Should parents trust their kids? Should parents let their kids drink? Should parents let their children date?

Question

when i say children or kids i mean 15 or 16 year olds (gr10-11 in school)

Answer 1

yes you should let your kids do all that stuff cos no matter what they are going to do it one day. its better let them do it around you. like let them have one drink when your out to dinner, so that when they're at a party in a few years where there is alcohol it doesent seem like such a big deal and they dont get all excited and drink so much it becomes dangerous. my parents have always let me drink, and date and i have never been in any trouble involving alcohol. my cousin on the other hand goes to an all girls school and her mum is sticked as! now she is 17, cant speak to boys cos she doesent associate with them, and she sneaks out and drinks all behing her mums back.

well !! im letting my kids drink

Answer 2

I am sure you have heard the phrase "trust is earned, not given" so I would say that if a kid was trust worthy they should be trusted.

As far as a parent letting a kid drink I think it sends the message to the kid that this illegal behavior is alright so my answer would be no. If a kid does sneak around and drink behind the parents back then there are some consequences for their actions ...one being that they would no longer be considered trustworthy. There could also be some legal ramification for both the kid and the parents if this behavior was allowed not to mention the physical dangers involved.

I let my kids date when they were 15 and 16 years old. But I knew who they were with and where they were going and when they were coming back .... and yes, I did follow-ups which I did not consider a "trust" issue, just as being a careful parent.

My oldest is now 25 and my youngest just turned 20 and all four of them seemed to have survived without too much trauma and none are raging alcoholics either.

Answer 3

It is always hard to be an only child or the firstborn child. Parents tend to be far too protective and with good reason. I think you need to try and sit down with your parents either alone or with a counsellor of some sort and set out some rules that would make this a possibility. When my sons were growing up we sat down as a family with a therapist to sort out the rules of what was acceptable and not acceptable in our house. In other words we set some boundaries and the kids and parents worked out the consequences. After that, we very rarely had any problems. Negotiate something acceptable to both sides, its that simple. Good luck.

Answer 4

#1-As the kids show their responsibility and accountability the trust level with parents will rise. I believe in holding kids accountability.

#2- no
#3-at 16 group dates, at 18 single dates. Why? Maturity levels and the ability to handle the challenging situations that dates often present. They must have their moral and ethical standards in place for themselves and not be swayed by an individual or crowd.

Answer 5

Should parents trust their kids? Until the kids give their parents reasons not to.
Should parents let their kids drink? No not at 15 or 16.

Should parents let their children date? I allowed my daughter to start dating at 16.

Answer 6

This is the most dangerous period in a girl or boy's life. The can get themselves completely spoiled by drinking, or dating with other gender persons and get spoiled for their life. So it is the duty of the parents to be watchful and correct and advise their children if they find anything wrong is happening. The kind of this age should not be given a free hand to do anything and they should be kept under vigil-

Answer 7

parents should always trust their children and children should have a good relationship with their parents and always tell the truth.
children shouldn't´t get drunk, but yes, they should be allowed to have some drinks in a responsible way.
teenagers should be allowed to date and also the parents should know which whom their children spend they spare time, where they are going and what kind of activities they do.
If teenagers have a boy or girlfriend, parents should know him / her and the family as well.
There should be an open conversation and a good relationship and understanding between parents and children

Answer 8

parents should let their children date. it gives them the opportunity to explore their personality and helps them mature. no, i don't think parents should let their children drink at all. we learn a lot from our parents, and they influence our decisions more than we let on ; ) so i think if the parents allow alcohol in the household, or even talk about the acceptability of being drunk, the child is more likely to drink-- that's going to be true whether or not the parents "allow" their children to drink. as for for trust, that is going to depend on the child. start with small things and work your way up. good luck!

Answer 9

I definitely don't think that parents should let their kids drink...If it is part of a cultural tradition--something European--such as sipping wine with meals etc...then fine--but for parents to encourage kids to indiscriminately drink--to have parties where drinking goes on, etc..is not a good thing- and it is technically against the law--As for dating --well--that is up to each family--each set of parents will ahve very different views about dating--whether to allow it or not and at what age it should be allowed--I don't think we can have any hard and fast rules--...

And of course, parents should trust their children--but this has nothing to do with drinking and/or dating--parents can trust their children and still not want them to drink or date--also trust is earned and not all children have earned the trust of their parents.--also I think parents want what is best for their children..they want to let them live happy lives and yes--want to protect them--children are lucky to have parents who would want to guide them...

Answer 10

I think the answer to your three questions depend on the relationship you have with your daughter, niece etc. When I was growing up my parents trusted me and I dated but I never drank til I was 17. I think 15 and 16 is a little young to allow them to drink though.