we've hurt each other so much. we fight constantly. And there's been other people. But in the back of our minds we don't want to live without one another. And deep in our hearts, there is real love.
How do we stop hating each other?
2006-12-28 15:12:19 · 14 answers · asked by 22sa 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Really it sounds stupid, but you need to try to say many little things throughout the day that boost his ego. I used to have that same problem. Just tell him things like you look very good today.ect.. If he does not return the compliments within a few days i would break up!! and remember to bite your tounge for the next few days while trying this!!!!! Little things do not matter that much.
2006-12-28 15:21:35 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, the two of you have to make a committment to each other to save your relationship. Secondly, you need to find the root of your problems. What do you fight about? Is it true disagreements or petty fights due to a deeper problem. Next, you also need to figure out why there have been other people. Is it because your relationship is lacking something that you get from others? Can you both move past the fact that there have been others?
If you truly are committed to saving your relationship, it may be time to seek a professional's advice. Keep in mind that having that safety net of someone to fall back on, even if you fight and hurt each other, is not love.
Best of luck in whatever you decide.
2006-12-28 23:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by blue_seahorse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't think fighting constantly is worth it. If you are more miserable then you are happy I wouldn't stick around. You asked how you stop hating each other and that, to me, sounds as if there is still anger between you both. Just because two people love each other doesn't mean they should be together.
2006-12-28 23:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by ←Shea→ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not real love. When you really love someone you don't cheat. It's that simple. Maybe you are so used to being together you are afraid of being alone. Sometimes it's better to be alone. How long are you going to drag this out. Open your eyes and realize that it's not working. Stop wasting your time. Good Luck.
2006-12-28 23:18:55 · answer #4 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only possible way you are going to get through all the hurt is through counseling. You both need to stop the fooling around because the other is fooling around. No more, tit for tat. No more hurting the other because they hurt you. It is time to break the cycle. Good luck...
2006-12-28 23:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sacrificing.. both of you need to sacrificing each others... decrease your egoistic...
you know baby.. in love you want to uniting 2 different people with their differences, so make the differences as the beautiful things not as the things that need to be debated and fighting each others..
wisk your problem will end soon...
2006-12-29 00:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u can work things out then work them out but if theyr still lik hwo they were aways fightin then its time to move on cuz u guys rnt doin so good
2006-12-28 23:16:04 · answer #7 · answered by ayounglady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a professional.
2006-12-28 23:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage councelling!!!
2006-12-29 01:18:17 · answer #9 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be brave and strong. Time to move on. You know it.
2006-12-28 23:14:15 · answer #10 · answered by swingfromhips 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋