you remember that I asked awhile ago about a 70yr old married instructor that was ogling me sexually, I felt uncomfortable and sick I gave up the assignments and took the finals in the library? No I don't want him I'm 22 I want EDUCATION!
Ok well I'm really upset that when I went in to talk to him and explain what I did on the test,(I went in because three of my favorite female instructors were out in the building close to his office). Well in the end he called me stupid(well he said space cadet).
Ok I am not stupid. Ugh Just because I have to get help and try to understand accounting and forget how to do something does not mean I'm stupid! I have an IQ of 118!
Ok anyway Some people said to report him. I can do it anonymously so should I do it as soon as I get back to school? Suggestions?
Ugh I am so pissed off that I don't care if he loses everything!
2006-12-28 13:21:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Each college has a written grievance policy. I recommend you get your hands on it and read it thoroughly - and follow it. I do think it is worth talking to your advisor about the situation.
I am not sure being called a space cadet is grounds for a grievance, but if there is a history of problems with him ogling you, this definitely needs to be brought to the attention of the school. They will deal with it - they cannot afford not to because of liability issues these days.
I'm sorry this has been happening to you. I hope your college responds well and that you continue your education with much success.
2006-12-28 13:25:37 · answer #1 · answered by cottey girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely report it! However, you also need to cover your (well, you know) so keep a journal of dates and what was said. Also, let another staff member or even a counselor know rather than going straight to the dean. Perhaps they can advise you better. This is inappropriate and if you don't speak up then he'll do it to the next "space cadet" he thinks he comes in contact with. On the gentler, forgiving side, he may be completely in the dark that he's offended you (some people are like that, especially the types that are more scientific than social) so he may be willing to repent and apologize with a warning or confrontation. If you do confront him though, have someone there as a witness; don't do it behind closed doors. Furthermore, if you do confront him or report it, (you can even let someone know you've spoken to him so it's on record but that you're not actually reporting it) then don't put up with retribution or hazing from him. It solidifies it as sexual harassment if he does. Oh, and fyi, sexual harassment is defined based on the perception of an uncomfortable and/or hostile environment but you also do need to make at least one attempt to inform him that he's acting inappropriately. (I spent time in the military and they make sure to drive this point home to us on a yearly basis) I hope this helps!
God bless, don't let him bully you and don't believe what he says; everyone has strengths and weaknesses.
Kit
2006-12-28 21:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by Kit and Eric E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You needs to report him...maybe also if there are any other students that take his class you can trust, or another instructor, you can see if anyone else has had this same issue. you may not be the only one. Power in numbers, but have the confidence to do something either way ....thi9s man is behaving unprofessionally and i doubt any school would want that for their students who PAY to go to their school! Good Luck, and I'm sorry about how he has made you feel. Be strong!
2006-12-28 21:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes He may do this to other students could even be your friends definately Repoert Him asap And btw He's the one with a promb And you are Not stupid with an 118 IQ What he is doing to you could be a form of verbal abuse
2006-12-28 21:26:26 · answer #4 · answered by Leveler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you report anonymously it may be considered a prank, and not be investigated. Talk to some of the other students he has taught and see if others will be willing to come forward also. It definitely needs to be brought to someones attention.
2006-12-28 21:27:45 · answer #5 · answered by anita s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report him immediately, he will only continue to manipulate you if you let this go on. I know you don't want him, and many times people feel embarrassed when they have to report crime against them. What you don't realize is that you have nothing to be embarrassed about. There's nothing wrong with you, however, there is something wrong with him.
2006-12-28 21:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by disco lemonade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should because it sounds like this man (if thats what you want to call him) is harrassing you and you are just there to learn but if you are feeling uncomfortable with it and you dont want everyone to know report it anonymously and if you are comfortable talk to your dean and make it very clear to him/her what is going on i wish you all the luck and keep learning
2006-12-28 21:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♫§weetTart§amantha♫♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not to late. You should report him because he will continue to do it to other girls in the future. No one should get away with that type of behavior.
2006-12-28 21:44:59 · answer #8 · answered by H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would. His bosses should know about his behavior with students. Maybe you wont have been the only student and he will get fired.
2006-12-28 21:23:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have proof to back up anything you say.
2006-12-28 21:25:23 · answer #10 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋