2006-12-28 14:01:25 · 15 answers · asked by New beginnings 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, after 8 years of marriage, I found out about an affair. We divorced, I was angry, hurt, but after a while, I began to forgive my husband for cheating on me with several women, it took me almost 2 years.
He devastated me, but I forgave him, we are now friends, we have 1 child, and I am on a friendly basis with his new wife.
Take your time, grieve, go through the healing process, then you must forgive him, for you. Do not dwell on the negatives things that happened in marriage, that will only add fuel to your bitterness, one day you will wake up, you won't be in love with him anymore, and you'll be able to move on with your life and be his friend.
Good luck!
2006-12-28 14:08:29 · answer #1 · answered by Lottalady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it can ever be too soon to become friends with an ex-husband. In fact, I think the ideal is to be friends with them even through the divorce. So I think 13 years is more than enough time to get over any grudges.
2006-12-28 22:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by miracle_happen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on your motives and his motives. My parents were separated after 29 years, divorced after 31 years. It became final about 6 months ago. They are friends now, but he lives about 3 hours away, so they aren't really good friends or anything, but when he is in town he takes her to dinner and stuff. Good luck!
2006-12-28 22:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by while_love_remains 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully, especially if kids are involved you can take the relationship back to a friendship level. Everyone feels that you have to be total enemies when you divorce. isn't so and the better you do get along the easier it is on the kids.
2006-12-28 22:07:38 · answer #4 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your ex and you are over him and he is over you, y'all can be friends immediately. My parents are the best of friends but are divorce. Have you or has he forgiven one another for the divorce, if not then having a friendship will be hard to have.
2006-12-28 22:04:11 · answer #5 · answered by nypig313 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 years is a long time. and it depends on why he is your ex ., but I think being with somebody that long and then going your seperate ways it should be cool to be friends.
2006-12-28 22:07:55 · answer #6 · answered by Tammy s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to be social and talk about kids, but the thought of being friends seems unnessessary
2006-12-28 22:05:29 · answer #7 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are/were children involved you should have tried to be friendly right away for their sake.
If there are no children then you have no holdings to be friends again ever.
2006-12-28 22:05:31 · answer #8 · answered by It's been a while........... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the relationship you had before the divorce or during the divorce
2006-12-28 22:40:59 · answer #9 · answered by ops1964 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sooner you can become friends the better, if both of you are willing.
2006-12-28 22:02:54 · answer #10 · answered by suzanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋