How do u be confident when all's ur head tells u is that ur ugly and stupid?

Answer 1

get an education, and learn how to write.

Answer 2

That's a difficult one. This is something that you can only change overtime...there's no true quick fix. You have to analyze yourself, find things that are beautiful about you physically then look at what you don't like and find something positive about it. You have to mold yourself to love yourself. Play off your best assets. A lot of times the way you dress affects the way you feel about how you look. Hang around people who point out the stuff that is positive about you, that really helps build your confidence.

A lot of times performance at school mainly depends on the method you use to work. The best motto I've heard is "Work smart not hard." That doesn't mean don't work hard it just means don't overwork yourself and be strategic. Organize your study time so that you have a good balance of life and school. Life isn't all about school but its not all about fun either. Learn principles and ensure you understand the basics...cause everything is a build up. Get tutoring if you need. Sometimes you have to change your study habits...for example, you may be an acoustic learner (learn by hearing) but your using a method where you read in your head instead of out loud...so you don't remember as much.

But it is all primarily psychological, so whatever way you choose to use - it has to start with a major change mentally and emotionally in you. Just know that it isn't easy, so don't give up.

Answer 3

Stop hanging with the wrong crowd. You need friends who will encourage you, care about you & not put you down. If they act like friends but trash you all the time, let 'em know nicely that you don't want to talk like that anymore, since it may just be the way you all grew up, trading insults and all. If your'e hurting from that because somewhere, somehow, some of it took root in your thinking, you need to get away from it or put a stop to it in a nice way. If you have to spend more time away from so-called friends who make cuts like that, they may ask why you haven't been around so much. If you tell them very nicely, without it seeming like a cut at them, they may understand & try to do better.
Also, I know a brother of mine who wasn't so book-smart, y'know, but when he got into doing stuff with his hands like woodwork, metalwork, plastics, outdoor sports, etc. he had a real knack for it. He had ribbons all over his wall going up to regional & state levels during high school. -- What are you good at? what are you interested in? Maybe find a community college that offers some courses in something you can do & maybe that will also enhance your income. If you're in a poor job or unemployed, especially if you have a family, that can leave you feeling horrible and maybe with some people talking trash about you rather than being supportive & encouraging. Hang in there, and trust God. Maybe pray about & find a full gospel church where the pastor prays a lot about the sermons he preaches. You can tell the difference. I know I could, even when I didn't know what I was looking for, I could tell that there was a difference between a "live" church & a "dead" one, (sometimes even within the same denomination).

Answer 4

Just see the bright side.
If you believe your ugly & stupid (no matter if this was true or not)you can´t be worse off any more. So what´s to stop you from being truly free? Now the only way is up! You don´t have to regard others´oppinions any more and should be able to do whatever you feel & be yourself.
Soon you will discover that personality is a persons strongest asset anyway. Be yourself and allow others to love you for what you are and not for your appearence.

Answer 5

If u keep asking the same question, ask different people, take a poll. Tabulate ur answers as in a survey. The feedback is opinion based on the answerers perspective. Ur perspective is what counts. Who would u listen to? Is confidence in u or in someone else? If u, then that's where the confidence begins.

Answer 6

Your head? Your head is you. Let us take you on your word and literally. Your IQ is about 75 and you really are very asymmetric. First; you need to accept who you are, even if the description I made is not you. Second; ugly can be countered by doing good works for others, then people tend to over look your level of attractiveness. Second; if you are doing the best you can at what you are doing, then people tend to lose their thoughts of you being stupid. You must act, though, artificial means to self-esteem are just that; artificial.

Answer 7

It's not easy. Nobody can do it but you. What you have to do is start listenning to others. Everybody goes through this or something similar atleast for a period of their lives. I don't understand how it processes through the brain, but nice looking people feel ugly, skinny people feel fat, smart people feel stupid, Etc. However, tall people probably know they are tall because of the bumps on thier heads. (sorry, I had to say something wierd, thats what MY brain does to ME). Get up every morning and say out loud "I am smart and beutiful". When you look in the mirror don't look for flaws, again, we all have them. Instead, look at your beauty points. When you know an answer, tell yourself that "YOU knew that". It could be a passing faze, or you may have to work on it, but be possitive. And as I read above me somewhere, once someone special begins pointing out your beauty, this will reinforce what you have began telling yourself and you will feel smart and beutiful. So quit the negs, start the psitives and remember......... YOU are gorgeous!

Answer 8

Take a chance. Do something you've always wanted to do but have been afraid to- if possible, something related to your appearance, such as dying your hair or painting your nails a vivid, uncharacteristic color. For one thing, you'll get compliments on your new look. Some of them may just be polite, but accept them all. At least one will be sincere. And you'll feel confident because you took a risk, even if the actual results weren't great.

Answer 9

Well. do you believe in yourself? If you don't, you don't believe in your looks. But if you do, sometimes you can see the good things about yourself. I used to think that but once I actually looked at myself with some confidence, I notice how good skirts looked on me. But of course I still don't have the courage to wear them in public. First try to get rid of all those bad things people have said about you, and think about the good things people have said to you. Sure there are some bitches that want to bring you down because they know you have low confidence and little or no courage but don't let them see that. Pretend that everything is fine and your happy. Ignore what other people say. Only you can say those things to yourself. So if you tell yourself you are beautifull then you are. Try on your favorite outfit and look yourself in the mirror and say "I rule and I look awsome too" or some other positive saying. Good Luck with that!!!!

Answer 10

Whoever first said that you're ugly and stupid doesn't really matter.
You have allowed your head to act like a parrot and repeat this silly stuff until you believe it.
Tell your head to shut up and listen, and then tell it what to say:
I am a human being, a miracle of existence. I am an expression of power and beauty, and I see this power and beauty reflected in all of nature.
Then, take a minute to think of snow flakes.
Do you know that there is not ONE snow flake exactly like the other?
Which is the perfect snowflake?
YOU ARE.
We all are.
They all are.

Answer 11

That is programming from your childhood!!!!!!

you need to get to the bottom of it, to dig it all out and look at it. No matter how many times you tell yourself what the other good people here are telling you--that you are not ugly and stupid, it won't really work except temporarily.

You have to get to the source. you have been PROGRAMMED. Where did it come from?