Is your partner claiming her on your taxes, LOL?
How many of you out there are true grit Mama's boys?
I talking about taking total care of yo mama, being her be all end all, getting her drugs, taking her to dr, cleaning her house, staying with her when she is scared at night thus leaving cute brown eyed wifey at home?
Just curious if any of you have a mother that REQUIRES you to be hubby to her?
How many of you have a mother that provides a daily dose of guilt thus making you her slave?
Just curious?
2006-12-28 14:54:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
guess im the only one, lol
2006-12-28 15:02:00 · update #1
I guess you are and I feel sorry for you_
2006-12-28 15:06:12 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is obviously co-dependent "loves her little boy". there is nothing wrong with helping her, but there is a right way and wrong way to do it so it doesn't affect your relationship with your wife. first off, establish a mutual communication system. she communicates to you and you communicate to her. sounds like you are afraid to speak honestly with her. set some boundaries as to what you will and wont due and times that you are available and not available. she doesn't feel loved cause she doesn't love herself. she has low self esteem so she has to try to get people to prove their love for her, even if she has to use guilt to motivate them to do something for her. if possible, get other siblings or relatives to share in the load. tell her the guilt trips have got to stop and let her know how it makes you feel when she does that. i recommend a book called "BOUNDARIES". It is by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. it deals with your exact situation. Most christian book stores carry it as well as other types of book stores. you can also order it on line at www.newlife.com . another suggestion is to see a good counselor. you and your wife both. they will give you some good advise and show you how to handle this situation without letting it affect your relationship with your wife. the book also does that. hope this helps. :)
2006-12-28 15:27:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh....my ex husband's mother was like that. She felt the need to tell us how to spend our paychecks, critique our clothing, and just was so annoying. I felt like doing a Minnie Pearl thing and putting hanging price tags on everything in the house.
Not as bad as what you've outlined, but I still don't miss my ex shrew-in-law.
2006-12-28 15:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother in law drives me crazy. my husband has to take her to the store, she calls and says something is broken, when he gets there its not broken at all, he has reemed her out many times before but she plays dumb and turns around and does it again we are now talking about moving out of state to get away from her
and at the rehersal we were talking about seating i almost gave my seat to her so she could sit right beside him its a good thing i love my husband
2006-12-28 15:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by mary l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby's mom is hypocondriac and she cant work. all she gets is disability checks, and spends her money on drugs (illegal) then expects us to send her $200 everytime she runs outta money. She never has anyplace to stay. but she is alwayz bumming off of us
2006-12-28 16:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother-in-law (MIL) followed us when we moved to another state! we were moving to get away from her, but that obviously didn't work!! oh, and she asks us for money all the time even though she has a good job (where's it going??)
2006-12-28 16:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by AppleLady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋