my exboyfriend and I share custody of our 12 year old daughter, she mostly lives at her fathers house because she attends school over there. i pick her up on the weekends and over the holidays, is it fair that i am the one always driving to pick her up and driving to drop her off, shouldnt he pick her up from my house sometimes. its about a 45 minute drive both ways
2006-12-28 13:25:56 · 18 answers · asked by GirlyWorld 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why not meet half way? Or see if he will switch with you on dropping her off and picking her up_
2006-12-28 13:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should try making a comprimise with him.
Either he pick her up, drop her off, or meet you half way. And it should be an all the time thing, you both love your daughter very much, and as long as your daughter wants to see the both of you, you both should be able to work something out so that both of you share the burden of transfering her back and forth.
2006-12-28 13:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by Rocker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he should. Since it is not joint custody, he has custody, you have visitation, then it might very well be that it is your responsibility to pick up and drop off. I think the parent with the custody of the child has the rights. You need to talk with him and see if he could help you out, make one of the trips. I sort of think he will not, if he has custody and our the one with visitation, that is usually the way it works.
2006-12-28 13:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it might be unfair, but you might as well continue dropping her off and picking her up if it will cause a fight or cause you both to get mad. However, if your relationship is not like that, just try talking to him and telling him you can't always be the one making the drive, and see if you can take turns.
2006-12-28 13:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by Tay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you should talk to him and have him come pick her up sometimes. Maybe you can take her there and he can bring her back. make it a 50/50 solution. Remember who your seeing and try to be civil when she's around. AND hopefully you and him can work something out
2006-12-28 13:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aren't you the one who is choosing to live 45 min away? Move closer if you don't want to drive. Don't have kids if you don't want the responsibility.
2006-12-28 13:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he should pick her up sometimes but you are actually showing more care about your daughter right now and kids remember who did what for them. no matter what, kids actually need their mother more. you are doing the right thing and being a responsible parent. don't stop and God bless you.
2006-12-28 13:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by sgtelk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitly take turns. Even if you have to go to court to do it. Maybe you can pick her up at the start and him pick her up at the end.
2006-12-28 13:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by Chicago Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should either pick her up or bring her back OR meet you halfway EVERY TIME!!!!!! It's a control thing, whether he admits it or not........Your time is not important to him and it gives him the upper hand. Contact your lawyer or call the judge
2006-12-28 13:28:07 · answer #9 · answered by Elizabeth L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont both of you have a talk and come to some aggrement
2006-12-28 14:17:38 · answer #10 · answered by slp9209 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋