He promises he will go to drug hehab again, but we(mom and I) have heard that before. He yells and threatens our lives. Help!!! She needs opinions to stay strong. He now has his own travel trailer, but is saying he doesn't have the money to be on his own, but he is the only one working between the two of them. He makes between 4000 and 6500 dollars a months. Rent is only 350. He blows it as fast as he makes it and is late on multiple bills. Yet still is wanting her to take pity on him. She is a big sap with a big heart. Always thinking of what could be the healthest for him in the long run. Gentle support or tough love? But trying not to be killed in the proccess. He also has done time for drugs in the past. How reliable are his words?
2006-12-28 14:07:06 · 28 answers · asked by Daughter2001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is a drug addict. Druggies will tell you anything they have to to continue surviving. Put him out the door and never allow him back and prevent contact
2006-12-28 14:08:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey Neanderthal man, I am a stay at home dad and I can tell you have never spent any significant time at home with your kids. If people like you realized what actually transpires through out the day you would shut up and be happy to be at work. I am educated and have been on both sides of this fence. I can tell you that raising your kids is very rewarding but in my opinion harder than going to the office everyday. Of course the grass is always greener on the other side. Why not hire someone to clean or any of the other tasks you obviously think you are to good to do. I'm sure your wife didn't conceive immaculately so don't you think it might have been a good idea to discuss these issues ahead of time? Just my two thoughts but like you said"we do not live in the 50s anymore". Let your wife find a part time job. Wake up to reality. Enjoy your kids. Help anyway you can. Quit whining.
2016-03-28 23:05:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't believe this but I think I just gave your mom some advise earlier today. The travel trailer and meth it has to be. She left out the part about him threaten your lives but I had thought of that and told her to get new locks an the house and have a police officer there when you tell him to go. She also failed to mention that he was the only one with a job. I think that could be the only reason she lets him stay, but what is more important? I think YOU are the most important issue here. I think now that i know all the details, that I would tell her that you are going to stay at grandmas' house or where ever you know that you can stay. And that when she takes care of that problem and you are sure that it is for good you will CONSIDER coming back home. She also needs to get a job. I have to ask how old are you? You poor thing i do feel sorry for you. that is a very scary situation and i think you know it more than her since she didn't think that it was important to mention the threats. Since you seem to have more of a grip than she does you will have to take control. Get out of that house before something terrible happens. PLEASE.
2006-12-28 14:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it seems to me that you both should show a little compassion and help him. take control of the finances,get him into a drug program and work through this. no one deserves to be abandoned or cast away.drugs are powerful but love is the all dominant,caring and support, is whats needed here,understanding,help,support, is what will help. when a person is in a situation such as he is, a person says allot of hateful and mean things but he still loves both of you, of this i am sure and wouldn't`t follow through on any threats made he just is desperate to keep being loved and is crying out to be rescued from the drugs. LOVE HIM,HELP HIM, SUPPORT HIM.Don't give up on him,he still the man you both cared about and the reality is that only your love and support will bring him back because hes still in there. Give it a try everyone deserves to be saved from drugs not given to it.
2006-12-30 08:04:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In all my dealings with drug addicts only about 5 % of them have stayed off drugs after rehab. If your mom's husband is on meth, his life span want me more than 7 years at the most unless he gets off and stays off the stuff. It's sad but your Mom will be better off to get as far away from him as she can because his words are probably not worth two cents.
2006-12-28 14:17:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not reliable at all. If he is really that desperate, then he will go to rehab on his own and if he decides he wants to try and make it work he will be back AFTER he is clean and sober. Don't trust meth addicts. Lying becomes a way of life for them. Trust me, I know, because I am a recovering meth addict. He will not stay clean and sober unless he wants to, and him saying he will go to rehab shouldn't cut it. Words are just words. Help her stay strong and don't fall for his trap! He is about to hit rock bottom and if you help him now he will never come to his senses. You've got to let him hit his rock bottom before it will get better.
2006-12-28 14:10:56 · answer #6 · answered by while_love_remains 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your mom can't see the light at the end of the tunnel then she is in trouble.Love has nothing to do with it.Tell her to visit a womens abuse shelter it will change her mind QUICKBetter yet tell her to go to the police department and ask how many women there has been that there husband and or boyfriend has killed/mamed/etc them from drugs.If she can get away from him tell her to Get a way Fast as she can...Ask her to have him tested(anomsly)It's your mothers choice..
2006-12-28 14:13:47 · answer #7 · answered by gblue52 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want a legal answer call the police from a pay phone and ask what actions you can take to get him out of there. Once you make up your mind then you can decide if you want to pull the law in. I would suggest both of you leave and stay somewhere safe though.
2006-12-28 14:16:28 · answer #8 · answered by veronica c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the saying goes actions speak louder then words. He is a drug addict and he needs to seek help for himself. Your mom needs to stay strong and continue doing tough love.
2006-12-28 17:33:50 · answer #9 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen, his words are worthless. Illegal drugs like crack cocaine and meth turn people into liars and thieves. Some can ultimately be rehabilitated, but they generally need to go to jail first. A good friend of mine was lied to and thieved by a crack addict. He was finally kicked out after owing over $1,500 in rent and had cash stolen from him. I pray he goes to jail soon. Crack was more important than paying his child support too.
An addicts words are lies. Plain and simple. Give him a chance and see where it will get you.
2006-12-28 14:13:40 · answer #10 · answered by Fire Millen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello. My heart goes out to you and your Mom. I sure hope I can help. There was a man in my neighborhood that used to do crack. He lost his high paying job, his house, his wife and kids. He's since straightened out. But meth that is BAD stuff. My honest advice to you is to turn him into the police ASAP, because if they bust him and he's on your property chances are you'll be busted. Sometimes they need "tough love". You seem to have a good head on your shoulders and can help keep your Mom's sanity. Good luck to you, I hope I helped.
2006-12-28 14:12:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋