How do you get over a tragic loss? help?

Answer 1

By allowing yourself to grieve, to feel what you need to feel, and to not bury it away. When I lost my sister I buried it and ended up not dealing with it for years. Second time was my fiance and I went to the local hospice clinic in my town and attended grief and loss groups. You don't have to talk, it's free, and they will have it in your town. There are stages to the grieving process that you need to go through in order to move on. I am sorry for your loss.

Answer 2

Time helps to forget. Maybe you don't forget but you accept the inevitable and get on with life. It is better to have a positive attitude and consider this life as a game, where your loved one has finished his innings and got out of the game. It is now up to you to play the game well and make a solid score. And at the end of your game too, you can again meet your loved one, maybe in heaven, maybe someplace else. The loved one should be proud of you that you have played and scored well.

Answer 3

When my father died, I lost everything -- him, my house, the rest of my family, except for one sister, my job (family business), my health insurance, my way of life. I was devasted. Two things kept me going: My faith in God and my support group. I was very fortunate to having loving people in my life. My sister and my friends were there for me. Rely on your friends and your family to help you. If you do not have a support circle, go and find one, whether it is a religious group, a grief support group, or a trusted co-worker. When someone offers to listen to you, talk! Know in advance that you'll have good days and bad days and just try to get through a day (or a few hours) at a time. The biggest help (and one of the hardest things for me, at first) was to ask for help. Please don't feel like you have to do this all alone.
You're not alone. There really are people who care who want to help you. Please reach out and let them help.

Answer 4

Wow I'm really sorry.

I think the best thing to do is to find what is going to help you get through it and remember that you WILL get through it. Find something you feel like you need to live for and important to you.

Hope this helps I don't really know what exactly to say.

Answer 5

Terribly sorry.I had that happen to me too and I don't want to lie to you,was bad and took time to get over it.Be around people you feel good with,go out,have someone stay with you at home,go to gym(martial arts helped me to get over death of my first husband...) and be strong...people will tell you that God will help you but the truth is it's gonna be your friends who will help more...

Answer 6

get your finger off of your pain buttons, first tell the mind that u have two books to read one is to know when u are beating your pain button and the other volume to read is to know how stop beating your pain buttons, push rewards buttons for a while

Answer 7

Talking about it with a counselor helped me, plus the passage of time.

Answer 8

I DONT THINK THERE IS A SOLUTION!! once they're gone its just living off the memories, hoping that you'll dream of em, praying that you'll see em in the after life, speaking from experience i'd say taht the pain lessens but never goes away really.. idk., what helps me i guess is just doing little things like playin their song or watching those shows they liked i dunno stuff that they enjoyed kinda like just remembering them in the good ol days!

Answer 9

well, i lost my sister on september 11,2001.i just take it a day at a time.it helps if you have someone to talk to that understands what you are going through

Answer 10

the best way is to just forget they ever existed, take down all there pictures and burn them. maybe even see a shrink and see if he can erase them from your mind