If you are married, how long have you been married? Would you do it over again? Why or why not?

Question

Perhaps the person you married was not what you expected, but that was the best person for you....and you only realized this after 35 years of marriage.

Or, maybe you rushed into marriage and although you enjoy being married, once is enough...

Or it took long enough to figure out your spouse...that to do it all over again would be utterly exhausting! :-)

Or.....???

Answer 1

We've been married for almost 35 years and YES I'd do it all over again in a heart beat. Because of this union we have 2 sons we love dearly, have learned to cope through sickness, sadness, disappointment and joy, to respect each others feelings and thoughts, learned to share household chores inside and outside, learned how to have fun without spending lots of money, saving for retirement, choosing new vehicles, homes, etc together and enjoying the experience, and the list goes on. NO-it has not all been a picnic but has made us realize that marriage is a big step and it is something that in order to make it work we need to work together on it constantly.It is a wonderful feeling to wake up in the middle of the night. roll over and see the person you love so deeply sleeping peacefully next to you.

Answer 2

i was married for 2 years and would i do it again? Yes i would! We have been told that it takes alot to make a marriage works but we won't really understand that it until we are in one. That's why the first marriage sometimes do not work out because we do not know what we are getting into (although we think we know) and i guess it's easier to throw in the towel than to stay and work it through...
I know we can never be sure how a marriage works out but i would like to think that those of us who choose marriage did not plan to end up in a failed one but if it happens, then we just have to learn from that and move on, hoping that we do not commit the same mistakes again or at least know that it takes alot more effort and even more than loving someone to stay happily married. Maybe we expect our spouses to stay the same once we are married but the truth is we change as we grow both in terms of age and experiences and sometimes if we do not make room for the growth / change we ended up drifting apart and this is usually not realised and i think that's when people keep getting in and out of marriages or relationship. What if we consciously remember this and as a couple allow each other room to grow and to grow together...

Answer 3

I am married. I have been married for 10 years. together for 12, friends for 14. I would do it all over again in a heartbeat.. in fact we did- we renewed our vows this last January. We've been through it all- the very very good- having our daughter, buying our first home together, dozens of wonderful vacations; and the very very bad- he had an affair after being extremely depressed from the death of his father and we almost lost it all. But, we based our marriage on a solid foundation of friendship, and in the end, despite all the odds we had against us, the stress and outside factors could not tear our marriage apart. We built it right- we have always been supportive of each other, and except for his lack of morals when he was depressed, we have always communicated and been forthright and honest. Both of us have changed in our marriage, but both of us have accepted the changes in each other and been supportive. Marriage is hard work, but hard work well worth the end rewards. Those who say a lifetime is a long time to be with one person are ignorant and unevolved and have not the slightest clue about the "high" of the intimacy between husband and wife who truly do put the work into their marriage. If you both take your vows seriously, you will have a perfect marriage. I also must add that a perfect marriage is not where bad things don't happen, it's one in which bad things happen and you work them through.

Answer 4

I was married for 17 years. The first 12 were great and I don't really know what happened. I was scared to divorce but now I know it was the best decision. He is the father of my daughter and we all get along great. He has been married twice after me. I have not married again yet but may marry someone in a year or so as we are talking about it now. I am a little scared tho'. We shall see!

Answer 5

I have been married a year and a half. But we've been 2gether 3yrs. I am also a military wife which makes it harder becuz he gets deployed for 12mths at a time wit a 2wk break 2 come home. But I wouldn't change my life or nething in it. We've been thru so much and I truly love him wit er'thing in me. I don't think u ever kno what the future really holds but if we were 2 ever divorce, which of course I'm hoping we never go down that path. But I can't say if I would do it over, it jus depends on the circumstances asnd what is going on. I love my husband and hope 2 be wit him 4ever! :)

Answer 6

I have been married for 2 & 1/2 years. We've been together for 6 years. We've already been through rough days. And I know that one day life will be even harder. Sometimes I want to rip his head off (that is normal, right?!). But most days, we are wonderful together. I think he can push my buttons so much b/c I love him so much. If I didn't care about what he said or how he felt, I would not get upset so easily. We've had to learn how to deal with each other when we're mad. He's quiet and reserved. I'm loud and kinda in-your-face. I've calmed down. He's learned to communicate. I think you get out of a marriage what you put into it. If one of you quits trying, it can easily be over. If both of you quits trying, it is over.
I am so excited about living the rest of my life with the man that I love so passionately, I can hardly control myself around him sometimes. I know we'll be fine. Most of the time, anyhow.

Answer 7

My husband and I will be married ten years this July. We have four children the oldest 12 years old, so we have been together almost 13 years. We were very young when we first got together and although we have had our share of hardships, today I would say that I would do it all over again to be with him. We have survived infidelity (his),imprisonment (his),death of loved ones, and many other things. But, I feel that through all we have endured our love has grown deeper for one another. When I look at each of my boys I see a little of my husband in each of them. I feel that we were given these four gifts to keep our love for one another alive. And maybe sometimes love does endure all things. Our relationship can certainly be proof of that. And we still have the rest of our lives to go through.

Answer 8

I have been married for 4 years, after knowing my husband for only 6 months...It has been the best 4 years of my life. I have 2 great children, and the best man ever!

Answer 9

I am married to my second husband. He is the most wonderful man I have ever met and is the perfect man for me.

I was married to my first for 20 years before I found out that he was cheating with the wife of our neighbors. We had two children who were teenagers at the time.

After being single for 8 years (13 for my new husband) and having several relationships, I knew exactly what type of man I wanted. I knew what characteristics I could live with. My husband and I met and married within 3 months. We recognized that we were exactly what we had been searching for.

Answer 10

Going on 44 years. There have been ups and downs but our resolution of our differences have always strengthened the marriage. We have kids and now grandkids—it is really quite remarkable. The flash of infatuation has to be replaced with a solid base of a relationship where we watched one anothers backs and acted as a unit for the good of our growing family. At this point, I wouldn't trade it for anything in the movies.