It's hurting my marriage of 7 years and five kids. I think they just don't want my husband and I to be happy. Or they just don't want an American and a Mexican together. And it's his side that doing this to me.
2006-12-28 16:02:27 · 5 answers · asked by Kyra G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would not go around them unless they start to respect you. You can talk to your husband and tell him how you feel but he is not going to really sympathize with you. You can have a family intervention or take one family member at a time and talk to them from the heart. Try to stay calm and tell them how much it hurts you that they talk about you. Explain to them how much you adore your husband and tell them you would like to start from scratch. If they do not respond then I say to heck with them and do not associate with them. Good luck.
2006-12-28 16:40:06 · answer #1 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a tad long, but you'll see......I am married almost 27yrs. I went through Exactly what your going through....I am Jewish, and my husbands father never liked that fact....My mother in law, I could never really do anything right by her, hell, I beat the crap out of my sister in law when I was 19 for the same crap your talking about.....These are people who couldn't have functioning long lasting relationships themselves, yet want to stick their noses where they don't belong...Oh, I don't even think so!!!!!....My mother in law and sister in law, tried to pull some crap with me about 8 yrs ago.....I had had it!!!!! I wasn't the stupid 19yr old who continually kissed my mother in laws behind, to try to get her to like me......I was a grown woman with grandchildren now.....? did I do.....I wrote her a letter, and told her to basically kiss my you know what, basically go to hell, and busted her for gossiping, because thankfully my sister in laws boyfriend IS a nice guy, and told me everything....he knew I wasn't aware of the crap those two were stirring, and when he went to comment on what they were talking about, those two got up and went in the house to continue their gossiping, he told me.....I busted my mother in law GOOD, let me tell you!!!!....I was NOT going to put up with it anymore, and there is no reason you should have to either....It took a video of my husbands 40th b-day, to see how his mother "blows me off", my daughter says "dad, did you just see what grandma did to mom"......He FINALLY saw what I tried to tell him without nagging, for YEARS......The BS was OVER!!!!......I have been in the same room with those two, once in the last 8yrs....I DON'T have to communicate with them, they aren't my family at all....(but their your husbands and.....) that is right, they are HIS.....and BS, there is no written law of ethics that says you HAVE to have a relationship with your spouses family, especially if they suck......My sister in law Has to have Drama, I can't stand it......It is toxic, and draining.....and I will not have that in my world......I work, have kids, grandkids, bills, household chores, etc....I have time for that crap, you've got to be kidding me....NO.......If someone or something is bad for your emotional, spiritual, or mental well being, you stay away from it, or remove it....We get ONE ride on this planet, and I want to be happy, not on egg shells around people who technically treat me like crap, when I never did it to them......They have no right to.....period......
2006-12-29 00:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply ignore it.
2006-12-29 00:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the talk about?_
2006-12-29 00:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT WILL WORK ITS SELF OUT .
2006-12-29 00:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by Lewie C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋