I am not lazy, I work, take care of 2 children may I add one is teething.............I do a lot but in his eyes I do nothing I believe he is seeing someone else he accuses me of doing so but ladies you know the old saying when they are accusing its thier consciuos
2006-12-28 14:19:10 · 19 answers · asked by Tasha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
usually when someone accuses us of cheating it is them. we can be the best, work hard, have good character and sometimes it means nothing at all, as if they are seeing someone new they soon look upon us as something they don't even want to be with anymore. we can't compete with the new toy he found. sometimes we need to just let it go, and let them go, and be free of a bad thing, as we never do know if they ever loved us anyway. if they are critical of u, and fault finding, and see no value in u anymore, there is a good chance they are already in a relationship with someone else, and its already way too late to change their minds. we just have to accept what life throws at us, and know their is a greater power than us, that is going to be there for us.
2006-12-28 14:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has this come out of the blue? Is your husband old fashioned or ignorant about the work it takes to care for children? What is the reason he has given for wanting a divorce? Is he not willing to go to counselling? If your gut says he is cheating, follow through with it and get some proof. Is he having a mid-life crisis? Has he recently had major trauma in his life? (death of a parent etc) These things make people not see life clearly and make bad decisions. If you have two kids together and he won't go to counselling, then you'll probably find you are better off without him, but what a difficult situation to be in. Take care of yourself and be strong- your children will need at least one strong role model since one is obviously falling down on the job. Marriage means "good times and bad" but so many people forget about the bad and that they committed to that too. :(
2006-12-28 14:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sad that he wants a divorce because he thinks you are lazy.He needs to be more supportive. I am also a stay at home mom of 2 kids (ages 2 and 3) and take care of 2 big dogs, my husband understands that when he comes home its only going to be half way cleaned, im going to be in a bad mood...and sometimes supper wont be ready! lol. But on a serious note, there is most likely something that is bothering him...and it has nothing to do with you. I would sit down and talk to him. If ya need anyone to talk to, email me. I know how it gets! good luck. I hope everything turns out ok! Just have a long talk with him!
2006-12-28 14:26:06 · answer #3 · answered by sunnysideup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is in the blame game.
My ex used to be guilty of whatever, and he had (he thought) the cleverest way of turning that situation around to where it was all my fault.~~~~~ I laughed at him.
What are his grounds for divorce ?
If you give him a divorce honey, you make sure that you get everything you are entitled to. Get yourself a good attorney. Men get wild hairs and their priorities get out of order and some of them, like you have, think they can be single again and do as they please. These are not men.
I walked away one day with my 2 year old daughter after many threats and never looked back. Shocked him and now he was ready to kiss my feet but I was fed up with him. I told myself, I would rather be single then constantly worrying and wondering about him. I wanted to be happy. What freedom that gave me.
You will read these answers, but bottom line will be your decision. You and only you & him know if this is workable.
Do not ever stay with an abuser, verbal or otherwise for the sake of the children. You are doing the children no favor.
"Good Luck and Try for a Happy New Year ",God Bless You !!!
2006-12-28 14:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
miss lady!!
You already know the answer....when they are accusing you they are the ones that's doing the playing... I was once married and was being accused of having this affair..nevertheless after the truth came out it was him.. and we aren't together anymore but several years later, he has apologized to me about the very same thing.. so what does that tell you.
I've got another one.. This might be a little different but I, dated this guy for seven years and we where to get married, but! he began to do crazy things like go back over to his mother house to stay... Well! after I did some investigation he was playing and ended up marrying this girl...and the same day of the wedding he had the limousine to drive him to my house and on the front porch.... he was apologizing about all the things he had done. I'm not telling you to divorce this man BUT!!!!!! READ THE BODY LANGUAGE..
2006-12-28 14:43:44 · answer #5 · answered by Nina T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he wants a divorce then he is already involved with someone else. Men do not walk out on a marriage without having someone to go to.
He wants a divorce so give him one. Be sure you contact a good lawyer who will get as much as possible for you and the two kids to be able to make it on your own.
2006-12-28 14:23:00 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its always about sex or money when your married and it seems like you cant get enough of one or the other. You have kids, so talk things out, set aside some time for the both of you without the kids and plan some talk / loving / relaxing time, sometimes its good to get away from the house a hotel, or somewhere others wont distract your time together. and No TV, relax and enjoy talking, when you both first met you both did a lot of talking I'm sure. think and talk positive. and have fun. good luck
2006-12-28 14:35:49 · answer #7 · answered by gmguy12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accusing you is a sign of his own guilt! Anyone who cheats accuses their partner because they cannot handle their feelings of doing wrong. It would be okay if you were doing it to. Protect yourself and your children and get advice from an attorney and secure your assets now!
2006-12-28 14:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by Flipp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and make him pay, but if you can find proof that he's cheating it would be even better in most states! One is...if he is YOU walk away with everything house money and all......and two....he'd have to pay child support...so catch him if you can and leave the loser! You seem to know what you want and seem to be doing everything....you and your babies deserve sooooo much better then that! Good luck and hope I have helped in some way!
2006-12-28 14:24:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time with cheating that's the story. He's just trying to find himself an excuse so it can be your fault,
and you feel like crap during the process. Don't take his
guilt ! Take care of your kids and yourself, the hell with him, if he wants out, he'll go anyway, just don't let him bring you down with him.
2006-12-28 14:55:13 · answer #10 · answered by frustrated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋