Ok you remember that I asked awhile ago about a 70yr old married instructor that was ogling me sexually, I felt uncomfortable and sick I gave up the assignments and took the finals in the library? No I don't want him I'm 22 I want EDUCATION!
Ok well I'm really upset that when I went in to talk to him and explain what I did on the test,(I went in because three of my favorite female instructors were out in the building close to his office). Well in the end he called me stupid(well he said space cadet).
Ok I am not stupid. Ugh Just because I have to get help and try to understand accounting and forget how to do something does not mean I'm stupid! I have an IQ of 118!
Ok anyway Some people said to report him. I can do it anonymously so should I do it as soon as I get back to school? Suggestions?
Ugh I am so pissed off that I don't care if he loses everything!
2006-12-28 13:15:59 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
He probably called you stupid because you refused his advances, I wonder how many more girls he has tried to ogle, he has a very unprofessional approach to his work and he does need reporting yes, maybe ask around to see if your the only one he has tried it with ?
2006-12-28 13:21:47 · answer #1 · answered by laughinggiraffe2003 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You say he that he ogled you. That is your opinion. Until you address him, then the school officials can't do anything. You can't be guilty of thinking of something, you have to act, threaten to act, or express it to the victim or a third party.
then he did not call you stupid, he called you a space cadet. While not flattering, it's not the same extreme. Can a professor not tell a student that he is not happy with her thought process?!?! while he may have had another or better way to express his disappointment with your progress, that is his job. In all fairness, you seem to now have a problem with him due to his perceived transgression. Just because you are an intelligent person, doesn't mean that you are not prone to make silly mistakes. he is the instructor and you are not. Keep in mind that by the end of the semester, he sees a lot of students and sees the same errors. It gets annoying after a while. Did he suddenly develop this personality or has he been this way all along?!?
What would you call some one who forgets to do a task repetitively?! What if that person got help and still continued to make the same mistake?! I don't know you or the teacher, but from your recounting of the events, I can only say that you might need to thicken your skin a little. Before you report the teacher talk to some of your fellow students. If he is a pervert, then your assessment won't be yours alone. At 70 years of age, he has to have shown this behavior before. IF he has then he needs to be reported. At the same time, he is due his day in court. He may have seen a bug in your hair or something. At the same time, he is a man and if you dressed provocatively, he might have just responded to it. What?!? the guys can notice you, but the teachers cannot?! They can act, but he can't, but he is still able to see.
2006-12-29 21:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by Neptune 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may not seem all that helpful, but really, an old man looking at you. You probably wouldn't be so offended if it was an intelligent good looking young professor, so this is all very subjective. Sure, maybe it's making you feel uncomfortable, but have you spoken to him about it? He may not know you've noticed, may not be meaning to look, or may not even be doing it at all. At the end of the day, just be glad you're good looking enough to get that kind of attention, and if you don't like it, wear clothes that don't expose anything.
As for calling you a "space cadet", so what? If that's the worst you've ever been called you're luckier than most.
You seem to be acting in an insecure / hysterical way about this. Take a few deep breaths, think slowly and sensibly about what's happened so far and the best way to deal with this issue.
It may be much easier than you think.
2006-12-29 07:26:40 · answer #3 · answered by Ed D 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I did not answer to the previous post, but I will reply to this one. Ogling is what you SAY. If you report him with out a witness to said ogling, then you could be labeled as stupid. Ogling is a very subjective area under law. Many work places have instituted such admonitionary rules, such as, " no one shall look up and down the body of a female employ in a sexual manner ". You do not need to be a law student to see that this has lead to no end of legal trouble for companies, In suits and counter suits, the courts are not anywhere near sorting non-touching harassment out. If you accuse your professor, tenured, or not, you had better have all your legal " ducks in a row ". This is the real world we deal with, so deal with the world in a realist manner.
PS an anonymous report has about as much weight as an anonymous witness in a court of law.
2006-12-28 23:20:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should not let anger cloud your better judgment.
The response should be equal to the action. If you think he was just looking at you, but he didn't touch anything or make propositions, you should tell him you noticed it and that it makes you uncomfortable. If he continues, report him. Contrarily, if he touched you or propositioned you, you should report him.
As for him calling you a "space cadet" - perhaps he is just frustrated that you have forgotten. Many students fail to realize how frustrating it can be for someone trying to teach them something only to find that they have failed. Maybe he thinks that is a part you should have remembered. This does not excuse him insulting you, but you should keep it in mind when YOU decide what to do as a result.
My suggestion is that you take a friend with you to talk to him, and explain your grievances. He wont mess with you if you have a buddy. Be as respectful as the situation calls for, but don't be afraid to say what's on your mind. Good luck.
2006-12-28 21:29:18 · answer #5 · answered by CAUTION:Truth may hurt! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would report him...IN WRITING...and have a copy for yourself. Chances are the school will back their own but if they recieve more complaints then something HAS to be done about that. Its sexual verbal AND emotional Harassment that is interfering with your education. This is an all too common problem with professors and people in higher position be it at school or work. We are afraid to report these things for fear of negative reprecussion but this is something that deserves more attention. Good luck to you. Dont let him get away with it, Tape a convo you have with him. It might not be admissable in court but its proof to the school board. If nothing works have another proffessor you trust go with you and confront him. At least you will get to see him squirm and the female professor will see right through him if he tries to deny your accusations.
2006-12-31 10:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by Kujo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on now, grow up. ogling is not a crime and it would be very difficult to prove your case, plus it is a thing you will encounter in the future, you have to learn to deal with it; throwing a tantrum is not it. you think he is a lecher, he thinks you are a cretin.... fair enough, you are just not meant to get on. you know you wont get the help you need from him, so find someone who will help you better; he might be a very good tutor to other students so reporting him wont help.
i know i am not very cheerful for you but such is life, and ogling / being rude / obnoxious is not a crime to report... you just have met one of the assholes of the world, definitely male, elderly and from the academic circle; in his own view, god walking the earth.... a prat.
2006-12-29 16:42:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report him immediately! If you don't get satisfaction from the person or persons you contact on this serious matter, continue contacting officials of your higher learning institution, until you get the answers and solutions you need.
2007-01-01 19:39:19 · answer #8 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of business school. Study something useful, help the world. Stay away from the sick and the greedy.
2006-12-28 23:33:10 · answer #9 · answered by Z 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should report him. It is NEVER ok to be treated the way he treated you. You are worth more than that! So report him. He's probably done this to other students
2007-01-01 13:04:50 · answer #10 · answered by blumooves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋