a racial minority, you will find rejection and racism reflected towards those of mixed heritage.

I can't imagine that there is a quantifiable difference between the reaction of white and black Americans towards your mixed-race child. Rather, my guess would be that you and your family simply have more contact with the latter.

Answer 6

I see it as, as a woman of Color myself, I do have resentment when our men choose a White girl over us. I think we're beautiful and so maybe that resentment harbors into all White ppl when they see you're kid. Also, of course, racism against people of Color makes us angry at White ppl. White people MAY be discriminatory but aren't open about their racism this day in age. Also, they go out of their way to NOT look racist and embrace people of Color. (I hate the label minority)

If I saw your child was mixed, I would be so proud of you for looking outside of the color "lines" and finding love in the person, not their race.

Answer 7

I'm so sorry this is happening to her. I know it hurts you now and when she realizes it's happening (if she hasn't already) it will hurt her too.
Babies don't deserve to be hurt by anyone.
All you can do is avoid people who may act that way and, in the meantime, tell her all the time how beautiful she is and how smart she is and how daring she is and how fun she is and her self esteem will be so high that she'll be able to ignore any negative remarks.

Answer 8

stupidity comes in all forms. i feel for what she'll have to go through but at the same time she'll end up being a very stong person in the long run. as long as you're there to love her through it there's not much you can do. i'd seriously teach her to look at it like this. they're (ignorant a holes) doing us a favor and making it easy to weed the worthless ones out. good luck to you hun : o )

Answer 9

The reason why is because they are jealous, and they don't have nothing else better to do. So they will gather with their friends and they will show their butts off by talking crap about other people. If you can please relax because those people that are doing the talking, are just talking about themselves. Just wait and see because their days are numbered. God don't like the ugly, and he will take care of those whom are being ugly! Just put a smile on your face and remember what I said about bad people! God will take care of them!

Answer 10

I sympathise with you. My children are white (from me) and Hispanic (from their dad who left me for his secretary.) They go through this every day, especially my daughter going through high school. She will come home saying that she is Mexican, because of the culture here in southern Calif. Racism is alive, its up to us to teach our children to not make it a problem. I'm upset that your own family would treat your daughter like this.