I think one of the main reasons people are afraid to approach people they like is because they are scared of rejection...but what about rejection is so bad? I mean, when you think about it logically, why can't you just go up to someone, and if you are rejected, pick yourself up and move on?
why do we constantly worry about what people will think of us?
2006-12-28 13:50:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is a good question. I think the honest answer is that it hurts that hurt can show itself as anger, frustration, sadness and other negative emotions. The funny thing is people (adults) always like to say how babies fall and get back up again to parallel that to how we should get back up after a rejection/fall. Its a faulty comparison in some ways. Babies don't remember a lot of crap and there's may be 10 falls that happened before they get back up. For us as adults, the more you fall the less likely you want to try again. The more we get rejected (an feel those emotions) the more we are like, "screw it, i'm not doing that again." we tell are ourselves different reasons why. but the fear is strong BECAUSE THE PAIN is stronger :)
2006-12-28 13:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by Isabella O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's human nature to want to be accepted and part of a group. Being rejected keeps you from being part of that group. I mean, who wants to be the odd man out or the last one picked for the team. It's just nature, that simple.
2006-12-28 22:26:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
⥠because the more we think about it we scare ourselves out of it. we scare ourselves more than the actual feeling of rejection scares us. our brain starts making up things that "could" happen when you walk up to the person or tell them you like them. eventually we just think of all the negative things that could happen. and when we finally gain the power to go up to the person and we get rejected...we fall all to pieces because we thought we "knew" this is what would happen. â¥
2006-12-28 22:20:18 · answer #3 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not true for all people.
I had a cousin who was so confident,
rejection bounced off her like water off
a duck's down.
Homework was never a chore. She never
suffered with pimples, and eventually
married the banker's son.
Now, looking back, she never was one
of us.
2006-12-28 22:11:23 · answer #4 · answered by kyle.keyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
human nature,, society has molded us into thinking we have to all be barbie and ken, personally I cant fit in the damn car,, and the bed is too little to get down and funky on,, but I love the fact that Barbie does come with a dream house cuz I gotta alot of funkafied dreaming to do,,,
2006-12-28 21:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coz everyone expects himself/herself as the best and perfect person ever! (although nobody is) so, whenever a person gets rejected, it seems that they did not reach the expectations of other people..
2006-12-28 21:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by haYiel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do u think u are here asking this question are u not scared your self did u think about that? Maybe you should.
2006-12-28 21:56:58 · answer #7 · answered by julia1975 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we all need to be needed. It is a basic instinct to be needed because we are social beings
2006-12-28 22:02:18 · answer #8 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called insucurity.If your secure about yourself then that fear wouldn't be there.
2006-12-28 21:52:53 · answer #9 · answered by gblue52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋