2006-12-28 14:41:27 · 33 answers · asked by fran d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give him a choice - the drugs or you and the kids. The kids need a father, not a drug addict who happens to be good looking.
2006-12-28 14:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by Buffy Summers 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where does he get the money from?? is that the example that you want for your kids? I know that you don't want your kids to end up doing drugs too, do you?? ask him that same question and if he really loves he's kids, then he will get the help he needs.If his problem is heroin or pills he can go to a methadone clinic, even if it's for detox.(they have 21 days treatment to detox the body, there is a lot of places that you can go too, depending on your state, if you love him, help him,but make sure your life and your kids safety is not at risk.usually people turn their backs on drug addicts, we are all humans and feel too! be a good wife and find some help for your hubby, but if he does not want the help for your own good leave him, your kids don't deserve to have an active drug addict as a father.
2006-12-28 14:57:16 · answer #2 · answered by mamachula01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So he gorgeous and great with the kids but he has a drug problem, Well..........the drugs will take care of the looks in time and also in time the drugs will take such a toll on him, your relationship will suffer and so will the relationship with the kids. If he does not work, then how does he get the drugs? I think you need to try to get him some help.
2006-12-28 15:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by frustrated 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As painful as it is, the children deserve a father who is sober and will remember their times together. You must be the adult here. Mr Gorgeous has to be a positive role model or he's OUT. Children are children for a short period of time but it impacts their lives forever. Do you continue to work while he does drugs? What message does that send? Why are you even putting up with Mr. I don't work?? I SO do not get that. Good luck.
2006-12-28 14:50:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of the well-being of your kids first. Your husband has made a choice, but your kids are not able to make their own choice about life style.
Take you kids and leave him. Tell him first, and give him time to enter a detox program. Give him a deadline for this. If the deadline comes and goes without him getting help, then take the kids and leave. In the mean time you can make your plans about where to go and what to do without telling him a thing. That way he will not know where you and the kids are when he fails to follow through on the detox plan.
2006-12-28 14:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm assuming he's not smoking weed. If he is using cocaine, meth, heroin, etc. I suggest a drug rehab. Of course, if he doesn't want to get clean that is of no use. In the long run the drugs will destroy his looks. How is he buying the drugs? If he won't work he will steal from you sooner or later to get the drugs. Remember to put your children lives before your own. Do they really need a dad that's not any kind of role model for them. My ex was hooked on cocaine. He started out good-looking and a good with the kids. He eventually stole from the kids, me, my family, and his family. He didn't have time for the children and turned out a cheater.He ended up spending many years in prison. My only regret is not having got rid of him sooner. Good luck to you.
2006-12-28 14:54:52 · answer #6 · answered by aj2822 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all looks only go so far. Second of all he is not a good parent because he is a drug addict and he is not showing your kids that you need to work in order to pay your bills. Tough love is what you need to do. You need to tell him he needs to get himself clean and after that start looking for a job if he refuses then seperate and show him you mean business. Sorry to say that he is not a good parent but he really isn't. He is showing his kids that when you have a problem solve it by taking drugs.
2006-12-28 17:22:32 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gorgeous and great with kids won't pay a bill, look good on a resume' or replenish the bank account he will soon go through because drugs cost alot of money.
Either try to have a one on one with him, an intervention and explain that you'll be there for him as long as he's trying to get his-self together.
P.S.
Drugs don't look good in front of children. Imagine what your husband is saying inadvertently to them.
2006-12-28 14:47:30 · answer #8 · answered by goodgrleason 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
somebody has to work. If he's on drugs, you can't trust him to babysit kids while you work, so you'll need daycare.He may be "gorgeous", but that don't pay the bills.(or at least not in your case, huh?) Maybe if he got out there and worked, he wouldn't have time for all the drugs. Is he a man, or is he a housebitch ?
2006-12-28 14:48:16 · answer #9 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Growing up in an environment with a substance abusesive and alcoholic father, all I longed for was either my father to get help or my mother to be strong enough to leave him- neither of which happened. Consequently, my sister and I underwent years of emotional, eventual physical abuse and neglect. I also grew a great resentment towards my parents who never seem to put us first- it pained me that my mother was too fearful to be alone that she stayed with a man who was wretched when off the wagon; and saddened me that my father consistently chose drugs and alcohol over his children. As much as you would like to believe your children are obvlious, they know- and it hurts them.
I whole-heartedly suggest you take a step back and look at the situation from afar, and ask yourself the following questions:
1. is this the best thing for your children?
2. is this the relationship you want?
...and if you answer yourself honestly, you know what you need to do.
Good luck.
2006-12-28 15:02:55 · answer #10 · answered by The MD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋