For 2-years my home has been under invasion. 1st and then again she and her husband with the children and now my daughter when they separated.....and now she is being evicted...what do I do. I don't think I can take it anymore. My house is demolished and my privacy and finances have gone to h.....
2006-12-28 13:25:00 · 20 answers · asked by Blue-rose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She and she children lived with me for a year. I have advised, advised and advised. It was me who got her the help for housing. She did not pay the rent, the electric bill (which is in my name) and she worked 2 jobs. I have helped and helped until I see no end to it.
2006-12-28 13:42:14 · update #1
You are going to have to put your foot down..Your daughter can get help with a place to live, get food stamps and child support...Don't let her use you like that...You can still help her out with the kids if you want to some..but put you foot down......
2006-12-28 13:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks.
I would tell her that she can stay (what choice do you really have) but that she has to pay rent to YOU!
If you make it a bit more difficult to return, maybe she will stop doing so, but as long as mom provides a rent free pad, why would she leave. H E L L, I am tired of paying rent too. Is your basement available? Just kidding, but seriously, make her accountable financially IN WRITING and follow thru. If you feel guilty about doing that, you can put the money in a savings account and give it to her when she moves out (dont tell her in case she destroys something in your house and you need to use it)
GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-28 21:32:04 · answer #2 · answered by lisa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend used to have the same problem. They finally sat down and had a meeting with the children. Now her kids are moving out and on their own.
As parents, we have an obligation to our children regardless of their ages. If your daughter has no job; help her get her feet back on the ground. If you feel overwhelmed, then look into government assistance. There are housing project and other help available.
God bless.
2006-12-28 21:34:35 · answer #3 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, somehow you have given her the idea that you don't mind if she comes back home to live. Just tell her that you are sorry if she got the idea that it is OK to move back home but you never meant to give that impression. Tell her that you raised your family and now it is her turn to raise hers. Tell her that you can help her a little here and there with some baby shitting once in a while but that's about all. You have retired from Motherhood and now you are into being a Grandma and that means it's just part time.
2006-12-28 21:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by sunny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First thing to do is wait till they go out somewhere. While they are gone, paint the house a different color, change the numbers on the house, disconnect the phone, board up the windows and then sit tight until they get the idea that you no longer live there.
2006-12-28 21:35:54 · answer #5 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing. Only I welcomed them back to the family home which I have provided sinse my kids were babies. And now because of hard times one has returned with three out of seven of my grandchildren who now play in the same yard, bedrooms, and yes even the living room as they're parent did. Knowing love and the comforts of home life. Yes, it is hard on me because I am a poor man where money is concerned yet I am a happy man having them around me.
2006-12-28 23:43:39 · answer #6 · answered by bobby h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you have a job?! You need more money? If you do have a job but the pay is sucky, go get a new job! Doesn't your daughter have a job. No 4 member family can get buy with only one parent working these days don't cha know?
2006-12-28 21:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by minnimoose_04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen if she and her husband help pay cost for the house food u need to send them out even if they are your children advise them get a Job then a babysitter then a house!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-28 22:10:19 · answer #8 · answered by j.j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey now...I live with my parents and I have 2 children. I help clean, I do all the yard work, give my parents money each paycheck. I pick up my kids and drop them off at school...no one else helps me as far as that goes. So not all children are like that
I live with them because me ex husband does not give me childsupport he owes me over 80,000 and system is doing nothing about it_
2006-12-28 21:28:59 · answer #9 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to clearly spell out the boundaries. If they need a place to live, tell them the rules and how long they can stay. If you stop letting them walk all over you they will not enjoy living with you. Stand up for yourself. You don't deserve to have someone treating your home and YOU like this.
2006-12-28 21:38:06 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋