Is self-acceptance imperative in letting someone love you?

Answer 1

Well, I've always found that to be true. The whole world could love you, but everything (and I do mean EVERYTHING) begins and ends with you. If, say everyone you know thinks you're wonderful, but you don't believe it, in my experience, it'll make you feel good for a time, but it won't last if you don't truly believe it yourself. If you love yourself, love will find you in the right moment. So, in short answer format, yes, I believe it is. It's the most important thing to achieving true, lasting love, if not the only thing. I wish luck to whoever asked this question, because I am well aware of how hard it can be to love yourself.

Answer 2

I don't know if it's imperative but it's healthy. When you accept yourself and love yourself for who you are you become a happier person, you're not ashamed of yourself (be it physical or mental) you have more confidence, and this self acceptance will show in your every day life, it'll make it easier for other people to love you, cause you're not gloomy and miserable all the time.

Answer 3

In my opinion yes it is imperative. I have taught thousands of self-esteem classes and one of the hardest things is to get one to see that to love and accept ones self is not selfish but quite imperative. Answer me this, how can you love and care for those around you properly and have that returned properly if you don't love yourself first. If you don't love and accept yourself others around you are going to take cues from you on how to treat you.

Answer 4

i agree with the others you have to take a hard look and accept that you are a lovable person, if you don't feel worthy of love you can not accept it and self worth is being able to look at all of your faults and still love and accept yourself, if you don't you will have a hard time loving and allowing someone else to love you.

Answer 5

u got a frank Sinatra look: so pull up a bar stool and order a double, we gotta watch the girls for a while, say frank what is important to u about girls, do u like the ones that like u, or do u try to bring in the one u like and change her, there is allot to be said for understanding why we drank that first double shot so we could order another are u c'ing that there isn't time to build this pigeon hole for her to keep u in, i figure the fact that love is like throw stones in a glass house, one or the other of you;ll notices that the first stone will either breaks the glass house or be remembered as who caste the first stone so the isn't much use for things that are complicated and women like things solved their way because they make them complicated and guys only want woman to do one thing right so u could get sided track here, bar tender where where is my drink?

Answer 6

The more self-acceptance you have the more people love you, also you are capable of feeling that "love feeling" (human attachment) for fewer and fewer of them.
If you are talking about recieving someone elses love then yes, unless you accept yourself the way you are, even if they do you will not believe them,.,

Answer 7

I don't always think well of my self but others around me say I should feel good very much so I'm kind and loving and helpful whenever I can.
Yet i find it hard to let others love me (let them in)
I don't really understand why but I think all you guys are right

Answer 8

yes in a healthy relationship you have to love and respect yourself in order to allow someone else to love you. If you have low self esteem it can be very trying for the other person to try to make you happy.

Answer 9

No its not,but if you don't accept yourself for who you are,then you and the person loving you is not getting all they can out of the relationship.

Answer 10

I believe so...

Sometimes the simple act of someone loving you can help you accept yourself as well.