I just had a baby 15 days ago and I just had surgery yesterday on my gallbladder. I am exhausted taking care of a baby and now I am horribly in pain well because of the surgery and I have been up cleaning yesterday I started because no one else can do it for me My husband works 16 hours a day and six days a week so I don't expect him to clean yes he helps with the baby but not as much as I would like so I could get some sleep but I have asked and I don't think it is right I am putting so much stress on my body that it is wearing me out what can I do to make me feel more active?
2006-12-28 13:54:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
It is unhealthy for you and for your baby for you to get sick from exhaustion. Leave the chores as much as possible. Sleep when baby does. If you have family or close friends that you can depend on, then ask someone to hang out at your house and do some cleaning/baby caring while you take a sleep aid and get some rest. If that is not an option, check with your church, I guarentee there are little old ladies there who would LEAP at the idea. If you don't attend a church, try one anyway, many churches would welcome the opportunity to spread good will and possibly increase the fold. You may also check with the local hospital for new mother support groups, you may get the same help from them, however, I'd try the family/friend/little old church lady route first. Good luck, and please, don't let your health suffer, because your baby's health will too.
2006-12-28 14:42:16 · answer #1 · answered by flisagrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you recover from the surgery, start doing aerobics every day. The Step works wonders. Walmart sells them. Next to sporting goods. Usually on the top shelf.
Put it by your bed. 5-15 minutes when you wake up.
5-15 minutes before you go to sleep.
You will need less sleep, and sleep deeper when you are asleep.
I need only 5 hours of sleep a night.
My job is a 12-hour day job. I use to have the 16-hour a day job, too. 7 days a week. Now 5. It does get better in time.
2006-12-28 21:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that will really help you is REST!!! I know that is hard to do, but just having a baby alone is enough to exhaust you, but to add surgery on top of that BLESS YOUR HEART. I know your husband is prob. doing his best to provide for your growing family, but you are gonna have to have a little more help right now, if it isn't possible for him to work just a tad bit less, then how about a family member or a close friend?Even a small amount amount will really add up.
2006-12-28 22:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by leelee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the housework go to hell for a little while and rest your body and let it heal. One thing you learn when you have kids is that the mess is never-ending and it will be there when you get to it. You should sleep whenever your baby sleeps, until you're not tired anymore. If you could afford it, you might hire a doula or a baby nurse or someone to help with housework, just to get you through the first month or two.
2006-12-28 22:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by Judi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about the house right now!!! You need to focus on you and your little one. Use paper plates and maybe ask for some help. You should be sleeping when baby sleeps. If you don't rest you won't heal as quickly and you will be a tired and frazzled mess. There are more important things than a clean house..... like your sanity.
2006-12-28 22:00:38 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany Seymour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first rest
then take a time managment and meditation class.
or just reserch it on the web
coping.org may help with the time managment
maybe look for a locol good kid to help out after schools or hire a part time help for like 2 days out of the week to help you clean!
maybe ask your husband to take less hours at work at least untill the baby isn't so new!
best of luck to ya!
2006-12-28 21:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and stop cleaning! Are you a member of a local church? Do you have friends close by? If so, appeal to someone for some help with your responsibilities. If you don't have a church family or friends, ask a neighbor to help. You'd be surprised about the kindness of other people.
2006-12-28 22:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by RaeRae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any family that lives close by or friends? Don't feel guilty asking for help. Your body's just been through hell and back. Don't worry about cleaning. It'll be there when you feel better. Just take your time and relax, I know it's hard with a newborn. Don't try and overwhelm yourself.
2006-12-28 21:57:49 · answer #8 · answered by dmh2105 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband needs to work such long hours, it will be up to you to take care of yourself. Do what you can and get rest. Let the dust collect until you feel like doing more.
2006-12-28 21:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by Blue-rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sleep. seriously... get someone to watch the baby for like 12 hours (mom?) and take a couple tylenol pm's. THEY WILL WORK WONDERS! you will wake up refreshed and ready to go...
2006-12-28 21:58:15 · answer #10 · answered by Nikki W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋