She still has an amazing figure to me, and i love her no less then i did when we first meet. But over the last 8 or so months she has slowly put weight on, more so in the last month.... Well enough for me to realy begin to notice.
Befor you think im shallow, it not how i see her thats the problem, its her....
She feels realy uncomphertable with me holding or feeling certin areas (waistline, stomach, thighs) so much that shell knock my hand out of the way and give me dirty looks just for even trying to hold her like i use too. Ive told her time and time again that i am not bothered by it, but she's still the same.
And as i said befor she has put more weight on quicker in the last month which has made her even more stand-offish in those situations.
She is a member at out local gym...... But never goes. And when ever she has time away from work (thats not with me) she praticaly dose nothing to help herself.
I dont know what to say or do without hurting her? Help.
2006-12-28 13:54:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Well....
Shes not preggas, and we have talked about it. She will say that she is going to go to gym more oftern etc.ect. and i listen and try to help.
When i try to help she'll get anoyed and upset. e.g. I suggest going for a walk together, and she'll say im pressureing her. She wont let me go to gym with her.
And i tell her that i love her, and i always will see her as being beautiful... But nothing has helped.
Were quite a close couple and we have been together for nearly 3 years, but since she has had this issue with her body we havent been as close.
2006-12-28 14:14:24 · update #1
Kiara, she has always been moody, as in sometimes she will bite my head off for no reason at all.
But you could be right with the depression point. She has told me that she has allways been self consious she tends to only get down when she feels self consious though, she hates the fact that she dosent like me holding her in the special ways i use too... Its really difficult, hence why im asking for an outsiders view.
2006-12-28 14:46:46 · update #2
If it's a local gym for both men and women, suggest going with her to the gym sometime, but make it clear you love her no matter what. Or, I suppose that might be taken the wrong way. Talk to one of her best girl friends and ask them to talk to her about it. And see if they'll go to the gym with her, not in saying they need to lose weight, but just that you're very concerned about your girlfriend and don't want her to go into a state of depression or anything like that. Hope this helps! And just support her all the way!! :)
EDIT:
Sounds like she might be depressed, and if so, she needs to get treated before it gets worse. I suggest somehow getting her to go to the doctor. You'd rather have her hate you now for bringing her to the doctor than having her hate you for no reason when she's in major depression. I'm not saying this to be mean, I'm bringing this up because it's a possibility. Also, the depression could be the cause of the wieght gain.
2006-12-28 14:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by Kiara 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what's wrong i guess, but personally I wouldn't go straight to what you think the issue is first. Ask her what's bugging her, why you can't cuddle anymore. Things like that -- not "Are you having issues with your weight" That'll make things worse because then she'll begin to think that people around her noticing the weight gain.
It doesn't seem like a thyroid problem, more or less she's just not working out and metabolism is slowing down?
Talking about it is the best thing to do, but remember ask more about what's bothering her, not what's going on with her weight.
2006-12-28 22:00:49 · answer #2 · answered by Kipper to the CUP! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
without offending her maybe you two could go to the gym or maybe start walking to places or even when eat out eat healthy food
or just let her know that you still love her
good luck you and her seems to be good for each other
2006-12-28 21:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by juanita2_2000 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You honestly say nothing !!! There is no way you could say anything without hurting her feelings. Wait until she brings it up herself, love her enough to let her decide.
If you love her and accept her no matter what, then give
her time and be patient.
2006-12-28 22:02:28 · answer #4 · answered by frustrated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"You're always beatiful in my eyes, nothing can show or tell me different"
2006-12-28 21:57:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure she's not having your baby????
2006-12-28 22:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by cailieco 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋