I met my boyfriend in June and in July he told me that a one night stand of his (from April) was pregnant. I stayed with him because i believed i'd be ok with it. Him and the mother didn't always get along. The baby was born about 2 weeks ago and already i don't know if i can handle it. He is always at the baby's house and i get jealous if the mother since they are getting along now. He says she means nothing but he just wants to be with the baby not the mother. I am for some reason crazy jealous and worried that he'll end up loving the mother instead. What should i do? get over it and love him anyway? or decide it might not work?
2006-12-28 13:49:58 · 18 answers · asked by Jena B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Trust your instincts, I have been in this type of situation and you have to believe that he may not know what to do, but the baby has his heart and I dont think it was a one night stand, maybe it is starting to be more that is why he is there for the kid and the baby mamma, save yourself some peace and move on
2006-12-28 13:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. Q 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, yes he has baggage now n you have to decide to accept this or go separate ways. But if he wants you in his life he has to take your feelings into consideration in the long run. But its only been 2 wks and he is a new daddy. That baby is too little to take out and about so that is why he is visting at the house. I don't know how old you are but if you are young or old- its obvious you are not ready to share the limelight - and that limelight will have to be shared for the next 18 yrs at least and if he's a good father the rest of your lives. You think these 2 wks are hell just wait. The other lady is a permenant fixture cuz she is mother. My advice leave this relationship now because you are not ready for this.
2006-12-28 17:12:33 · answer #2 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard to deal with another women in your mans life. You are going have to talk to him and tell him how u are feeling. I am not sure how serious you guys are but if it is at the stage were you are going to live together - you need to be with him when he sees the baby. The baby is going to be part of your life also. Once the baby is a little older - he will need to start having the baby come to his house instead of being at her house to see the baby. You also need to remind your boyfriend that he needs to secure his legal rights to the baby, so that the mother can not get mad at him and not allow him to see the baby at all.
2006-12-28 14:02:22 · answer #3 · answered by pierronmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i so know what u are saying i have been there and look i am not with him girl i have been at his house and her call and i seen the way that they talked to each other and that i was like ok there is nothing there but in all realthy there was and that is just the way that they where does she know about u and have u meet her? i would just keep up a gard and tell that u are not want to be played for no fule and that u love him but you that things happen . why dont he ever get the baby? you have every right to be this away i think. but like i said i have been there in your place and you know he is now with that women and i have my own son but i know that u have some messed up things going thrue ur head we my name is megan and you can email me if u would like to at megryanmc@yahoo.com and ill tell how it all happend
2006-12-28 13:58:47 · answer #4 · answered by megryanmc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. On one hand you should have some respect for your boyfriend for being apart of the babies life. Hopefully in time you will be included in the visits. Is he there all the time, is he spending the night? Is he avoiding your calls while there? I think that these are things that you should look out for. If he is sincere in his intention to just be with the baby - then there should be nothing to hide.
2006-12-28 13:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey darl
Unfortanly there is not alot you can do. If you are worried about something developing between the mum and him maybe ask if you can go visit with him.
In your heart what do you think of your releshonship with this man. Also the novelty will wear off soon but it is hard. If you and this man are meant to be you will be fine just try not to be too jealous other wise he will begin to resent you.
2006-12-28 13:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by angelicrulz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's doing the right thing by being an involved daddy in his childs life. He sounds like a good daddy. I think your just worrying too much.
2006-12-28 14:32:54 · answer #7 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. Tell him that you are feeling ignored and see if it would be ok for you to go along. If you are going to be in his life and he is going to be in the babies life then so are you. If I was the mother I would want to meet my babys fathers girlfriend.
2006-12-28 13:52:47 · answer #8 · answered by mdoud01 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be patient with him . this is a new situation he's in and the baby isn't going anywhere.. but if it doesn't work out just give him your best and try to move on .. trust me someone better will come along..without the baby or mama blues.
2006-12-28 13:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by red 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think everything will work out between you. A ex if a ex for a reason, let them be happy because you can find someone better. i know how you feel because my boyfriend has kids by another girl and he does everything for her but turns around and says he doesnt like her!
2006-12-28 13:53:30 · answer #10 · answered by me_myself 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋