I have this one guy friend. I am really close to him. The thing is, I think he may be gay or something. Most of his friends are girls, it is very easy for him to keep a conversation going, he is more mature than the other straight guys I know, and he doesn't mind shopping.. but it doesn't really seem to me like he is gay.. I just don't know. what do you think? can someones straight have these qualities?
2006-12-28 14:53:05 · 30 answers · asked by Just Me 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
oh and i dont want to ask him, becuz if he isn't i wouldn't want to offend him
2006-12-28 14:55:48 · update #1
well.. i want to know if he is gay cuz i think i may like him more than just a friend.. so it would be kinda weird if he was gay, but even if he was, i have nothing against gays, we would definately still be friends
2006-12-28 15:05:38 · update #2
i dont mean to offend straight guys by immplying that they couldn't have these qualities, im just kinda confused from what i have heard and he doesn't talk like someone gay and no he doesn't dress gay
2006-12-28 15:08:46 · update #3
more answers pleases?!
2006-12-28 15:16:49 · update #4
He might be gay. I've got gay male friends who fit that description fairly well. But he also might be straight- some of my closest male friends are straight guys who fit that description. He might also be bisexual. Heck, he might not know yet himself!
I went through something similar with my friend Sam a few years ago. We had a class together (where we met) and since it ended just before lunch time we'd often go get lunch together after class and just talk. He's one of the most articulate, polite, intelligent men I know- and he's well-dressed, well-groomed, and just generally really good-looking, too. Needless to day, I developed a bit of a crush on him. But for the longest time I couldn't figure out if he was gay or straight or what because he fit so may of the stereotypes of being a "gay man" but he really didn't give me the impression that he was gay. Long story short, he's straight. I eventually met his girlfriend (Rachel- really sweet girl. I quite like her, and they're great together) at a concert on campus. I got over the crush, and Sam and I are still good friends. My point with this? The only way to find out is from him- you could ask directly (which would probably be really akward for all involved). If he *is* gay, he'll let you know in his own way when he's ready to. Go ahead and try flirting a little and see how he responds. He may well be interested in being more-than-friends, too. Just keep in mind that your *friendship* with him is much more important in the long run than any romantic entanglement.
2006-12-28 16:53:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I have the worst gaydar in the world despite being gay myself, as for your friend, I wouldn't ask him directly, I would start asking a little about his love life in general before going to the point. After all, every man is straight until proven gay!
Shopping is masified now amongst men so it's not a good indicator, probably if he likes disco divas and knows all their songs then it's more stereotypical.
But seriously, if you don't ask him only time and experience will tell for sure, and if you ask him only a strong assertive answer by him (I'm not gay!) can tell you he is straight, if he hesitates or gives even a slightly dubious answer, then yes, he is gay.
2006-12-28 15:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by Sebastian 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why can't a straight man have these qualities? Would you still be his friend if he was gay? Just be his friend and maybe if the opportunity arises you can discuss sexuality in a non confrontational manner. I just don't see why it should matter if you are really close to him as you say. Unless you want him as a boyfriend. Then definitely talk to him.
2006-12-28 15:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by It's been awhile 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to make him your boyfriend, then you simply don't need to know.
A lot of guys, especially those with a housful of sisters, are more comfortable around women than they are around men. They tend to be mature-seeming, well-spoken, and empathetic to the women around them.
They Don't understand dating, since asking girls out is a skill guys learn from each other and by watching their peers. They tend to want the woman to make her desires absolutely clear before they feel safe making a "romantic" move.
You should ask him out on a date. If he accepts, make themove and kiss him. If things progress, then you have your answer.
If he wants to stay "just friends" then leave it alone. If he wants you to know that he's gay he'll tell you.
He may not be gay, just not want to date you. Which would you prefer.
2006-12-28 15:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by chocolahoma 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he could jus be a metro sexual its very common for people to confuse the qualities of bein a metro wit the qualities of being gay the only real diference is the attraction to the same sex as for hang around with girls he's a guy that likes girls so it makes sense for him to be around girls right he just may be more in touch with his feminine side if u believe in dat stuff but if you really wanna kno just build the guts to ask him but try not to come off as a homophobic
2006-12-28 14:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by HP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.. it is actually hard to tell that while we do not see this guy on how he acts and talks. And your information about him is not enough to make us think that he might be gay. because there are a lot of straight guys like that.
Does he have a girlfriend? Does he talk about beautiful girls?
If he does not, he could probably be gay.... but im not sure, okay? :)
2006-12-28 14:57:34 · answer #6 · answered by Mr.HumanCurious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but he doesn't sound at all gay. He seems very cool.
Pay more attention to the way he dresses and the way he talks, and if he has any interaction at all with girls outside of friendship, like flirting or dating. But like the above answerer said, if you really want to know, ask him. Nicely of course.
2006-12-28 14:57:01 · answer #7 · answered by Barb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could possibly be gay..I'd say throw in a question when its just the two of you like, that guy is cute. See what his response is..if he doesnt want you to know though, he wont tell you. He will when he's ready, if hes gay
2006-12-28 15:44:46 · answer #8 · answered by W.E.S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 21:43:04 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, start off by saying, "your my best friend (one of my best) and I would never want to hurt you, ever . . . but are you gay? If you are, that's great, no problems. I don't need to know, I'm just curious. My secret!"
He'll tell you, yes, no or run away! lol But seriously, if he is, he's probably more worried about HOW YOU'D FEEL than how he feels telling you.
2006-12-28 15:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋