5 kids 2 in college 2 in hs 1 in middle school. hes okay just have outgrown him and i will never find financial security cause he doesnt work enuf 2 help
2006-12-28 14:22:24 · 21 answers · asked by answers999 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been asking myself that same question for the past 2 years. I've been with my husband for 22 years, married 12 years. We have children 22, 19, 14. I believe if you are unhappy you shouldn't stay in a relationship, but sometimes its just not that easy. You owe it to yourself to be happy, this is your life and if you don't make the most out of it nobody will. Money really isn't everything, but love is. Do you love this man? If so, you should try at least once more to work it out. If you don't love this man, leave the relationship and be happy, the rest will just fall into place. Nothing worth having is easy!! I will lead by example. Good Luck & I wish you happiness!
2006-12-28 16:38:17 · answer #1 · answered by Stormy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you figured out how you are going to support all those kids on your own? Where will you find housing? Who will be there to help with the emotional and moral support of these kids. Take it from someone who has been there and knows (divorced after 25 year marriage kids about the same age) no matter how old the kids are, they still need a dad. Just because you don't need a husband any more doesn't mean your kids don't need a dad. From a biblical standpoint, unless there is adultery in the picture you don't have a valid reason for divorce.
2006-12-28 14:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by Sally B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the two of you fight in front of the kids? Do the kids know you are having trouble with the marriage? How will leaving him affect the kids? Think about these questions before you take any actions.
Does he try to help around the house? Does he still respect you? Does he still love you? Do you have any feelings at all for him? Think about these questions, too.
You and your husband need to sit down together for an uninterrupted talk. Be very calm and simply explain how you feel and what you see as your future. Let him have his time to express his own feelings. Then both of you decided whether it is worth it to try and work through these issues.
2006-12-28 14:33:02 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That will be your decision and your decision only, but think about your health and whatever futrue you will have in your current situation or on your own. My daughters actually told me when they were 9 and 11, listen dad if you leave mom we will not blame you, but we want to go with you. Well I got divorced, got full and sole custody and we have been fine for several years, and I am a healthier person and live life better than when I was in a hell hole. Bt whatever you do, do it for yourself and always let the children know you are there for them and will always love them no matter what.
2006-12-28 14:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not happy then do somthing about it.I left my X after 25 years of marriage and I am happy about the decission.I didn't have any kids to worry about(Thank god)but I am happier now it's been 2 years since the EXIT his crazy behind jumped up and married my first cousin.I told him that was low as you can go becuse he knew she was my family but I just dealt with it cause it's his loss my gain.Anyways if yoyur not happy find you somthing/somewhere else to go.If he dosen't work then if he is 18 it ain't ya problem is it?Let your other children know you love them and you will try to support them in any way you can but your not happy and your going to do somthing about it.They are old enough now to realize what's going on.
2006-12-28 14:39:21 · answer #5 · answered by gblue52 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no reason why anyone should stay in a marriage if they are not happy! I should know because my parents have been married for 36yrs and my mother has just told us that next month she is going to be leaving my father and asking for a divorce! I could not be more HAPPIER for her! Don't get me wrong i love both of my parents but i have seen in the past 10yrs how they have really drifted apart! There is nothing there and they fight all of the time. Its more like they are just roommates.
So i say get your DIVORCE and get on with your life! Life is to short to just wast it being all depress and unhappy.
2006-12-28 14:35:25 · answer #6 · answered by nickole30 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes, and I realize ideally we want to stay for the kids, but in the end the kids grow up and you will be left in the home with him. So if your really not happy and you have tried everything possible then maybe it is time to go. I mean if you told him he needs to contribute, and you have tried everything, then you deserve to be happy. Sometimes people just simply grow apart. Good luck.
2006-12-28 14:33:17 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have no financial security, and if it's unforfilling, than by all means get a divorce and move on so u can find Mr. perfect with lots of money.
2006-12-28 14:30:55 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your really are the only one who can answer this one. Marriage is a lot of ups and downs and sometimes one person is unhappy at that moment and the next it is the other persons time. Really think this over if there are more cons then pros then it is time to go.
2006-12-28 14:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this, you have been married for 25 years,
why? He doesn't work enough to help? Why 25 years with him? You need to think long and hard about this one, because there must have been something there or it
wouldn't have lasted that long.
2006-12-28 14:31:16 · answer #10 · answered by frustrated 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋