What should I do???
I am a really caring guy and there is this girl I like, We are both sophmores and have known each other a long time and we both know we like each other. She is mostly "anti touch " she was when I met her and for alittle while after. but we have grown closer and i really like her, but I think she will not like to hold hands or hug, and I respect her so I don't. even though I am a more touchy kind of guy. and I mean with everybody I always love hugs any time from most anyone.SO WHAT SHOULD i DO TO GROW CLOSTER IN OUR RELATIONSHIP. and I want mature answers, and please do not mention sex I am saving that for marraige.
2006-12-28 14:43:54 · 15 answers · asked by 1-4-all 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Give it time. The longer you two are together as a couple, the closer you will become. The deeper the emotional attraction, the easier it is to have a physical relationship. Stimulate her mind,and the body will follow.
2006-12-28 14:48:33 · answer #1 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talking is a way to grow closer you do not have to touch. You will talk about everything from her favorite color to what she likes to do to relax before going to bed. Does she like taking a bath or taking a shower? Does she like to Dance? If so, ask her to dance there is light touching there that could bring you both closer.
She may have been hurt and is scared to really get close to someone and not touching is a way of keeping the space to keep her safe. One day at a time, one step at a time. Listening and learning what she wants.
If you really care then you will be willing to take all the time that is necessary.
2006-12-28 14:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. shes probably so anti touch because in the past she has had bad experiences about her falling in love.. with some guy that didnt really respond
2. shes is not playing hard to get.. you guys have come a long way...
know from experience because i was like.. that and i think sometimes i am ... with my bf.. i think its more of a think that she is hiding .. probably she feels.. unloved or appreciated by other people.. (family? perhaps) I say you talk to her about it.. and tell her that you are there for her.. no matter what .. and ask her for a hug.. because YOU nEED it.. that way she could not say no.. dont ask her if she needs a hug.. spit game.. go for it and tell her YOU ARE THE ONE that needs a huG.. in less time than you know.. she will be opening up to you and probably smiling more.. but #1 reason why shes like that is because she is hiding sometimes.. perhaps.. her fear of falling for you ... or just problems that she has been facing lately... talk to her in a daily basis ... take her out and even tho she might tell u "i dont want to talk about it".. insist on it.. and if she keeps saying no... do the hug game.. say "i need a hug because i dont like to see you like that" i know it might sound kinda of korny but.. that what realy men are about... !!!! supporters!!
2006-12-28 14:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Truth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off your pretty cool smart guy. I wouldnt worry about it to much. Be yourself and if you click it will be because she also wants to know more about you. You can always ask her if it ok to hold hands or a hug every now and again. if she knows your views on wanting to wait for marriage she may respect that alot. But remember that is the way you feel and keep you relations friendly.
2006-12-28 14:51:16 · answer #4 · answered by janine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably from a family that is that way so just give her time respect her wishes as you are doing. She will probably come around in time to things when the relationship gets to mairrage. Just dont expect too much in that area. Some people just arent touch feely :)
2006-12-28 14:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by Catie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I totally give you props for waiting...Second I would just ask her..girls are so hard to understand if you don't get a direct answer from them...Tell her you want to go further in your relationship but nothing that would jeopardize her morals and feelings....You just have to be blunt..you sound like a good guy so I think you already know the answer to your own question....
2006-12-28 14:52:03 · answer #6 · answered by kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should go ahead and hold her hand. thats not very touchy feely in my book. if she doesnt like it then she will let go. just take it slow and let her know other ways how much you really care for her. there are more ways to show her you care. leave her little notes, leave her messages on her voicemail, send her flowers, or simply just tell her how nice she looks. good luck i hope it works out for you two.
2006-12-28 14:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by babyblues452 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
good thing 2 save dat sex for marriage, me too, well anywayz, if u wanna get closer 2 each other, den yall should just plainly talk 2 each other,get 2 no more about each other, go out wit friends, nd ask her 2 go wit u, theres no harm about dat
2006-12-28 14:54:31 · answer #8 · answered by personaltiyqueen92 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow a guy who is saving sex for marriage! they still exist! sorry.... um talk to her about it. dont make jokes that shes frigit or anything. say things like why dont you like me touching you? and suggest that it offends you adn she may let down her guard. she have been hurt in a previous relationship, or ben raped or abused or sumthing or just inexperienced. its good of u to give her space, theres physical side too...
2006-12-28 14:51:44 · answer #9 · answered by flying_tigers999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A girl likes a guy that will resect her. If you have patience, and can respect her and her feelings, your relationship will begin to grow closer!
2006-12-28 14:48:53 · answer #10 · answered by Kayla W 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋