my mother is driving me insane and not just in the way like a mom does she is constantly in a p.ss..d off mood and yealling and forcing me to do ting id want to do like the stupid religion she makes me participate in i have to wear skirts everyday icant cut my hair i cant wear make up ihave to have long sleves i have to wait till im like 18 to date and like21 to marry i cant even talk about sex with anyone icant hang out with the ppl i want to i cvant listen to anything but christian music so i rebell and she yells as if it is going to help and my dad just sits thre and does nt get involved in my life unless it is really bad i cry all the time especially at night i am so depressed ive thot of taking my own life but my friends always talk me out of it im in love with some one and i have been for 4 years and i nevedr have told him because of my fear of rejection!!!! theres alot of other **** going on right now and i cant take it what do i do?????
2006-12-28 15:15:07 · 5 answers · asked by catiegraham 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
wow that really sux!!! i'm so sorry i really am!!!!:S
how many years until u r 18? if only like 2, just try and put up with it...like...go out and get a guitar, and just practice and practice it and write music and poetry...get into art...start drawing...these are very good means of self expression which really help me up when i'm in a down...i really hope that one day u can tell that boy u love ur feelings and that when u r 18, ur life will be a lot better -- maybe a good idea is to make sure u do good in school...get a job at a store or a mcdonalds and earn money and put it in A PRIVATE BANK ACCOUNT and when u graduate highschool u can move and get a college dorm somewhere and have ur own life.
what ur parents are doing is not what a good parent would do and it's good that u r trying to seek help.
i really hope that u can get out of this situation soon,
good luck,
xao:)
2006-12-28 15:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not mention your age,but I am going to guess between 14 and 16. You have several options for dealing with the stress:
1. Run away. I do NOT recommend this option. Believe me that nobody will come out a winner and it will probably mess up your life for years to come.
2. As some people around here say, "Put on your big girl panties and deal with it." Come to the realization that you are the child and your parents are in charge. Deal with it.
3. Calmly and quietly talk to your parents. Do not try to talk about everything at once. And do not put your parents on the defense. approach them with respect and ask if some compromise might be possible.
4. Talk to an adult you trust. This could be a teacher, guidance counselor, pastor, neighbor, or even a relative. They may not be able to help the situation, but it is a way for you to get things off your chest in a positive way so you can keep your sanity.
A personal word please: Be proud that you have parents that care enough to want to protect you. Maybe you do not appreciate HOW they are doing that, but you can appreciate the fact that they do care.
2006-12-28 23:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow. Can you speak with your pastor or youth minister? Maybe you can vent all this frustration on them and see if they can do some mediation with your parents. Some of the restrictions you mention do sound tough, but nothing you cannot live with. I think if your parents knew how strung out you are, they would be willing to talk with you and help you, I'm sure. Try writing them a letter voicing your opinions instead of crying and yelling since that is not a good way to communicate effectively. Good luck, I think your parents have your best interests at heart, you all just need to find a way to work things out.
2006-12-28 23:37:33 · answer #3 · answered by KGirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old are you hun? To be honest with you, I wouldn't like that either, but I wouldn't kill myself because of it. My advice to you right now would be to honor your parents, do as they ask without any arguments, you'll turn 18 soon, I'm guessing. As soon as you are 18, you have the right to move out and will also have the right to choose your own religion. Stop rebelling, your situation will only get worse by doing that. Hang in there girl, you'll make it.
2006-12-28 23:50:33 · answer #4 · answered by ksgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well whether you want to see it or not your parents no matter how irritating they can be they are a big blessing to us. You just have to realize when your young they try to keep you from making the same mistakes they made and try to get you to lead a better life. And just to be honest god isn't pleased to hear you say that you want to take your life he loves you and you have people here at yahoo answers that care about you. Life is too short for you to stay mad at your parents and if you've loved someone for 4yrs. you should tell him because we're not promised tomorrow so you have to tell people that you love them while their still breathing and alive to hear it regardless of the outcome at least they'll know how you feel. So you just relax and listen to your parents and when the day comes for you to spread your wings and leave the nest you'll be thankful for the values your parents taught you. God Bless!
2006-12-28 23:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋