I vote spouse. If the parents are loving and take care of one another, the children will reap the all of the benefits. I am not sure if it works the other way. What do you think?
2006-12-28 13:51:06 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Absolutely agree. The marital union has got to be the bedrock a family is based on. This rock solid relationship is what makes raising children the joy it should be instead of the hassle some complain about. Of course children are needy, and the younger they are the needier they are, but you are right on when you say the children will reap the benefits of loving parents who take care of one another. They will also have a good positive model to base their future relationships on also.
2006-12-28 14:48:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For the house to run properly the spouse comes before the children. Think about it, who came first the spouse or the kid, without the spouse you wouldn't have a kid. Take care of your spouse and they will take care of you and you Both can take care of the kids together.
2006-12-28 14:44:06 · answer #2 · answered by gmguy12 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When it is all said and done and the kids are grown and living on their won all that is left is you and your spouse, so the answer is quite easy your spouse comes first. With this in mind you have to make sacrifices for your children's needs and be sure not to neglect them! Love and understanding is important and so is trust and communication
2006-12-28 15:09:56 · answer #3 · answered by Scooter 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No No No! I believe the children always come first when it comes to any relationship. You should know that you'll always be there for eachother no matter what...but children are still growing and learning that! The children come first no matter what....us as adults can take care of ourselves when having to but some children cant do that! Look at it this way if you were in a car accident and you had the children with you...ofcourse without thinking...you'd try your best to help your children and make sure there safe....along the way you'd ask your spouse if they were ok, cuz if not you'd have to go back after you had the kids out ofthe way....then go back and get your spouse! Think about it!
2006-12-28 13:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
I agree - there are times the children need to come first - when ill - hurting or troubled - but otherwise, although it is an unpopular answer - it is healthier for the spouse to come first (after God) and the children a close second!
2006-12-28 14:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Spouse. My fav quotation: "The best gift a father can give his children, is to love their mother". Of course you love your children and protect them- but you have to take care of the "foundation" first- which is the marriage.
2006-12-29 00:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by skygirlchristine 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your children. You had time to be first in eachothers lifes before children and you will have time to be first after, but as a parent you choose to take responsibility to be there for that child to give them what they need to grow and become successful in their lifes. Example: Not enough food to go around. Do the parents eat that last slice of bread or do they give it to their child to make sure their belly is full. As parents you should be working together to make sure that the children has a safe, loving, nuturing home.
2006-12-28 14:24:20 · answer #7 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are right on. I spent my life hearing my father stand before the congregation of our church proclaiming the order of his life, first his love for God, then his spouse and then his children. No matter how many times I heard it, it gave me goose bumps and made me feel as if I was the most blessed and loved child on the face of the earth. My mother proclaimed the same order for her life. God, her husband and her children. The example my parents set for my sisters and I by their actions and feelings have paid off ten fold. But then I'm not surprised. When one follows God word he rewards them over and over.
2006-12-28 14:10:56 · answer #8 · answered by Sally B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I disagree because even though you outline an Ideal situation, life is rarely Ideal, in most cases you may be right, but too often I have seen children go by the wayside in favor of the spouse. however, if both parents put the kids first, EVERYTHING falls into place just fine
2006-12-28 14:09:05 · answer #9 · answered by fullmoonwolf4real 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Depends, if you think your spouse is not treating your kids right then it's a parents responsibility to protect their children!
I vote children! They need parents 100% Love!
2006-12-28 14:02:56 · answer #10 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋