17 preganant with 3?

Question

i had safe sex with my boyfriend. condom and the pill, but i still got pregnant. i just found out im having triplets. i dont know what to do. i could handle one, but three is too many for a 17 year old. i can afford one but not 3. i cannot give them up for adoption because its too much heartache, especially for me. and im probably the most anti-abortion person u will ever meet. so what should i do. 3 babies and one me ...
im still at school but by the time they are born i will be finished school already.

Answer 1

Well First off I'm not here to judge or to put u down congratulations. I disagree wit the others when they say beg ur boyfriend or parents. U shouldn't have to BEG anyone. I'm 17 too and i had twins and everyone was against me, and yeah i was scared like u but then one night i had just got out of work(i work 3 jobs) and i was doing my homework when my baby kicked and it was the best feeling in the world and that's when i knew that i live life for me and them and not care about the negativity from others. Just Be Strong and Stay in school even if ur going through a tough time cuz u don't just wanna educate yourself but one day u gonna have to educate them as well. E-mail if u ever wanna talk.

Answer 2

This sounds difficult because i have heard of 17 year olds not being able to handle 1 but 3 that is tough but not impossible. That is good that you are not thinking about abortion because that is a horrible thing to do and giving them for adoption is a tough thing to do too. Maybe your family can help you with the babies and the baby's father can too and his family. YOu will make it through one way or another.
Good Luck!

Answer 3

I know it'll be hard, but adoption seems to be the best option in our situation. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders, graduate from highschool and go to college. Get a good job, get married and have a family. You can always have the adoption remain open, so you can be in their lives as much as you and their adoptive parents agree on. You want your kids to be raised in a good home, with everything they want and need. That'll be hard to do with three children when you are 17, even if your family is supporting you. Check out the options in your area. You can go through a public, private, religious or many other offices. In the end it's your choice. But remember to put your future and the future of your children first. Don't worry what others will think of you for doing what you do.

Answer 4

Maybe talk to close family looking to have children, like an aunt or cousin who wants children. Get some possible adoptees who you know you'll see frequently lined up, and consider if you want to give them some-or all-of your children. That way, it won't be as depressing, but you'll be splitting up triplets on the downside, and as an upside, you'll see them at every family function and give your family much satisfaction. You could also get child support from the father, and have him get partial custody, and get lots of help from family. Do you have cousins who are preparing to be pregnant? Get them to take "Mommy 101" Hands-On by helping you raise your triplets, and don't plan on going on dates for a while. When they're in school, you can apply for a community college, like Bryman or Maric. Then, you'll be able to get a job while they're in school.

Good luck, and congratulations!

Answer 5

well it is hard to give birth to 3 kids. most people miscarry with even twins. so maybe you might be lucky and miscarry.. since you say you dont want kids. thats an accomplishment though triplets. anyways did you follow your pills regulalry? took them on time everyday?and didnt miss any pills? i dont think you did,. and the condom probably broke im sorry this is happening to you. but even though it will hurt giving up the babies for adoption (if they all make it) they will have a much better life. you will only be in a way selfish by keeping them. you cannot provide fro them even withthe help of your bf. keeping them would only help ease your pain of not giving them away. but giving them up for adoption is your best bet. they would have a better life.
good luck

Answer 6

For one, you shouldn't be having sex. If your against abortion and adoption, your only choice is to keep the baby. Try and work things out with your boyfriend and pray. Only God can help you now. Family can do all so much before they give up.

Answer 7

don't get sacred ask for help to your mom they are clinic that can help you also i think in this case the government should help with food stamp and you can also apply for housing you can do it please don't abort god will never give us something we cant handle and if you used all that protection and still got pregnant i think is because that baby were meant to be and thats why they are there loves them raise them you see i probably be hard the first months but it will be worthy you have been blessed with triplets that something amaising i got pregnant at 15 and here i am ok everything has work out fine now im 19 and have 2 child and is all ojk i have my house and everything if you finished schol before they are born the state caan help you with a child care while you work they even paid for it so dont get scared you can just look for help hope this help and my best wishes

Answer 8

Give 2 up for adoption and raise one. That way you have 1 to raise and love without the hassle of 3. I suggest you pick which one you want to keep with your boyfriend and get jobs.

Answer 9

If you are not giving them up for adoption you need to start by enlisting your family and friends to do research for possible grants by baby companies, social service organizations, and ministries in your area that can help you.

Answer 10

Good luck to you , your sure gonna need it....But look at it this way..yes having to take care of triplets is going to be really tough but you were blessed with three little miracles!! Try to find help and support in your family , friends, and community..Remember what dosen`t kill you will make you stronger!! Best wishes to you and your little family!!