Should I respond to women who contact my husband on his myspace profile?

Question

Ok, I know that sounded bad, but my husband saw me looking up old school friends one night and asked me to look up his old friends. He recognized some old buddies, so I made him up a myspace profile and he actually designed it, and had me send friend invites to some old friends of his. He doesn't get on the internet very often, but when I check my myspace profile, I also check his for any friend invites or messages. I always tell him when someone contacts him and show him their profile. A couple of women have sent him messages, but they have been just normal friendly messages, like "Hi. Long time no see. You have a beautiful family. I am also married.....blah blah blah." Well, he got a friend invite from some woman, and he says he doesn't remember her, though she looks familiar. She is his age and lives in his hometowm. I tried to view her profile but it is set to private. He also got a message from some woman who actually graduated 2 years behind him.

I know that it sounds like I am just being jelous, but I set up this profile for my husbands old buddies to contact him, not old girlfriends or crushes to contact him. I hate to admit that I have considered contacting these women, as my husband of course, and seeing how they know him and what, if any, their intentions are.

I know my husband well enough to know that if it was me getting messages or friend invites from other men, my husband would be furious, even if it was just innocent conversation. I have just heard horror stories of people meeting and then hooking up with old flames online, and though I wouldn't ever want to think that my husband would stray, I know that other women have thought the same, and found out they were mistaken. I don't need some old girlfriend contacting him online.

Answer 1

I would ad something like

Happily married and NOT looking.

Or just respond saying WE got your email and you answer it. They will get the message.

Or just point blank tell them he is not interested if they don't get the hint.

Answer 2

Ur last part of ur question is what er'1 thinks about doing at first. So don't feel bad 4 thinking that. But if u act on it that would be different, jus trust ur hubby. If these girls were sending him sexual comments and saying unapproiate things then by all means let them know that u are his wife and don't appreciate it. It doesn't seem like they are doing nething bad, prolly jus trying 2 catch up and be nosy 2 find out what his life is like. Jus keep checking 2 see if they leave any other comments and if u are really upset about the situation, delete his account or put his profile 2 private becuz if u do that as u prolly kno, the only thing ne1 can see is the 1st pic on the page! Although it won't stop ppl from msging him it is better in my opinion.

Answer 3

So whats your problem with this? Sounds pretty harmless to me. If you have a problem with who contacts him you prolly shouldnt have set it up for him in the first place. Neither one of you can control who contacts him. Doesnt sound like he has anything to hide if he knows you check it. You said you have a profile too. Hasnt any guys invited you or contacted you? I wouldnt worry about it too much especially since hes not on the pc very often. I think you are overreacting on this one sweetie. And NO dont respond to these women. Any smart woman would set their profile to private to avoid unwanted contacts.

Answer 4

My space is simply an electronic gathering place. The two of you should have no secrets about who you see there. Old friends are not something to be worried about. You and your husband should have enough security in your relationship that these women mean no threat to either of you. Try not to take it so seriously. If it becomes a real problem ,just delete the profile!

Answer 5

Start trusting him. It takes alot especially knowing how loose women are now days but you married him. He chose you! Give him a little credit. If they are just friendly hello's what's the problem. You probably shouldn't have set him up with this myspace account......he had a life before you and this is an internet society.

Love him, trust him or leave him. No need to make your life or his worst with jealousy.


Take it from me!!

Answer 6

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Answer 7

If you trust him and you have an honest relationship then I think you should just keep your eyes on it. I know alot of married people on there and have no problems at all and then there are others that myspace has caused alot of trouble

Answer 8

ok, your the one who set up his account, what do you have to be jealous of? It's not like he is doing this behind your back. Doesnt your marriage have trust? Maybe they are just women who dated a friend of his or something. I say let him have them as friends.. If it should get out of line then say something but, for now it seems pretty harmless to me.

Answer 9

Do not worry, women like to stir the pot, (i do not think this is the case tho) what you want to do is high school stuff. Women IM my B/f all the time, and Men Im me also. no big deal as long as there is trust between ya'll.

Answer 10

I would contact them and let her know that he does not remember her. As for the other one, maybe it is someone that had a crush on him. I would contact her too and say hi, I'm his wife! See what happens.