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Question

ok hi guys how are you tonight im fine other than this me and my boyfriend has been going out for um About nine months and we are both ready for sexual activites and we both are very mature about it he has a condom so we will be proteced im 15 and he just turned 16 would i be a s l u t if i did anything? or not please help me with this guys u always do thank you so much!!!

Answer 1

im 15 too. you wouldnt be a slut but MAKE SURE HE USES THE CONDOM CORRECTLY. i don t wanna c u back on in 6 months asking for names. i mean girls our age do have sex. ok anyways back to the condom thing. ok use it correctly i mean u cant only get preggers but u can get HIV= death and other stds. be careful girlfriend

Answer 2

What is it about sex that is so enticing to you guys? Let's look at the facts:
There is NO 100% safe sex so pregnancy is always a possibility. Condoms are about 80% effective at best.

Would you be a sl*t was your next question. That is a very ambiguous term so I would say no, HOWEVER, and this is a BIG however. . . you will never feel the same about yourself or your b/f again. You will lose some of your self-respect and lose respect for him. . . particularly when he takes a hike as he will. The likelihood of you 2 staying together for life is slim to none. You WILL be hurt, perhaps devestated. (and you know I am telling you the truth). Second of all, the only gift you can give a future husband that no one else can give is your virginity. You have to ask yourself this question. . . do you want used goods when you get married? Forget the bs about "it's better if you have experience". . . that's GARBAGE. It is a lie, period.

Then you could get into the maturity arguments. You say you are "very mature". OK, if you are. . .
-what WOULD you do if you got pregnant?
-what would you do if your parents found out?
-what would you do if you got caught?
-what would you do if the condom broke?
-would you worry about pregnancy after sex?
-would you be afraid someone would find out?
If you are questioning your reputation after sex that is a WARNING sign to you.

It takes NOTHING for a guy to masterbate inside of you. There is no risk that he will get pregnant and it is doubtful he would ever be considered a sl*t, but YOU would.

I hope this helps. I could spend a lot more time on this, but you already have heard my heart.

Don't do this. . . .wait. You will thank me later (and your future husband will thank you).

Answer 3

When you have sex, you have to worry about pregnancy, disease, and your reputation. I don't know how much it's changed since I was in high school, but back then the girls who had sex were sluts and no one wanted to be their friends, and the guys who had sex were really cool....not fair at all, but that's how it was, and the girls who had reputations had to live with them for the rest of their high school years. Pregnancy is another worry...condoms break sometimes. Even experienced adults can have a condom break. My husband and I had it happen twice. Neither time resulted in a pregnancy, but that was luck. If we had gotten pregnant, we were old enough to handle it. If you get pregnant at 15, you'll have a decision to make that will haunt you, no matter what you decide. If you abort, you'll think of that lost baby throughout your life, and if you decide to have the baby, you'll wonder what opportunities you missed while you were raising your child. As far as disease...you can't tell if someone has a disease from looking at them. They may not even know they have something, because men don't always have symptoms. STD's can damage a woman's fertility. I guess the real questions you need to ask yourself are: Are you mature enough to go get birth control on your own? What would you do if you had an accidental pregnancy (even with birth control it can happen)? Are you going to wish you were a virgin for the man you eventually marry? I know at your age it seems like relationships will last forever, but if the relationship ends, are you going to regret having had sex?

There are plenty of things you can do together without having actual intercourse...why don't you look on the planned parenthood website for info about teen sexuality? They list many things you can do, and the possible risks of each one.

Answer 4

You seem to have a negative concept of having sex at this time in your life. Anytime you have any doubts like that, you need to listen to your internal dialog. You do not need to have any negative thoughts about yourself at this tender age.

With that being said:

You really need to start seeing a gyno before sexual activity. Also, condoms can break and often do with first time users. This is a big step and once made, you can not back up. Do you have an adult you can talk to about this? Both you and your boyfriend are too involved to discuss without the sexual tension. If your friends have done it, they will tell you it is okay go for it, you can't ask someone that really hasn't done it. Ask someone with the wisdom of having sex and the hindsight of consequences of the act.

Don't ever call yourself a "slut"! Really think about this and best of luck what ever decision you make.

Answer 5

As long as you think you're ready for it. Condoms have a 99% effectivity rate - the 1% is when it breaks. However, they don't protect against all STDs, so if he's been sleeping around, you might want to rethink this. I know you think you're mature, but think hard - I don't think there's anything wrong with it, but sex can get to you, especially if you thought you could trust the guy and it turns out you can't - he talks about it at school, dumps you afterward, you get jealous, etc. Be safe and have fun if you're going for it!

Answer 6

Number one, you're not mature enough to have sex. You may THINK you are but I KNOW you're not. I doubt either one of you has a decent paying job, and I KNOW that neither one of you has a permanent full time job because neither one of you is 18. Neither one of you has a decent education and obviously you've slept through your health classes. Just because you have a condom doesn't make you ready or mature enough to have sex. Condoms can break, they can slip and YOU are too young to get the morning after pill without a prescription. What makes you ready and mature enough to have sex? When you are old enough to be emotionally as well as FINANCIALLY prepared to take RESPONSIBLITY for ALL of the CONSEQUENCES that come from having sex. That INCLUDES pregnancy as well as STDS, HIV and the ever popular HPV which by the way is not spread by bodily fluids but by skin to skin contact...that means that even IF he has a condom and it works perfectly, if he has the virus he will spread it to you because condom's don't cover the ENTIRE male sex organs and that which is exposed touches the parts of you that are exposed. HPV is a major cause of cervical cancer in women...so are you WILLING to risk your reproductive future/your LIFE because you feel that being 15 and 16 you're "mature" enough to have sex? I think not.

Answer 7

You just need to wait. Whats the big rush. Your taking a big risk of getting pregnant. Even if you do use a condom, the condom can tear. You are only 15 and remember there is such a thing as STDs. You can never be to sure.

Answer 8

Icondone sex before marriage. Since you are asking condomsdo not provide very safe sex protection. If you decide to then you need to go on the Pill which will reduce the chancesof having a baby. How well do you know this guy? Would he stand by in case something went wrong and you did fall pregnant?Having sex is a major commitment/ It is not something to be fooled around with.

Answer 9

i would recomend waiting but..... i did it at 15 too. I had the same thoughts and feelings as u at that age and now looking back... it was a wrong choice. I am even married and have been with the same man since i was 14. he was my 1st and only and i still wish we would have waited. being with the same person from 14 and on is unusual by all means. at ur age u think ull be together for ever but it dosent usually happen that way. i was lucky and blessed. please wait. if not.... are u and him ready to support a child? condoms break. ours did many times. thank God I didnt have a child until we were married, but i have friends who had them at 15, 16, 17, and so on

Answer 10

u will not be a slutty, but i do not advise doing it unless u have 2 means of birth control, as in condom+birth control pill or condom+emergancy contraption pill (morning after) or condom+abortion. even if u do have these i would still not advise you, but i cant stop u, just put the condom on correctly (condoms r really 99 percent good if u use them correctly, but in todays society it is lowered to 80 percent- they dont use them right) i really dont think ur ready. but if u feel that way, but do remember that sex was meant to be 4 having babys. also do it in a magical way if u do, not in the trashy,ummmmm, well i think u get the point. be safe and u got my 2 cents

Answer 11

You will not be a slut but I'm sure alot people are going to call you one to be mean. Best advice is to wait, having sex is a very special thing and it be best you have it with someone you know you will spend the rest of your life with. Trust me I got pregnant at 17 and dumb enough to think the guy would stick around and he walked out. You two are very responsible by having that condom ready but think things thru and wait. Good luck!