my husband and I have been together for 6 years and married for 3, I am very uncomfortable with my body and un

Question

We have sex...but always in the dark...I am very uncomfortable with him walking in while I am in the bath or shower...and he don't help...he just gets mad and tells me that it's stupid cause we have been together for so long...help!

I'm not over weight.....I have had two kids, and alot of stretch marks, I am just uncomfortable because I look so different than I did when we first got together...I know he loves me, and he tells me he loves my body no matter what...but I am still not comfortable, I feel like he is staring at my flaws...which I have alot of. But it's me...and he don't understand why I feel this way.

Answer 1

I'm not crazy about my body all the time, but there's not much he hasn't seen. He knows what you look like and he's still around. So just loosen up..

Answer 2

My husband is very fit and toned, I am fat. I don't mean a little fat-I am FAT. I don't feel desirable, but he loves me just as I am and thinks I am sexy. I have had to get used to having a light on and having him walk into the bathroom while I am in the shower. I still am not comfortable with my body but I accept the fact that he sees me in a different view. I don't want to ruin a great marriage, so I have tried to change my view of my body. I try to remember that he loves me because he sees me in a different view.

Answer 3

You didn't say why you were so uncomfortable w/ your body. Are you overweight? Have you had children? Do you have stretch marks or something specific that makes you feel that way?
If so, there are things you can do about it. The answers are obvious. But I have a feeling that your insecurity comes from another place. Has he ever (even in the early relationship) said anything to you that made you feel bad about your body? Does he make comments about younger, hotter, more sexual women infront of you? If you can pinpoint something that he's said or done, talk to him about it. Maybe he didn't even realize that he made you feel bad.
In the end, you have to remember that he loves you. Think of his faults. Think of the thing that bothers him the most about himself and how she still lets you in and trusts you to see him. Think about how good that makes you feel. Work on it, and try to ultimately give him, and yourself, that same feeling of trust.
Good luck!

Answer 4

You need to understand that if he is still wanting to look at your body then he loves your body the way it is. It is all in your head and you need to look at yourself as a sexy woman with or without stretch marks. Nothing is worse to a man then a insecure woman. You need to start looking at yourself in the mirror and find things you like about yourself inside and out. Let him see you because we only live once. If you are not allowing him to see you then he might seek it elsewhere. Have fun with your husband he married you because he loves you.

Answer 5

i dont want to be harsh but um he married u this is the man u choose to spend the rest of your life with why dont u just try it one time like if u are in the shower just ask him to bring u a towel so he want notice what u r doing but work on it alone first or b4 u get stared when he come in the room already be undress but let him see u then tell him to turn off the light them maybe u will feel better later try different things

Answer 6

He knows what you feel like in the dark, and therefore he has some idea of what you look like in the light. He loves you very much and wants to be with you in the dark and in the light. Get him to take a shower or bath with you and enjoy life.

Answer 7

i used to think the same thing when i am around my husband. we too have been together for six years and been married for four months now and when i told him how i feel and he told me that he loves me just the way i am. he said he will always love me for better or worse and my weight is not the worse, i fell in love for what you have inside and not what is out. don't worry because you have someone who loves all of you.and love him just as hard. good luck.

Answer 8

I understand how you feel. I used to be the same way. But what it took was for me to look at myself in the mirror and realize that there is nothing wrong with me. There has to be something good about me, and about my body, or the man I love wouldn't be with me.
And he really likes my body. He likes to look at it, and to have sex with me. If there was something as wrong with me as I thought there was, and if there was something as wrong with you as you think there is, why would he want to be with you? He could have found another woman if he wasn't attracted to you, or he could refuse to have sex with you if he wasn't attracted to you. There must be something about you that he is attracted to, and he loves you or he wouldn't marry.
He is in no way being helpful. He needs to understand that a lot of women have this problem and help you through it, rather than get angry at you for it.
Tonight, before you go to bed, take off all your clothes and stand in front of the mirror. Look at yourself, and realize that the things you think are wrong with you is all in your mind. There is nothing wrong with you, and you are a good person. Buy yourself some lingere, take pictures of yourself. It just takes getting past this mental block and you can learn to love yourself.
My last suggestion is perhaps seeking professional help. Sometimes a psychiatrist can help you get past mental blocks you have about yourself. No matter if it's you hate your body or you hate who you are or you are unhappy, they have professional training in helping you through whatever problem you are having. There is no reason you have to live being unhappy with who you are. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 9

i dont know im the same way although i havent been with my bf that long but i think i could end up going that way. i get so self conscious about stuff which is probably how u are too. i guess we just have to let our guards down and try it and if they make fun of us then we punch them in the face and move on hehe.

Answer 10

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