i got marriend 7 mths ago we dont live together he says he loves me but i feel like iam wasting my time with him bot he says will change will he
2006-12-28 13:47:32 · 11 answers · asked by monica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow! What a waste of 7 months! You don't say why you don't live together. If it is job related, then things can always be worked out when he returns. If it is by choice, then what does that say about your marriage if you choose to not live together?
2006-12-28 14:17:36 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got married 7 months ago and don't live together. You didn't explain why but in order to make a marriage you must live as a married couple. The words I love you are great. But love is shown by the things we do. A marriage is not something that turns on and off when you want it to. You have communicate with each other. Learn to understand each other. You even have to learn, and understand the way the other person thinks. Because we can't change anyone. So many sacrifices are made in a marriage. You can't do the things you need to do to make the marriage work if you both are not willing to live together as one. I can't tell you if you are wasting your time or not because I don't have the whole story but I can tell you that you need to be together now and then no more time will be wasted.
2006-12-28 22:05:22 · answer #2 · answered by relationcounseling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having problems and regrets at 7 months then you should just get out and move on. If you stay, you will never be completely happy and it will only be more difficult to leave. Take it from me----been married for 12 years and counting down the days til I might be able to be on my own.
2006-12-28 22:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by sarabear318 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you cant make someone change. they have to do it by there self. second why are you guys not living together? third of all you need to move on with you life. leave his ***. but for good. because if he really want to change he would be living with you right now. not putting you though this whole mess and making you feel like this. but that my advise. all i can say is follow your heart. but if i was in your shoes i wouldnt put up with that ****. good luck.
2006-12-28 22:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by Melda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't change unless you really want to. why aren't you living together? What kind of **** is that? file for divorce already.
2006-12-28 21:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by jlowe06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should have a heart to heart i wouldnt want to be a newlywed and not live together why is that ?
2006-12-28 22:01:29 · answer #6 · answered by BRIAN G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him how you feel and then tell him that you dont think that you should be together if he does not do anything about it
2006-12-28 21:58:28 · answer #7 · answered by thatonegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u seen him change is he working on it ,if he is stay with him if he isn't get a divorce
2006-12-28 22:01:51 · answer #8 · answered by j.j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why aren't you living together...well, in the first place why do you marry??????
2006-12-28 21:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by milkee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh yeah...big waste.
2006-12-28 22:11:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋